PLEASE HELP - desperate over new baby screaming in pushchair

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This is my first post in this forum - my first baby is three weeks and two days old, and I'm not able to leave the house and am going slightly mad as a result. He's generally a smiley, easygoing little creature, though very alert, big and strong for his age, but he simply screams and screams almost every time I try to take him anywhere in his pushchair. Not necessarily when he's first put in, though that too, but within a hundred yards or of leaving the flat.

It's a Bugaboo Bee, and he's reclined in a cocoon. Straps aren't too tight, he's well protected from the elements, it doesn't seem to matter whether the rain canopy is on or not to whether he screams. And it's not just grizzling, it's real hysterical distress - to the point where I cried today in the park, too, he was so distressed and sobbing so hard. I stayed out for almost an hour, intermittently taking him out to calm him, hoping he would get used to it, but we've been home for nearly two hours, and he's only just calm enough to doze off now.

Has anyone else a baby who did this, and what did you do? - any advice very welcome, as I feel like I'm going crazy from isolation, and it's a time when I really need to get out of the house even for a short period every day, now that my partner is back at work.

Thanks to anyone who can help.

Would he prefer to be in a sling? It might just be that he doesn't want to be so far from you.

My ds now 4 was like this I bought a fancy very expensive buggy system and would he go in it?! He would scream blue murder at the site of it. I bought a sling and he loved that, suddenly we could go everywhere no problem. Could be worth a try? Ds walked at 10 months and literally never used that buggy

I would just get a good sling and carry him too.

My baby was just the same as this, it's awful I had a cossato yo stroller that he screamed in, I think it was just too bumpy for him. He was slightly better when I got him a Quinny Buzz maybe because he was in the car seat facing me. It didnt really pass till he was around 5 months though unfortunately. I would try a sling maybe :)

Have you thought of trying a sling or baby carrier?Maybe he just wants to be close to you, he is only little. I used a beco carrier for most of the first year with DD, I found it really easy, might be worth a try.
Have a look at slingguide.co.uk for some info.

is it rear facing, so that he can see and hear you easily?

also IIRC newborns should be lying flat - does the pram lie flat? You say inclined, bit confused, sorry

He's not hungry is he?dd1 used to wait until leaving the house before displaying signs of starvation

My youngest is like this and she's nearly 2 years old now! We can bribe her to sit in the buggy now when necessary (with food!) but mostly she walks or goes in the sling. There's a sling section on here that you could look at. You might find that he's happier in the buggy once he's big enough to sit up and see out so you'd only be using a sling for the next few months.

he probably just wants to be near you.

my first loved the pushchair and was happy to be in it.
second HATED it and spent his first 6 months pretty much constantly inthe sling
my third was ok in it as long as he could see me, but also preferred the sling

we had a moby, which i can highly recommend! very comfy and could easily carry ds2 and ds3 round the shops for a few hours in it

Thanks, everyone. He is facing me, but presumably can't see that far yet...?

I do have a sling - a Close carrier, I think? - but I just don't feel that confident with it. It's difficult to get into without my partner around, and I'm not sure I'm using it right, as the baby feels insecurely held in it, and it doesn't seem to support his head properly - he feels as if he's leaning back too far...? Also, at just under ten pounds, he feels very heavy already!

Has anyone managed to 'cure' their baby of the pram screams?

Sorry, cross-posted with a few people - yes, he's fully reclined, and it's rear-facing, and I talk to him and lean in over him continually. Billy, no, he'd just been fed and changed today when I took him out.

dd2 was like this. just hated her buggy for the first few months. it was a real shock as dd1 loved being taken out for a buggy ride from day 1. we used a sling a lot, although from about 3-4 months she would tolerate 5 minutes in the buggy, then 10, and eventually (over a year later) would actually quite enjoy it.

do you have the sling tight enough?

the moby is a stretchy wrap, so not dissimilar to the close carrier, and my babies were all well over 9lb when born!
if you have the sling nice and tight you should find it more supportive and comfortable

Ds3 was the same. I carried him in a moby wrap.
From about 4 months he was ok in the pushchair.

Look up instructions for the sling - there may be some on YouTube - and practice!
I had a couple of hair-raising walks with Ds in the moby wrap until I actually made myself try it a few times following instructions. Once I had it right, Ds didn't feel too heavy at all.

If you're worried about the sling google 'sling library' and see if thwre's one near you xan go to - they'll be able to reassure you about the correct carry.

Also think sling is the way to go. DS was like this. He was 10lb at birth too and I had a csec so it was hard, but better than being housebound. You could go into mothercare ot John Lewis and ask them to let you try different ones until you find one you feel comfortable with. I had a Bjorn that was expensive but good. If you like a really expensive one I'm sure you'd be able to get it on Ebay.

My DS also screamed hysterically in his rear facing carseat. That was trickier to fix- went on until he developed enough object permanence to know I was still there.

DS never liked the pushchair as baby. He only like it when he faced forward (ie not rear facing). We used a sling for the first 6 months

Dd2 was like this - she's 9 months now & will go in it but it's a recent development!

My Moby was the only answer. I watched YouTube & practiced lots until it felt safe.

I had one like this & tried to only go out when he was asleep or likely to be.
If he wouldn't sleep, I would tend to think he was needing a mighty burp or some other physical need met.

I assume he is happy laying down anywhere else it's just the buggy he doesn't like laying down in?

Thanks, everyone for being so nice and supportive. You are all quite right, and I feel like an idiot for not realising it sooner - he's panicky because he can't see me and touch me and smell me, and I need to bite the bullet and use our sling - though it would help if the weather wasn't so wet and blustery. I will give the buggy a rest for a while until he's bigger and see whether I can make our current sling work. If not, will experiment with a Moby. And you're quite right, FirstLast, I forget how new and wee he is as regards everything - because I think of myself as the amateur, not him!

Keepmum - thanks. Don't make me cry. I'm a hormonal wreck, and am alternately thrilled and besotted with my gorgeous baby, and absolutely terrified at getting things (like this) wrong.

I had a close carrier too, and it is brilliant once you get the hang of it. I used it til ds was about 6 months so way over 10lbs.

You need it tight though - when you put it on pull it tight against you, like a tight t-shirt. Don't leave a space for the baby - the stretch of the fabric will make space for the baby.

Also, you need the baby high up in it, so you can kiss the top of his head. You can use one of the pieces of fabric that goes over your shoulder to support his head - just tuck his head under it.