Baby monitors. what age can you stop using them?

[Ticktock1]

Hi, I do not have any DC's so I don't know but I do have a DSD. She is 3.5 yrs old and is a good sleeper, I have know her 10 months and she has only ever woken up twice, both times when we had just moved house. I ask because the monitor causes me to not sleep, I can hear DSD snoring through the walls let alone through the monitor and last night it started flashing because the room dropped below 18 (DP put the heating back on after) this took ages to stop and by that time I had given up and gone and slept on the sofa. We have to have it with us at all times, even when we nip out the front door for a sneeky fag when she is in bed. The dissition is not mine to get rid of it I understand that but I could bring it up if I know you don't always need one for a 3.5 year old. If you do I will just carry on not sleeping well untill she is older. Many thanks

[ThisIsMummyPig]

Gosh, I don't think I've ever seen such a vitriolic thread from someone who is trying to do her best. I think it says more about all of your issues than it does of the OPs.

Personally I only ever use my monitor while I am downstairs - upstairs I can hear the kids just fine.

[Ticktock1]

ThisIsMummyPig and RubyRubyRuby thankfuly its only on mumsnet, in RL I never have to deal with this attitude. Its a shame I do not have more friends with children to ask advice from then I would not have to be chastised for asking a simple question on what I now realise is a delicate issuse.

[BsshBossh]

My DD is 3.5 and we still have the monitor. It's always on mute with the screen light off as we rarely need to use it. We've kept it because we can't hear her when we have dinner parties or are in the living room listening to music or watching TV. Even then we rarely use it. But when she's ill and prone to vomiting in semi-sleep we switch it on (only when we're downstairs) as she hardly ever calls out in these situations and never ever comes out her room to call for us. I also find it useful for those, thankfully rare, occasions when she messes about going to sleep and I can tell her to go to sleep through the monitor and not have to keep bounding up the stairs lazy arse that I am .

[VW81]

Ticktock1 I’m not sure you’re still on here or will see this but it sounds like you’re an excellent step mum and a great example to any child. You were open to advice, researched your issue and stayed calm and measured despite a handful of surprisingly nasty responses.

I've been awake for 2.5 hours because of my 18 month old son’s monitor. He still doesn’t consistently sleep through, and nor do we. I’ve begun to realise we must be contributing to it by not sleep training him.

Hadn’t even thought about turning off his monitor till a week ago. As of tomorrow night, I’m turning it off when we go to bed.