Baby screaming, I can't cope

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It is very very very difficult coping with a screaming baby.

how old and how long has it been going on for?

How old is baby? Can you leave him/her for five minutes and sit in the garden?

It's so hard.

Thanks for replying.

Almost 1. All evening.

dh is here but says I'm useless and he'll have to deal with him.

Have you been to the GP recently with the baby

If the baby's not in pain you can leave him/her for a few minutes. Put the baby in the cot with a cuddly toy, dummy, mobile-whatever he/she usually likes. Pull the door to, go and put the kettle on. Make and drink your tea in the sitting room. Breathe. Then go and have a cuddle with the baby again.

It is so, so hard. It does get better, I swear to God. Keep going.

no I haven't been to gp recently. I hope that he settles down soon, I have to get up for work at 4.45am

Do you drive? Could you take him out in the car to get him to sleep?

Thanks for the support. x

Ignore your DH's unsupportive comments for now.
do you know why baby is crying?
put kettle on

Is baby teething? I have a nearly 11 month old, she is teething and like a bear with a sore head, have you tried calpol? Belsen teething salts? Bonjela?Have you taken your babys temperature?

Big hugs,it's horrible.

Ignore your DH. You're not useless. You're knackered and have had screaming in your ear all evening. Have you ruled out things like teething pain, constipation etc?

And yes, your DH can 'deal' with the baby and give you a rest. And don't let him tell you that he's doing you any favours. He's doing his fair share, that's it.

Can you not just let husband deal with it?

Is baby screaming, are they in pain maybe?

Your DH is being a pillock, big cup of tea, biscuit, and breathe....

Agree with what's been said above about putting the baby down to have a rest. I've had to do it. And whilst I felt guilty, I needed the break!

Let your DH deal with him for ten minutes whilst you have a break. You are not useless at all, what an unhelpful and uncalled for comment.

screaming babies are such hard work and frustrating as you don't know what's wrong. Especially as you have to go to work so soon.

Why is he crying? Is he in pain / over tried / hungry / struggling with emotions?

Its very hard when they're screaming. Try and keep calm.

If there's even the slightest poss. of teething, get in there now with some calpol and/or teething powders/bonjela.

Give that a few mins, take baby for a walk around the house, try again with bedtime in 10 or 15 mins when she's quietened down.

I had this a few nights ago - angel baby (15mo) became screaming, angry mess. Calpol, a break from the bedtime scenario & I finally got her down.

give your dh a shuve no point being critical
is baby ill?too hot,teething?have you ruled out illness

Just gave him some calpol. He's not normally like this. dh thinks that he's just being stubborn. His crying causes me physical pain. I feel sick when he cries like this.

give me strength.your dp is a tit
babies arent manipulative or stubborn
ignore dp sort the baby

If he doesn't usually cry like this then something is wrong, trust your instincts and tell your DH to feck off don't listen to your DH!

Does he often scream like this? Are you (understandably) handling it badly because you've got to be up in a few hours and are probably already tired?

I remember having a night like this with my little man around the same age, when he was teething and OH was working the late shift. I took him out for a walk around the neighbourhood in the sling. The change of scenery and temperature helped both of us calm down.

Hope he settles for you soon x