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At what ages does even the last shit sleeper have a good night?

45 replies

Thaleia · 26/01/2013 16:15

Hi,
We are only 9 months in but I feel that every night instead of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel is yet again the train crashing into it.

DC always woke lots but at the moment he is up for up to 2hrs just not settling. We are sooo exhausted.

As it's just a phase, I am wondering ... how long? 2 years? 3 years? Longer?

Brew Thali
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sannaville · 26/01/2013 16:26

Dd2 is 3.6 and still never sleeps through despite taking melatonin

cashmere · 26/01/2013 18:24

About 18 months I think- maybe a little sooner. Gradually got better rather than a sudden change.
Positives- new baby not such a shock as you def get used to managing on less sleep : )

PotteringAlong · 26/01/2013 18:26

My DS is 14 months and still does the awake for 2 hours thing, though now only on 4 nights out of 7... (He wakes and settles on
The other 3)

MissBeehivingUnderTheMistletoe · 26/01/2013 18:26

Both mine were rubbish sleepers until about 2.6.

OlyRoller · 26/01/2013 18:28

Mine till 4.

out2lunch · 26/01/2013 18:30

4here too -starting school did it

Kveta · 26/01/2013 18:30

3.3 here. But it's only been a few weeks, and he has form for having runs of OK nights followed by runs of atrocious hourly wakings, so not counting our chickens yet.

SignoraStronza · 26/01/2013 18:32

DC1 didn't sleep through properly until she was five. Sorry! She never had a room to herself until she was over 2.5 though (due to her father's extreme tightness and refusal to rent a two bed flat) so would imagine that had a lot to do with it.

Am not expecting a full night's sleep with dc2 (7 months) any time soon. Both of them did sleep right through until they reached about 4/5 months but with dc2 I knew better than to expect it to last.

Chandras · 26/01/2013 18:33

I heard that the can sleep through and into late morning hours when they hit teenage... Unfortunately by then you would do anything to wake them up in rime for school...

nextphase · 26/01/2013 18:37

We had the awake for 2 hrs (starting about 1am Hmm ) from about 8 mths to 15 or 16mths. Then things got better. Aged 2 wasn't great - DS2 arrived, and I got more sleep nursing a newborn than DH did looking after DS1. I'd say from about 2.6 he was OK - as in up once or twice, but only needed a kiss and tucking back in. Aged 3 he decided no nappy at night, and we had a couple of months of been woken to take him to the toilet (if he could find me, why couldn't he just find the loo???), and now, at 3.8 he nearly always goes through (til 5.30......)

Poss not what you wanted to hear - his little brother is a dream tho, so subsequent babies might sleep better!

TheCountessOlenska · 26/01/2013 21:10

I am interested in this too!

DD is much much better than she was but at 2.9 still wakes once to come into our bed! She got a lot better around 2 though - before then we had multiple wakings, up for hours in the night, and random 5am starts.

pixi2 · 26/01/2013 21:15

Oooooo, in our family we have a teenager who didn't start sleeping through until starting secondary and teenage attitude crept in. Even now he is up at 6am everyday.

MrsJohnDeere · 26/01/2013 21:22

Still waiting with ds2. He's 5 in Feb. He just doesn't need much sleep, and still wakes in the middle of the night wailing for no reason, falls out of bed, and wont sleep beyond 5am whatever we do to tire him out the day before!. Sorry.

TaggieCampbellBlack · 26/01/2013 21:26

DD2 was 6. She didn't wail though. Just get up and into our bed. It was ok. I was never going to argue at 3am.

funnypeculiar · 26/01/2013 21:36

Both of my bad sleepers slept through semi-consistently at 18 months. With ds I did things 'properly' (stroked him in his cot/resisted getting him up; didn't bring him into bed with us; tried to let him cry it out for a while etc) With dd, I just brought her into a bed, she snuggled down and fell asleep cuddling me and/or dh. The 18 months went a lot faster Wink
To be fair, she did still came into our bed occasionally until relatively recently (she's 6) but would just clamber in and snuggle down, so dh and I often woke up in the morning to discover an extra...

DerbyNottsLeicsNightNanny · 26/01/2013 21:40

My brother slept through at 9(years). My poor mum!

DoubleYew · 26/01/2013 21:54

Got better at 2yr as slept in longer chunks. 2.6 now and getting his last molars so it's pretty bad but I hope once we are through this he might sleep through sometime.

Devora · 26/01/2013 21:58

God, take it easy, everybody, OP will go and shoot herself.

Can't we smile sweetly and tell her some comforting lies?

OP, all I'll say is that I've been there and come out the other side and feel deeply sorry for you. It will get better, I promise!

ChristmasJubilee · 27/01/2013 15:52

Ds3 is 61/2 and still doesn't sleep well. Some nights are better than others.

Iggly · 27/01/2013 20:11

My ds was awful - until 12 months when he suddenly did 12 hours, got shit again then better at 18 months, then shit with molars then better from 2.

My youngest is a bit behind - so shit until recently but at 14 months improving.

I will point out there's a big regression at 9 months. Mental, physical development plus a change in body clocks (so napping at set times 2 times a day plus a good set bedtime works better) = dreadful sleep.

Have you ruled out food intolerances? A cause of sleep problems, poorly understood amd recognised but worth ruling out.

mawbroon · 27/01/2013 20:19

DS1 didn't reliably sleep through until he started school.

ds2 is almost 3 and wakes at least once most nights.

MrsSham · 27/01/2013 20:22

Dd also didnt sleep through untill starting school. Even then she would wake and get on the bottom of my bed with out me even noticing half the time.

AnathemaDevice · 27/01/2013 20:27

DS has slept through for 6 out of the last 8 nights. This is the best he's ever slept and he's 3.9.

To be fair, he does only wake up once a night now, which is an improvement. At 9 months he was still up every 3 hours.

LauraPashley · 27/01/2013 20:36

2.5 for dd1, moving to a big girls bed worked like magic. For about 3mths. Now aged 5 she still wakes up once most nights. Just stumbles through and falls asleep with me tho, so not drastic. Dd2 21mths is still a complete disaster zone!