I am a regular, but have changed my name for this as I don't want to upset anyone in real life who might be reading this.
I have been having a dreadful time with my nearly 3 year old ds. He started playschool after Christmas, I got him in early because he has a speech delay. It really has helped with his speech, but he has started saying such upsetting, negative things that it is breaking my heart.
This morning I have heard
"Just can't do it, Mummy"
"It's my fault, Mummy"
"It's too heavy" (he means difficult - he applies 'heavy' universally)
"Need kiss and cuddle - it hurts!" (every 2.5 minutes today! he really isn't hurt, he is making up body parts to be kissed better, but I suspect he just means he is sad)
The "It's my fault" one I haven't heard before today, and after he had calmed down a bit, I asked him about it, and in a roundabout way he told me that X, the son of one of my friends, says it about himself. At least that's what I can gather from his speech, as his comprehension is way above his ability to articulate and he gets very upset about it.
Now, the friend whose son it is, is having problems at the minute with anxiety, and also with her bond with her son, but I won't judge her on it, I know she is trying her damnedest to be a good mother. BUT.
She can be quite negative herself. And what I suspect is happening is that she is being negative, her son is learning to behave like this, and my son is picking up on his behavior. TBH I find her little boy very bossy and overcritical when he comes on playdates, and it makes me wonder exactly what is going on at the playschool, which they both attend.
I honestly don't know what to do, my son loves his playschool, but can I send him there with the expectation that they keep him away from this child? I doubt it, but at the minute I feel like pulling him out of the playschool (you can tell he is my first) because of this negative attitude he seems to be learning. None of these phrases are ever used in this house, BTW.
anyone got any (tactful) ideas?
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Sudden negative behavior since playschool... tricky situation!
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SheMightBeReading · 02/03/2006 10:44
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