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too many kisses?

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mollymaid · 09/03/2006 18:07

My dd is nearly 5, has just started school and seems to love boys! She really giggles around them and is always blowing them kisses and loves it if they kiss her. My dh is tearing his hair out as he thinks this is a precursor to her becoming a floozy(!) whilst I tend to think its just a natural phase at this age. Can anyone let me know if their dds are the same. Her best friend is the total opposite and seems obssessed with dogs and cats rather than boys! Is she too young to have such an interest? My dh shouted at her tonight and told her to stop kissing boys and she got really upset. I don't want it to become a big issue.

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WigWamBam · 09/03/2006 18:12

It's a phase ... dd is the same age and came home last week telling me that she and her friend were playing kiss-chase with two of the boys and that "Daniel is such a sloppy kisser, Mummy". This morning they were kissing each other again, and apparently dd is going to marry Daniel, have lots of babies and stay at home with them.

It's not a big issue, it's not sexual, and she's not going to turn into a floozie.

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mollymaid · 09/03/2006 18:40

Thanks WWB, anyone else?

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blueshoes · 09/03/2006 19:18

I don't have personal experience with my dd (2.5) but I certainly hear stories of girls being "kissy" with boys of 6-7+ age group.

Nightynight · 09/03/2006 19:30

I would strongly discourage my dd if she did this. How would you feel if older boys started to kiss her? Because if they see that anyone can kiss her and get away with it, that's what will happen.
The danger is not that it turns her into a floozie, but that she gets a reputation for being a floozie...the myth can then become reality in time.

MrsMaple · 09/03/2006 20:19

I agree with WigWamBam - it's a stage reception age children seem to go through. My two boys have been through reception (DD to go in September) and they both came back saying they played kiss chase and that the girls chased the boys! Girls seem much more interested in this kind of play, but it soon passes and before you know it she'll be telling you she ABSOLUTELY doesn't want any boys at her party etc etc etc.
Don't worry - she won't get a reputation, it's just a stage

Tipex · 09/03/2006 20:23

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mollymaid · 09/03/2006 20:44

She's not kissing older boys (in fact I'm not sure if she's actually kissing anyone!) but I know she blows lot of kisses and I know boys (in her class) have kissed her (which she finds extremely funny)....Its seems most of you (except nightynight) agree with me that its just a phase and my dh is just being over protective bless him..

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WigWamBam · 09/03/2006 20:48

If it's any consolation to your dh, in a few weeks time she'll probably be back to hating boys and thinking they're grubs again!

Making an issue of it will only make things worse - if she's anything like my dd she will go out of her way to keep doing anything that she thinks we don't like. Ignore it and it will go away. That's my theory, anyway.

crazydazy · 09/03/2006 20:57

I am sure its all done in fun and kids find this sort of thing hysterically funny. DD is 6 and has come home and told me that "so and so, goes out with so and so" or they have "dumped them".

DD herself hates boys though.

blueshoes · 09/03/2006 21:39

I don't have personal experience with my dd (2.5) but I certainly hear stories of girls being "kissy" with boys of 6-7+ age group.

puddingandpie · 09/03/2006 22:35

my d/d says so and so kisses boys and my daddy says i am the only boy she is to kiss!!! it is all part of growing up. Girls can be wee b.... at this age. Sometimes i so wished i had boys.

Nightynight · 10/03/2006 07:51

what a strange question Tipex, of course I am serious. This is definitely not just part of growing up.
Families have different habits and traditions, in both dx and my families, little girls (and little boys come to that) do not go around kissing boys/men. If your traditions are different, and you dont mind your dd being kissed then fine.

Twiglett · 10/03/2006 08:00

DS (5) and all his boy friends play kiss chase .. and wrestle kiss

of course its natural

your DH's issue is his own problem not your DD's and he will need to work on it

Twiglett · 10/03/2006 08:01

Nightynight .. I think you're totally wrong

ghosty · 10/03/2006 08:04

I think it must be a phase. My DD isn't at school yet but my DS is 6. Last year when he was 5 he told me that they played kiss chase every lunchtime ... but this year they only seem to be playing cops and robbers or Star Wars with the other boys - no girls allowed.

Nightynight · 10/03/2006 08:04

Twiglett, I think you're totally wrong too.

ghosty · 10/03/2006 08:06

And BTW ... I think it IS part of growing up. I remember playing kiss chase when I was about 6 - 7 ....

Twiglett · 10/03/2006 08:07

..and the world keeps turning

ghosty · 10/03/2006 08:08

And I am NOT a floozy

harpsichordcarrier · 10/03/2006 08:16

a floozy???? this is about as natural a phase as they get tell her dh to back off it is his behaviour that's inappropriate, shouting at her fgs she's five - what is he goin to be like when she's thirteen?? good lord that makes me cross.... she will grow out of it, then back into it in about seven/eight years time

harpsichordcarrier · 10/03/2006 08:17

your dh of course

Sponge · 10/03/2006 08:29

I can't believe that anyone would worry about a 4/5 year old getting a reputation as a floozy. Kissing is just affectionate or funny at that age.

BudaBabe · 10/03/2006 08:30

I remember doing it at about 6 or 7.

My DS is 4.5 and hates girls ans spent Sunday afternoon running away from girls who were trying to kiss him and his friends. All good wholesome fun!

It is just a stage.

Nightynight - it is just a peck on the cheek or something not a kiss on the lips! IN fact one girl caught my DS and kissed him on the arm - it was all she could reach! I can't imagine any 4/5/6 yr old getting a reputation for being a floozie - how ridiculous.

Mimsie · 10/03/2006 08:35

I'd say totally normal!! am on the other side of the fence... My DS (5) seems to have a lot of girlfriend (got himself 4 valentines day card) because he kisses the girls!!

I don't view it as wrong... I like kisses!! Hubby and I are quite cuddly kissy... It's not a bad behaviour to copy... better than shouting and pushing!

I know it can get a bit much but just because at that age they don't know much about moderation! that comes with age!

Radley · 10/03/2006 08:52

dd1 came home saying that all her class had been playing kiss chase yesterday and I just laughed telling her not to let anyone catch her as another tooth would fall out.

Its ridiculous thinking that they could become a floozy at the this age its a natural progression, it won't be long before she is with her girlfriends all the time thinking boys are the lowest of the low.

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