Do your kids irritate you

[Fairyloo]

Hi,

My 6 year old is very easily excited, screeches, shouts, giddy, doesn't do as she is told. She is ok when it's just us, but when others are there she is so giddy. My patience is non existinent I just think 'stop screaming' then hate myself for not being more patient.

She is worse when had sweets is that normal or could she be sugar sensitive. She makes me feel on edge all the time,

Sometimes I feel being a mum is too hard and I really want to be patient and loving but end up frazzled and irritated.

Completely with you. I find that I have less tolerance for my dc when I am tense, under pressure, or haven't had enough sleep. But I am in general far less tolerant of their natural behaviour than I ever expected I would be.

TBH, I think it's a symptom of depression. Or perhaps the depression is triggered by the inability to tolerate childish behaviour!

Yes, totally agree. My DD makes me feel on edge most of the time. She is sweet and lovely and kind and thoughtful, BUT, she literally does not (or cannot) stop talking. I'm not exaggerating when I say she talks from morning til night. I often tell her to please stop talking. She stops for maybe, 30 seconds, then starts again. It stresses me out, makes me feel anxious and tense and I have no idea what to do about it.

I frequently felt anxious when in the company of my kids when they were growing up..I dont have any advice as such, but I do know what you mean!

I have also had a running commentary since dd could talk.

Think it's just par for the course.

I just kind of go with it, otherwise we'd both be miserable, as i can be a shouty cow can be quite loud.

Your not alone.HTH.

Yes!
I love my boys more than anything else but hell do they annoy me. I feel like such a cow saying and thinking it, but they are hard work.
I too feel really guilty that I am not more patient with them, but the constant whinging and bickering make me want to put my head through a wall.
Ds1 (4yo) doesn't stop talking, which means ds2 (3yo) doesn't often get centre stage, which I think pisses him off so he makes the most awful noises to get noticed, I then end up shouting and sending him to his room until he can talk nicely etc and it just goes on and on.
I am so afraid that they will grow up miserable, but I really don't know what to do half the time.
They are perfect around other people (mostly) so everyone thinks I'm so lucy to have such well behaved, lovely children but I think, if only they knew.
Most nights I go to bed thinking tomorrow is a new day and I will be more understanding and won't shout, will spend more time playing with them etc, but it's hard.
Am definitely not mother of the year :-(

Oh my guys! Thanks do much I thought I was only one!!

Yes. They're smashing little things, at times. Most of the time they're very hard work, screechy and won't do as they're told for bribes, threats or begging.

Screechy noises and bickering drive me up the wall.

I always start the day in a positive mood and try to be supernanny, they've usually broken me within an hour.

Oh yes, me too. I have an extremely talkative dd and yes, she is kind, gentle and loving but sometimes I just can't get any headspace from the constant talking and it makes me snappy! She's 6 and ds is 3 and he has to be first and best and win absolutely EVERYTHING. I spend a lot of time trying to escape from them and feeling really irritated, then when they're in bed asleep or away I feel huge love and miss them. In fact I posted a thread about it a couple of weeks ago. I really do need time completely on my own to feel sane and rarely get it. And then I beat myself up with guilt that I have these feelings of irritation. Sigh. And I just KNOW that when they're grown and have left home etc I will regret my feelings at this stage hugely but can't seem to do anything about it now!!

Oh god yes! I have a constant talker too. I crave head space and time to think.

Oh, and forgot to say about them asking the same questions over and over again.
Ds1 puts his shoes on every day, most days more than once, but yet every single time, he has to say "this foot mummy?" aaarrrrggggghhhhhhh
Then he'll ask me why a certain toy isn't working and I'll tell him that it needs new batteries and he'll then straight away ask me again, and again, and again. So fecking annoying.

Convo that just took place with me and ds2 (3yo, nearly)
me: "can you go and get your shoes please?"
him: "can i take woody with me?"
me: "yes. go and get your shoes"

him: "can I take woody?"
me: "yes. put your shoes on please"
him: "can you do it"
me: "no, you can do it"
him: "can I take woody"
me:

silvery I know what you mean about always trying to escape them but feeling guilty when they're tucked up and the house is quiet again.

I've had some success with one-to-one days out with my dc's. They can be great fun if they don't have a sibling to battle with and we're doing something interesting. But when we're at home and have nursery / school / work / housework to deal with things are pretty stressful annd shouty.

DC3 talks my ears off or bothers everyone in pursuit of constant attention.
DC1 deliberately winds others up.
DD has the tongue of a wasp.
DC4 NAGS for England.

They all have their ways!!

Hell yes.

Yes, to feeling enormous love for them when they're not around, and feeling like I will definately be the best mummy once they're home (from school etc) but then the incessant talking starts and lovely mummy lasts about 10 seconds before trying to escape.

Thank god it's not just me, I feel so guilty about how I feel sometimes.

I wish somebody would invent a cure for incessant talking. That is definately the biggest problem for me. Instead of just getting on and doing whatever she's going to do, DD will first talk in minute detail about what she's going to do and how and why and when etc etc etc, whilst I'm patiently listening and inside my head screaming "Just fucking get on and do it!"

Fairlyloo, My DS1 is nearly 10 and still gets giddy and overexcited all the time (especially when watching Total Wipeout ). And he is incapable of sitting still! Yesterday, I was sitting next to him on the sofa trying to watch Strictly Xmas special, but he was constantly fidgeting, throwing legs over the arms of the sofa etc etc. Ok, probably not his favourite programme but it was driving me bonkers.

Yes DD gets totally over excited and very annoying when she has a friend over and DS cannot keep still. The keeping still doesn't bother me, apart from making me constantly asking DS if he needs the loo which I can see irritates him!

Frequently!

Glad I'm not the one!

What techniques do you employ? Ignore or scream

Well, for sure , once my twins grow up.. They'll be annoying. They're both girls and girls are talkative. So yeah.. My twins are only 3 weeks old (:

Fairyloo I try to ignore and stay calm, deal with it nicely, but I end up screaming, then we're all screaming and it never ends.
Something has to give.

Oh I am so glad I found this thread - I am a short tempered cow. My DD picks up on it when I am tense which doesnt help.
I NEED headspace. I get so crabby without it.

If I'm tired, tense, down or anxious I have very little patience. Today I was very tired and dh has food poisoning .... I'm really not at my nurturing best. I just want to sleep for a week.

Yes, I need my own space every single day. The DC's have been on xmas hols for a week now and I've had enough. Going to try and get out alone tomorrow, otherwise I'll explode.

DH seems to be able to tune out DD's incessant talking. How does he do it? I've asked him but he can't explain. Probably years of practise at tuning out his mother no doubt.

Mine are 6 and 3, and I so need a little break from them . They are beautiful but they argue like cat and dog and it's really wearing me down . DD 6 years old has picked up an 'attitude' and she doesn't listen , and can be very cheeky . DS 3 years constantly moans at the moment.
DH is working lates and nights so I'm solo parenting a lot of the time, and I am sooo tired from christmas .

Yes! Just about every day (possibly every hour!)