My 4yo said "oh sh*t" today... Does that make me a terrible mother?

[designerbaby]

It's my expletive of choice, I must admit.

I am naturally a bit sweary, but I try really hard not to. And I try not to swear in front of the children, and if I do, it's under my breath. But clearly too frequently, and not quietly enough though...

I was mortified. DD2 had just spilled tomato soup all over herself. DD1 said it before I had a chance to mutter it when going to fetch a cloth.

I told her that it was a bad word, that Mummy shouldn't say it, grown-up's generally shouldn't say it, and that children definitely shouldn't say it.

She said she wouldn't say it again. She definitely will though.

But now I blardy well have to make sure I don't...

Grab onto those judgey pants and get hoiking ladies. I'm prepared...

db
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just tell them they can fine you fifty pence if they hear you use it, as it really bad and you are trying to stop saying it,

Nothing like a child on swear watch, they enjoy being superior and not saying it.

don't worry no one can honestly judge you, they would be lying, if they said they hadn't sworn in front of a child,

even my very straight Quaker mother said "bugger" when she cracked her head on the corner of a cupboard door, it did bleed quite a lot(head ,not door), nobody I told believed me, as she just never swore.

When he was 2 DS came out with 'oh box, his version of 'oh bollocks, his mother's choice of expletive. We switched to his version in tribute.

No judging here, kids learn 'em quick enough anyway.

yes, you're a terrible mother. my 4yo DS has definitely never said 'twwwwwwWAT', or walked into the kitchen and said 'oh for god's sake, kids, what the bloody hell is going on in here?' in a brilliantly exasperated voice. I am clearly a shit mum. On the plus side, ds is clearly a gifted mimic.

I've got a mimic here too - "fucking babies" came out of (2 yr old) DD's mouth. Now, she can only have heard that choice use of words from one source:
her Dad
in our bedroom
in the middle of the night
whilst trying to settle our 4 month old twins.

She has super sonic hearing - we can't even swear when she's asleep!

Mine says "Oh GOD!" - or "Ohgodohgodohgodohgod". Always just when I would say it. She used to say "Sit! Sit!" when she dropped something or whatever "because that's what daddy says". Managed to train her out of that one.

Love "fucking babies!"

My son picks up words in the street so if anyone in a mile radius swears he will hear it and he will repeat!

He's currently a skirt lifting willy checker so I am a bad mother too.

my son once said 'those fucking birds mummy' and 'fucking seagull'.

as we are muslim, it really isn't a good idea taking a child who has picked up a bad word down to the local mosque..I think I lived in fear for quite a while he would come out with something..

anyway, he has never said it since, and if someone even says 'what the hell' or something a bit sweary-ish, he tells them 'we don't say words like that!'

they go through phases and this can be one of them depending on if they pick a bad word up off someone. Don't beat yourself up, just try never to swear in front of him or let anyone do it around him, and re-inforce that certain words are unnacceptable :)

my little cousin aged 3 got annoyed in Tescos with a pair of shoe laces and went 'fuck it!!! fuck it!!!' in front of a very bemused old lady. Happens to many of us..

I have trained myself to use replacement words,

but when I heard DD, say "toenails" in exasperation when she fell off her board, it sounded just as bad as swearing.

"ferret's pyjamas", can sound nasty said right.

Fishooks. Sugar. Flinking Blip.

DS2 (2) walked in our bedroom the other morning and said, "I've dropped my bloody cup mummy!" Dh was not impressed .

I try very hard not to swear now but I quite often hear him mutter bloody under his breath. I'm hoping if I ignore it he'll grow out of it .

When we moved the contents of our old lean to we're dumped in a unstable pile in our new shed.

They fell on my foot "Bugger" I stupidly say hopping out the shed.

Bugger,bugger, bugger" says toddler DD1.

The shed gained nice tidy shelves, the next day.

My ds1 says for fuck sake which is awful. I respond immediately with "dont say that word" and have ensured I now say for goodness sake.

Dropped my car keys the other day, I mutter for goodness sake and as it is so similar to the banned phrase ds1 told me off by telling me to not use that word he is 4

It certainly doesnt make you a bad mother, although it doesnt sound nice. My DS (age 6) got into BIG trouble at school recently for saying the f word. My ex quizzed him hard as to where he had picked it up and he said "oh mum". I do use bad language occasionally so thought fair cop. Ex is now being spiteful about it. DS later told me he had "remembered" it from ages ago and had no idea why he used it .
I had used it recently, upon opening an email from my solicitor and finding that my ex's solicitors are proposing to use estate agents to value family home at a cost of £2000 + VAT and I will be expected to pay half .

dd1's particular favourite is "for bloody's sake"; on being told not to say fucking, just because mummy does sometimes, she has substituted ducking.
she's 3.7

When my youngest Dbro was a toddler he announced 'oh no mummy, it's pissing down' whilst looking out the window.

My mother hung her head in shame and simply walked away. Sixteen years later I can still remember her blushes.

DS is 3 and the other day in Tesco's, as I was reaching for something, the little darling decided to yell 'FUCKING HELL' at the top of his voice

We have also been through a 'Dammit' phase (Thank you Grandad)

His word of choice at the minute is 'Fiddlesticks' (Thank you again Grandad) but it's not swearing so we have some sort of progress

If anybody does swear in front of him, he tells them to sit on the naughty step so he knows it's wrong, just doesn't think the rules apply to him

Love this thread

I always remember DS1 in the back of the car muttering "argh ya bastard" when someone cut us up while driving

Enjoying thread also. I'm very sweary (when provoked) but dd doesn't repeat any of it yet. Yet!!!

Oh, they grow out of it (usually quite quickly if it doesn't elicit much of a reaction). I once asked ds (who was, at the time, aged about 3) to tidy his stuff up. He looked at me, deadpan, and responded 'Go fuck yourself' . To this day, I have NO idea where he heard that particular choice phrase. I've never said it to dh, and he's never said it to me, so I can categorically say that it certainly wasn't at home. However, even though dh and I do let slip with the occasional 'fuck' in his earshot, these days his expletives are limited to 'by Jove' and 'by Toutatis', with the occasional 'oh how EXASPERATING!' thrown in.

I made the DC giggle recently by telling them the Fucking Gummibears story, although I did substitute 'bloody' for 'fucking'. They love hearing of the time that I swore at them, and then got so angry that I threw a banana out of the car without opening the window and got banana over the window and down the car door

Seriously, don't sweat it. When they are older, have a chat about swearing. We don't say 'bad words' as I think there are no bad words. There are inappropriate settings in which to use some words.

I rarely swear but this week ds and dd had spilt chocolate pudding in ds bedroom (which they had got out of the fridge themselves) i muttered for fuck's sake as I came downstairs and ds started chanting it! DH is not impressed with me.

I try not to swear but my husband is a submarine and when he comes back from deployment it is every other word. Until our Ds age 14 months came in the room and announced "no fucking fimbles" as the computer game she was play had crashed.. Needless to say he got it in the neck big time. Since then it's known as a Daddy word she is now 11 years old.

If you're a bad mum OP, then i'm even worse since my DS is only 19mo and said the exact same thing on Saturday evening. I had no idea i even said it very much, but since then i've notice i say it quite a lot (though now trying very hard not to). I never imagined my 19 mo child's first sentence would be "Oh shit!"