I am perhaps being ridiculous, but..

[NorthernGobshite]

My 7 year old dd refuses to wear dresses and I, in my infinite wisdom, have started to worry that this means that she wishes she was a boy and will end up having a sex change. I know I am being silly but I would like some reassurance that girls who refuse to wear dresses/skirts don't grow up to live their lives as a man!

I must add, if she did decided this was the way for her I would be her biggest cheerleader as I love her completely. Just saying!

WTAF?

What she said

I think you are making a bit of a huge jump there from doesn't like dresses into wants to be a man!!!
Loads of girls dont like dresses or it may even be a phase?

Magneto, I said I was being silly. Am I the only mother who has irrational moments? Fairly sure, after 7 years of being on here, that I can I'm not!

And me. If my mum put me in a skirt/dress as a child I used to take it off and run around in my knickers. Still do, hahaha.

Alphabeti, that's a lovely vision! dd hasn't stripped yet, but there's time!

My son likes to wear my bras.

Should I worry that he wants to be a woman or should I continue thinking that to him it 's just role play and that he's copying mummy.

Honestly don't worry. There's no rule saying that girls need to like wearing dresses.

I never did and still don't really but I still like to wear make-up & nice shoes with my jeans and tips.

Tips? Or even tops.

No, you're not the only one with irrational thoughts, but I think most of us would tell our brain to stop being so silly before we actually posted it online for the world to see!

Nice to hear about a girl who doesn't obsess about pink things and fairies tbh. Hooray for her!

I hated wearing dresses as a child and I still do nothing to do with not wanting to be female more to do with comfort and practicality. I'm just not a girly girl and never will be. Have 2 children though-that part of being female is really great so I really wouldn't worry. And yep of course you are allowed a moment of irrationality we all have them!

My younger sister spent her entire childhood claiming she wanted to be a boy
Her favourite outfit was a set of Dennis the menace boys boxer shorts that my dad had sewed up the opening of. She played girls football on a team of local girls several of whom came out in later years. I was sure she would turn out to be gay too but now she's 25, has long hair extensions, blingy nails, ginormous handbags and Is as girly as all get out. Kids are just funny like that! I wouldn't read anything into it.

Ah but the beauty of t'internet is that we can post our irrational thoughts without people actually know who we are and therefore it's less embarrassing!
I know it's sill, I know it's irrational but occasionally it pops into my head. SO shoot me!!

I agree, kids are funny and it is nice when I am reminded of that by other Mums! Most of my friends children are grown up so they've forgotten/blocked out what young children are like.

I can count the number of times I have worn a dress (except at school) on the fingers of one hand. I never thought I would grow up to be a man but I don't think I ever thought I would be a woman either. I have no desire for a sex change, I'm perfectly happy with my body, and my life I'm just not desperate to squeeze myself into the narrow box marked 'woman'

I wouldn't worry. As soon as I could express opinions, I refused skirts and dresses (if forced, ie bridesmaid there are pics of me with a right face on )
Your daughter will be who she is, my 15month DD expresses horror at pink, dresses and skirts (much to DH & I's parents). I say let them get on with it - some things aren't worth worrying about. FWIW, I'm 30 still hate dresses and can still climb a tree

No she is fine! Kids think for themselves way more than adults - they just do stuff as the mood takes them, without thinking 'oo everyone will think I'm like a boy / what will the neighbours think / what will people think' etc! If u think about it, saying a piece of clothing is better for a man than a woman (or vice versa) is completely illogical but we're all socialised into it.
Let her just do what she wants! It is great she knows how she want to express herself.

Btw one of my gay female friends said that on the inside I am the most masculine woman she's ever met & on the outside I'm the most feminine she's ever met, & she said it made her ok with not having to feel like she should be butch in appearance as a gay woman that still rates as one of the nicest compliments I ever received

I hated dresses when I was little (and still do). I still vividly remember the fights I had with my mum about it. BUT I never wanted to be a boy. ever. I just was a very, very cool girl

So she's a tomboy then? What's wrong with that?

I found my nieces had dressed my Ds up in pink clothes last time we visited, and he was eyeing up their princess dresses...he's only 2 but I'm keeping an open mind!

Oh dear. Well when I was her age I was the biggest tomboy. The only outfit I would wear was a bright yellow Jurassic park Tshirt and a pair of black cycling shorts. Soooo attractive.
I can assure you that now I'm 25 I love wearing dresses with heels and would do so all the time if it was practical with a baby
Kids are funny. Don't worry

Do you ever wear a dress or skirt? My dd is a tomboy too, and when I moaned about her never wanting to wear a dress someone pointed out that I never did so why would she?

Dollydowser, that is a very good point. Mid argument about school dress this morning she pointed out I only wear dresses for parties etc!

Yes it's funny isn't it, they do as we do, not as we say! Now my 2 are older I wear skirts and dresses all the time, but my dd still won't. She doesn't want to be noticed, and hates it when people compliment her. Mm, perhaps that's like me as well!

Northern, Have you asked her?

She'll know the reason why she doesn't want to wear dresses, I don't get why you post on here instead of asking your DD.

I very much doubt her answer will be 'because I want to be a man' do you?

(I think I need to go back to bed this morning and get up again out of the other side....I'm not feeling light hearted about this thread like I think I'm supposed too! )

I never wore dresses. My Mum tried to force me into a dress for my 8th birthday party. Fortunately, I had told all my friends to turn up in tracksuits so she had to let me change.

I still only wear dresses for black tie. And then I usually nick a Bowie off someone before the end of the night.

Resolutely female though and with one DS!

I always had to wear my brothers cast offs and was desperate to have skirts and dresses ribbons and sparkles but didn't have any of those. Dd who is 3.5 has no aversion to anything yet but her pjs must must be peppa ( blurgh) I hate wearing trousers as they don't suit my shape and unfortunately I have to wear them to work. Skirts and dresses can be a bit of a hinderence in play though and not helpful in protecting from scrapped knees