What time does your 12yo go to bed?

[cadelaide]

And what time do they go to sleep?.

DS goes to sleep sometime between 9 and 9.30, which I'm happy with. Any later than 9.30 is late, to me. His friends say they go to bed much later and I would take that with a pinch of salt but he's just opened a fb account (on the condition that I have full access) and I see his friends are posting at 10.30pm and even later. Are they doing it from their beds?

We only have one pc and it's in the sitting room, I'm beginning to think that's a very good thing.

We encourage DS to bed at 9ish, but sometimes it can be 10 or 10.30pm before he is asleep.
He needs to be up for school at 6.30am, so every few nights it catches up with him anyway and he will go to bed by 9 and be asleep quickly.

OK, so maybe I have unrealistic expectations? He's our pfb, you see.

He is an early riser though, up bouncy and cheerful at 6am, always has been.

I don't know about bedtimes, although my 8 yr old DSS goes to bed at 9pm on a weekend, 8.30pm on a school night but likelihood is that the Facebook postings are being done from smartphones.

DS aged 12 gets ready for bed at 9 having spent the last half hour preparing for the next day. He has to be in bed by half past. This is Sunday to Thursday nights only, weekends it's more like 10 to half past

DD12 is considering bed now 22.10. Never goes before 10, lights off by 11, up for school at 7, later at weekends.

She is not tired, will often have run for an hour in the evening or during the day and is doing well at school.

If she wants more sleep she will go to bed earlier

I have trouble getting him to sleep before 10-10:30, intend to have a crackdown on it, though, I'm sure he needs more sleep.

My 10yo is worse, though, she will stay up past 11 given any chance.

Both my ds (12) and dd (11) go to bed at 9, lights out at 9.30. Sometimes later at the weekend, depending on what we are up to, sleepovers etc.

Our TV and computer are in the main living room and they don't have phones. I have occasionally caught ds reading after he is supposed to be asleep, and sometimes they get up for endless pees and drinks but they are pretty good really. I think sleep is important, so I am quite vigilant about it.

dd (11) has lights out by 9 (except for Guides night). Its hit and miss whether she finds it easy to wake up at 7 so I think its about right for her.

I'm surprised, I really am, although I'm not suggesting it's wrong/bad that all of these 12yos go to bed at such late hours. I've been deluding myself, obviously, about what is a realistic bedtime for that age.

Not sure I'll let him know the results of my research just yet though

cadelaide, DS is nearly 12. He tends to take himself off to bed when he is ready, and generally reads in bed for a while, so we have stopped giving him a specific bedtime as such. He is usually in bed before 9, sometimes even by 7.30 if he is tired. Scouts night it is after 9.30, and similar after youth group which is on a Friday. If he has lots of homework he needs to unwind a bit before going to bed, but he seems quiter good at self regulating. Phone is not supposed to go upstairs, so he cant fiddle on the net when he is supposed to be sleeping.

11 yr old DD goes to bed between 9 and 9.30 and goes straight to sleep, 15 yr old DS goes up at about 10 and has a shower, then goes to bed. (just for a comparison, lol)

our nearly 12yo just got an increase from 8:30 to 9pm weekdays, 9:30 weekends.

I'd throttle my children if they were bouncing off my the walls at 6am.
7yo fell asleep about 9:30 last night & waking me up at 6:45am, that was bad enough. I'd just like to see the 10+12yo moving to similar sleep times as the 7yo, but no earlier!
When does he actually need to be up and doing? I'd move his lights-out time by that amount, OP.

Ds age 12 has to be upstairs and ready for bed around 9 and I expect lights out at 9.30. This is Sunday to Thursday.

Fri and Sat he is allowed to stay up with us and watch something on tv with us (provided there is something suitable) and we are quite happy for him to be with us until about 10pm.

I'm happy with his mornings, he gets up and does his homework and generally enjoys the peace and quiet. He's a good boy and I'm happy with our arrangements, but I did suggest his friends were fibbing about their bedtimes.

It would seem I'm probably wrong about that.

I can't imagine my DD going to bed at 9.00 or earlier. Sometimes we don't eat until after 8.00.
She is also allowed her phone with her and has a TV & computer in her room. Maybe I am a bad parent.

I think phones/TVs/laptops in the bedroom are a bad idea for anyone.

I'd never sleep at all if I had all that stuff to hand. I can imagine slipping into sleep , idle thought sidles across my consciousness ..."Oh, hang on, I'll just google that one".

I'm not being judgemental about others' bedtimes though.

It's been interesting.

I'd quite like them to go to bed now actually.

All of them.

Would that be unreasonable, d'you think?

upstairs at 9 and in theory no texting or ipoding once in bed and that goes for my 15 tear old too.

no. I have been known, very recently, to do a particularly impressive fishwife impression and send mine both to bed at 6.30 pm when they have been winding each other up non-stop for 3 hours and I have had enough!

Dd the oldest of my three is 12, officially her bedtime is 8.30 but most days it's 9. She reads for about half an hour. She does have a tv in her room, but can't pick up tv so it's only used to watch DVDs, which is only allowed on Friday and Saturdays. Friday night all three will stay up late watching a DVD in one of their bedrooms (not downstairs). Saturday it's about 10 ish. She thinks this is much earlier than her friends, but the fact she can sleep till lunchtime at the weekend tells me it's about right.

DS is 12 and is in bed by nine, lights out by half past. He is up just before seven for school. Phone in his schoolbag, downstairs.