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irrational anger at H.V?

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Angeliz · 07/11/2003 12:17

hi, my dd had a two and half year check this morning and she did fine. Put the blocks up,said all the colours, counted to ten and chatted away. She said all was well obviously(though i already knew that!). Then she said as dd wasn't saying School, (she says cool) she would see her again in six months!!! I was i have to admit very peeved and asked if she considered this a problem and she said that it's the common letters not to pronounce s=f! Then she said that i could give her a ring instead! I know that this is trivial in the grand csheme if things but i feel so angry! My dd has had comments for at least a year on how articulate and advanced she is and i feel they look for problems where there are none and although i know she's covering her own back, i just can't beleive that was seen as a speech problem......! Does anyone agree

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Angeliz · 07/11/2003 23:29

the last three comments have confirmed what i already thought! It is so annoying to have a stranger "assess" your child and talk complete crap! My dp and i have worked with kids for years and he's a psychologist too and yet she knows best??>>>>>>>>>>>we think not!

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Bron · 08/11/2003 08:35

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ANNIE1 · 09/11/2003 23:19

Bron - What on earth do you mean the check was carried out by stealth?

bobthebaby · 09/11/2003 23:57

Suedonim - fantastic that a child can cut a HV down to size in 3 words!

jampot · 10/11/2003 00:00

My dh used to substitute "f" for "s" when he was little which was fine but his favourite sweets were smarties which obviously came out "farties". He can talk perfectly well now!
Agree with all those whose kids say things "differently" as endearing. Dd has never had a problem with any speech but ds has a list of mismatched words:

What really pigs me off are the teachers/assistants at school who insist on using "Where was you?, We was looking for you" type of errors with reception/year 1 children. Many a time I have had to bite my tongue to stop myself from correcting them in front of the children and I'm just a mum going in to help out!!

motherinferior · 10/11/2003 08:21

Always remember: ask your HV what the centile measurement actually means. Works quite well to wind them up.

Bron · 10/11/2003 09:56

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suedonim · 10/11/2003 09:57

It's not just HV's, Bobthebaby - she does it to me, as well!!

Bron · 10/11/2003 09:57

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Angeliz · 10/11/2003 13:06

oh Brom what a story! I think they're all a waste of time, i also think all they do is make parents paranoid and create problems where there are none! I have said to dp that there is no way she's seeing my dd again and if she does ring me in six months to check up on dd i will tell her that dd is speaking well as she always has done and the one word she picked up on is now perfect. (wether it is or not)They infuriate me and like you bron i can't think of them without getting angry! It sounds ridicolous and petty but after doing alot of research on vaccines, i rang up said h.v and asked her for the names and batch numbers of dd's vaccines and explained that she had not written them down in my book. Some small part of my brain wonders if it was a bit of revenge towards me. (i am not a manic mother and would admit to it if i thought there was ANYTHING wrong with dd's speech)

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motherinferior · 10/11/2003 13:53

I'm just not going to take dd2 again. Gets me too upset in pointless manner.

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