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Ok Supernanny-Types... Question....

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FlameRobin · 19/12/2005 18:22

What do you do when the child starts opting for the naughty stairs rather than tidying etc???

Its hardly a punishment when they'd rather go there .

She's 2 1/2, more than capable of putting shoes away/clothes in wash etc. It was always a case of she'd sit on the stairs, then come back and do whatever it was. She now sits on the stairs for her allotted time... and then comes back, only to refuse, and go and sit herself back on the stairs. There is a limit to how many hours I'm prepared the play this game for!!!

Help!!!

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thecattleareALOHing · 20/12/2005 09:57

Oh and tidying up as a game, definitely.

MerlinsBeard · 20/12/2005 09:59

i missed this last night, sorry.

We had the same prob a while ago where J loves the naughty space (wierd children i have ) we have some smiley stickers which we really went over board sticking on him for every little thing that he did well. now we have a combination of the naughty space and the stickers (used in moderation now ) which works well-ish.

i find that the hardest thing to remember is that he is 2 and a half and that what they do!! we r having a nightmare at the mo but i think that that is partly due to me having other things on mind and not giving him my full attention.

Oh and we have(or had) big stickers for poo's in toilet

you could do 5 stickers gets a treat?10 stickers sometimes a long time coming lol!

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FlameRobin · 20/12/2005 10:47

We're doing creative stuff tomorrow (gotta paint a pile of mugs for Christmas presents ), so we'll make a sticker chart at the same time. Might buy a pack of hair pretties so that she can have a new something pretty when she has got enough stickers.

She's definately bright enough to understand exactly what I'm telling her (after being threatened with toy removal from her bedroom last night when she was about to start throwing them out of her room, we didn't have a single toy leave the room ), so she should be bright enough to understand that stickers for being good = prize.

I'd been going with the theory of her not being old enough for understanding it properly yet, but I've suddenly realised that she's brighter than I give her credit for .

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tracyk · 20/12/2005 12:21

I'm the same Flamerobin - I always excuse my ds thinking he's a little baby - but I'm cottoning on to him now. I said this morning 'We can do this the nice way or the not nice way'(getting dressed after chasing him round the bedrooms). and he came and lay on the bed for me!! It may have been a fluke tho!

Bozza · 20/12/2005 12:33

TBH I think at 2 1/2 the sticker itself is probably enough of a reward. They really seem to love them at that age - a sticker to go on her jumper when she gets dressed. "look daddy/grandma etc what DD got because she got dressed so well this morning. Isn't that great". Cue - big grin and a bit of preening from DD.

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FlameRobin · 20/12/2005 15:53

We've sat and had a chat... I told her that for every time she does what mummy asks without mummy having to count to 3 (generally mummy has to count to three when DD is being stubborn), she will get a sticker. (She'll also get a sticker for just general loveliness, but I'm not telling her about that - it can be a nice surprise when she's been sweet). We went to the shops and found some stickers - "fifi" ones (flowery smiles), and some mickey mouse ones. For 4 flowers, she gets a Mickey (her fave), and for 2 Mickeys we get a pretty for her hair.

She seems to like the idea of sticking them on the chart because she gets quite miffed when we have to throw out stickers normally.

Dunno how well it will work, or again, if she's too young, but its worth a try!!!

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FlameRobin · 20/12/2005 15:53

She seems to like the idea of sticking them on the chart because she gets quite miffed when we have to throw out stickers normally.

Dunno how well it will work, or again, if she's too young, but its worth a try!!!

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Bozza · 20/12/2005 15:55

Sounds great. I'd forgotten about it but yes DS used to go through a performance of transferring stickers from his day clothes to his pjs and back again with much angst. And came home from nursery once with a sticker stuck on with sellotape.

goldenoldie · 20/12/2005 16:14

Blimey - I can't even get my 10 year old to tidy room/put clothes in wash/ put shoes away.................

lewislewis · 20/12/2005 17:49

I am following this thread with interest, let us know how you get on. Good luck.

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FlameRobin · 21/12/2005 08:43

The first sticker caused a few issues - she a) wanted a mickey one... and b) wanted it stuck to the dining room window. She then got all excited about her chart when Daddy came home, and I pointed out to her that she had no sticker on it to show him how good she'd been.... so she ran off, found her sticker, and stuck it back on .

She then got another sticker from Daddy later, and she was just really excited to stick it on the chart.

We now have the fun of trying to get through today without her needing a sticker for everything she does .

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Bozza · 21/12/2005 08:56

That sounds like a good start to me. She's only two - you can't expect her to get it straight away and at least she's enthusiastic.

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FlameRobin · 22/12/2005 22:34

Thought I'd give you an update... yesterday didn't go too well sticker-wise (didn't manage to get any, through generally being a stroppy little lady!), and even ended up with a bonus new punishment (she spat at me)... but all was well in the end, she did nice things to make up for the spitting, and worked her way out of not staying up to see Gran (who was coming to babysit).

Today though - she got dressed lovely, and got a sticker, and was generally just a little star for all day, and she got all excited because she got a sticker then and she hadn't realised she would.

It does seem to be working...

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