Everone keeps saying 'oh they don't all do things quickly' about 10mth old DD.

[OhTheConfusion]

DD is 10mths old and not yet rolling around, crawling, standing or trying to walk. She can roll but chooses not to.

She can sit with great ease and stretch to reach something without toppling over etc. I wasn't very worried about this but in the past few days I have had no less than five people comment on how 'she will get there' or 'oh they don't all do things quickly' etc..

What should I do?

Have you spoken to your HV? She/he would be my first port of call.

I can't remember much about that age but mine were both very slow to walk, 17 months-ish?

I'd talk to a professional but someone on here may be able to help too?

Enjoy her!
Babies who sit and play are very enjoyable. Babies who run and fall over and climb at 10 months are a nightmare. Believe me, I have tried both. I think it is as much personality as physical ability.

My DD2 is the same age and was exactly the same, until yesterday when she suddenly learnt to crawl!

Two of her peers that I have seen in the last couple of weeks are already cruising round the furniture, pulling themselves up. One even blows kisses! DD2 can clap (and is very pleased with herself for this).

What should you do? Give her a cuddle, she's lovely, and she'll do it in her own time.

DD didn't sit until after she could stand, and didn't crawl till she could walk. She did everything in the 'wrong' order, and confused the doc by rolling over before she was even 4mths. 'she shouldn't be doing that yet', was his comment.

As Views says, enjoy the peace cause once she is properly mobile you will be running after her.

Do nothing. Aside from ignoring the well meaning comments.

I think a lot of people forget when babies start to do things. My PILs insist that their first GC was using the potty at 8 mths

Aww Pookamoo your advice on what to do made me cry... god I need to get a grip!

She is lovely and I really wasn't worried until these people commented :(

DD loves to blow kisses, clap her hands, give you a 'high five' and blether away. She is a fantastic sleeper, eater and loves a giggle. However she is a tad slower with things that involve physical strength, she is also small for her age (16lbs).

I assumed that with DD being our DC3 I would be more clued up but they really are all so different.

My DS is 11 months and has only been crawling for a month

He didn't sit up until over 9 months.

It didn't occur to me to worry because like your DD, he wasn't floppy, just chose not to. He was strong and sturdy as you like, just didn't like being folded!

On the other hand I have had several comments from some, shall we say older ladies, about his weight. About how I shouldn't worry, he'll soon lose it when he starts moving around!

I have perfected a face.

DS2 could sit nicely at 6 months but didn't walk until 14 months. In the interim he did nothing else (large motor skills wise). He couldn't even roll until after he could walk and crawling came much later. He was however, very interested in standing up from day one which is how the walking happened. After feeding him I used to put him down on the floor. If he didn't sit then he ended up standing holding on to the chair. One day he just walked away!

I didn't see the HV more than a handful of times with DS2. She was no earthly use with DS1 so I couldn't see the point. DSis had a great HV so I'm not knocking them generically, just mine was struggling. So, the upshot was that, I didn't seek advice and just trusted that it would sort itself. It did.

10 months is very young. Be grateful for a happy sitting baby. DS1 climbed drystone walls at 8 months and walked at 11. It was much harder work!

I laughed at Charlotte's 'her sitting is great now'

A good thing to keep in mind - this is unlikely to feature in her interview when she applies for Uni:

'So, MsConfusion. When did you start crawling? Hmm, rather late that. And walking? Not till you were 14 mths? Well, I am terribly sorry, but we only accept truly gifted students. You could try the local polytechnic, their standards are not quite as high as ours'.

Love it EternalOptimist. DH is a lecturer, I shall have to tell him this new option for weeding out the gifted ones .

I think because DS and DD1 were both early walkers (10 and 11mths) everyone keeps comparing poor DD2 :(

MyDog, some people can be so rude! We get asked if DD eats enough . She eats like there is no tomorrow! Kids simply come in all shapes and sizes.

I haven't seen our HV for sometime and find her a bit useless tbh. I blame all these charts, scales, percentiles etc.

I suspect that DS walked and talked later than DD because he didn't need to do anything other than point and grunt, for DD to run and fetch whatever he wanted.

We moved when DD1 was 11 months old, I'm certain we never baby proofed that house beyond moving some cables she could roll over and pull.

By 14 months she could walk and before that climb on the dinning table and try and crawl over the edge.

Once they start moving they get the idea very quickly.

My dear confusion. Are you really worried or are the black cat stories getting to you. All the poster here have said each child is different. If you are really worried talk to HV. Enjoy your baby they are baby for such a short time. (sorry shopping for secondary school uniform tomorrow and just having a moment)

DD is 11 months old and has just learnt to walk. She didn't sit up unaided until 9 months though! DD is my DC3 too & each child has done things as different ages - not one of them has gone "by the book" as it were .

DS rolled at 8m, sat up at 9 months, crawled at 13 months, and was nearly 19 months before he walked. However, he is a very clever, chatty little boy (a walking encyclopaedia, was reading before 3 etc), so although I got pitying looks and comments as you describe, they kind of stopped when he started showing his other skills a bit more. Now at 5 he and his classmates can all walk and noone remembers who was last to do those things. I remember how stressful it seemed at the time though...

My son didn't crawl until he was 10 month and then after 2 week of crawling he started walking! I was very surprised. Don't be worried

OhTheConfusion - when they ask if she eats much just tell them that she will be the envy of all her friends when she grows up because she has a wonderful metabolism

How is her upper body strength in other ways? Can she pull herself up? If it's not great you could try rolling up a towel and lying her on her tummy with the towel under her chest with her arms over the top of it and put some toys in front of her, then you can add another towel behind it so that she's in an almost crawling position with support, to help build up her upper body strength.

I get so annoyed at people rudely saying things like that. My dd crawled and cruised very early and as a result she has no interest in walking at all (she is 11 1/2 months). I am so sick of the comments I am getting about her lack of walking. Firstly because she is still only 11 1/2 months, but also because I know that the reason she doesnt walk is because she has no interest in it, she can get where she needs to be without walking. I suspect your little one is the same, she is happy doing what she does, and will do all other things in her own time. Other people should learn not to be so rude x

What on earth possesses people to pass comment? This has always driven me crazy. As if we don't worry enough without other people adding more worries to us.

My 3 have all been slow movers. DD1 was the quickest and crawled at 10 months and walked at 13months. DD3 was the slowest and crawled at 11.5months and didn't walk till 16mths. She is 19mths now and running with the best of them. Just enjoy your little one and be glad she's not climbing and wobbling about. My dd3 is covered in bruises and not a day goes by where she doesn't fall off the couch, tv stand, trampoline, fireplace lol. Can you tell she's in at everything now!!!

I get this is all the time and it makes me so :( my dd is 18 months and not walking unaided yet. She cruises furniture and all sorts but just won't let go!!!

I think it's more frustrating for us than it is for them .. But they will all get there in the end :)

Thank you all so much, I was begining to think DD was really trailing behind.

Her upper body strength is good, she can easily fold herself in two to rach something and use her hands to return to a sitting position (iyswim). With regards to her eating... I would love to have her metabolism!

What I wouldn't give for other people to kust mind their own business... today's well meaning comment was ' she really does sleep a lot, are you sure she needs all that sleep?' YES, SHE IS A BABY!!! Arrrggghhh!!!

Oh god yes the sleeping comments and the eating comments!! People have a opinion on everything!!

I always get from the same people "is she walkin yet" grrrr does it look like it ??? Noooooooo

Your DD sounds like she's doing great! My DD is also a slow mover. She crawled just before turning 10mths, didn't cruise til she was 13mths & has only just started walking at 18.5months.

On the other hand shes a good talker & amazes me every day with the new words she learns & how quickly she picks up new skills.

They are all so different but they get there in the end.

Don't listen to people sticking their noses in, just enjoy your DD. I wish I could slow the time down as mine is turning into a toddler now - they are not babies for long! :-)

Starme how is your dd getting on? Mine has finally taken steps :) she trots off every now and then if u ask her too, but still uses crawling as away of getting round!