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How do I stop this secret eating?

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dontcallmehon · 06/01/2013 20:54

I'm at the end of my tether. The dc have a healthy diet, not too strict as in they can have the odd treat. They get juice at nana's house or when we're out, otherwise we stick to water or milk.

However, 6 year old dd1 will binge on any sweet food she finds. She will climb on chairs to get to it and generously shares her cache with dd2 and ds. I usually find the evidence: wrappers etc, stashed away. We don't buy much sweet food and much of it has been bought by well meaning relatives. Not wanting to throw food away, I hide it, to be dished out in small quantities when appropriate. Dd1 always finds it and eats it all. She will binge on apples even, the 3 of them eat every single piece till they are gone. They are very sneaky about it and manage not to be caught somehow!

I am desperately worried, as dd1 and 2 now have dental cavities and ds has discoloration on his back teeth. I brush three times a day. They use a children's mouthwash. I have told and told dd1 that she will damage her teeth. All to no avail.

I have stopped buying apples. We bought a melon instead, so they can't gorge on it. They ate a full pack of strawberries I bought an hour ago. I promise you that they are supervised, but there are three of them and I can't be everywhere at once. I just don't know what to do. We contemplated locking the kitchen and fridge, but it would have to be a padlock or dd1 would figure it out.

I had bulimia in my teens, I'm worried dd1 will go the same way. I'm worried about their teeth. I don't have chocolates in the house, but I can't ban fruit!

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dontcallmehon · 07/01/2013 22:34

They would demolish a bowl of apples and oranges between them in a day. They just like fruit.

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ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 07/01/2013 22:40

Love - go to another dentist and get a second opinion. My friends 7 year old has terrible problems, she thought it was due to her diet - but the dentist has had a good look and told her that it was due to her teeth not forming properly in the womb (adult teeth are bad, baby teeth were beautiful). There's a name for it, but I can't remember. She's having treatment over the next few years while her adult teeth come through, but once they have treat them they should be fine for life. It could be a number of things, dentists can be quick to blame the parents for diet.

Also, do you know which foods are OK to brush straight after and which aren't? It's really bad to brush straight after eating some foods.

I think you are stressing enormously due to your background - and it's entirely understandable, but not helpful. The last thing you want to do, I'm sure is give any of your 3 eating issues.

Kids can eat feck all and stress parents, they can eat like garbage disposal units and stress parents!!

dontcallmehon · 07/01/2013 22:41

Dh weighs 13 stone. We give the dc portions not dissimilar to his. Dd2 ate so much on Christmas Day that she had a tummy ache and was sick ( not that we encourage that!) They can have savoury snacks whenever they want.

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dontcallmehon · 07/01/2013 22:43

Thanks chipping. I am stressing and I always swore my dc would not have dental problems. I always thought they were easily avoidable.

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3smellysocks · 07/01/2013 23:52

My boys eat loads of fruit and I have never thought anything of it. They whisk through my large fruit bowl over a matter of days. They eat balanced meals (plus seconds often) and then have fruit, veg, rice cakes, cheese and oatcakes in between. They are all skinny and active. I refuse to regularly dish out lots of processed sweet treats though as it's not balanced. Don't mind giving the odd treat such as dark chocolate - or if a friend randomly gives cake etc.

Agree with giving more protein and also try using cinnamon to sweeten. Try giving a healthy pudding? Greek yogurt with raspberries and honey drizzled on top. Apple rhubarb crumble.

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