I have had enough of my 2yr old ds behaviour - this is beyond tantrums

[colette]

This is the 2nd day running that ds has thrown an enormous tantrum and I have had to carry him home kicking and screaming. We have just been to the library and because I said we could not go out the fire exit door he started shouting and screaming. I calmly spoke to him and even sat him on the floor gently but he just got worse so I said we will have to go becuse you are being very naughty. He continued this all the way home and kicked and shouted , he is now sitting in the naughty spot and seems to have calmed down
He is so stubborn and stroppy that I really don't know what to do with him. I give him lots of praise when he does behave but his behaviour has been so bad this week that I would pay someone to sort him out if I could as I feel I am getting it all wrong......
It does not sound unusual for his age I know but he totally loses it over nothing lately. Yesterday in the park another boy was waiting for a turn and ds would not give him a go on the rocker type thing so after 5 mins I explained that he had had his turn and he threw such a big screaming wobbly , that we had to leave . DD had tantrums but was not on as short a fuse as this , communicated better and they were not every few hours.
I use the time out method when we are out but I have to physically hold him sitting and he is kicking and sometimes even spitting!! help ..

Thanks Jimjams - you are right about holding him in time out does not work , he is just getting too big and heavy to carry home when he is really bad ,but it is a beter alternative.
He spent a long time on my lap looking at thomas charecters so things were much better. I have so much more patience and can be so much more logical when they are in bed..

ha! I know that one!

collette i also have the tantrummy monster child from hell at the moment!! this week as been one long tantrum!! but i now have a living room window again! time out sometimes works but generally winds her up even more today the shouting hasnt been ear splitting as she has a croaky voice from all the screaming she has done this week but i agree with an earlier post food is often an answer if i think she is building up to one i give her a biscuit sometimes she throws it back at me but if i can get her to eat it sometimes tantrum is averted, dreading the summer as cant have my windows open in case anyone hears the yelling and thinks im mistreating her!

logic comes back after the half bottle of wine once she is asleep!

nulnulcat , i know the irony is you worry that it sounds to neighbours as if you are mistreating them it feels as if we are the ones being abused. Good luck

my neighbour was banging on the wall this afternoon!!! dd thought it was a game and started hitting a saucepan on the wall think i have now well and truly peed her off shes a miserable cow anyway - her answer to dd crying in the night was once dd had gone quiet to stand and set her smoke alarm off!! we were all awake anyway so dont know what she wanted to achieve anyway after this afternoon i am now expecting visit from the bad mother police!!

My DS2 is just like this atm (he was 3 on Tuesday) & I am also at the end of my tether.
I think it is pretty typical of this age group, but you do have my sympathies.

nulnulcat - I have every sympathy with you regarding meighbours. mIne (who are only about early 20s) complained about my ds crying when he was only 2 wks and teething! Can't wait until he's a little older when him and his big brother are shouting at each other and fighting. If she complains again, i'm just going to make a recording of him crying, then go out with the speakers up against her wall.

Mine has 4 hour tantrums every morning I feel your pain he cries so hard his nose bleeds. He headbutts the walls....

I feel your pain!!

(Fastasleep)