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What age did you put your baby upstairs to sleep?

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TheMadonnaWithTheBigBoobies · 09/07/2011 21:01

... DD is still in her moses basket in the lounge with us until we head off to bed ourselves. What age did you start putting your baby to bed upstairs whilst you remain downstairs until bedtime? I can't remember what I did with DS.

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EggyAllenPoe · 09/07/2011 23:09

i live in a bungalow :)

but they went in the next room usually from about 6-16 wks ..whatver time they could be relied upon to go to sleep for a couple of hours whilst i drank cider enjoyd some adult time.

hellymelly · 09/07/2011 23:10

about a year each time.

Caz10 · 09/07/2011 23:26

Reading with interest as dd2 is 8wks and still cluster feeding at night till about 11ish...I sat up in the bedroom with her for the first couple of weeks then realised if she was going to feed on and off for so long I may as well be doing it on the sofa with a glass of wine! I am imagining that I will put her to bed after dd1 at around 8ish as soon as she stops the cluster feeding - anyone got any experience of when this tends to be? I can't remember from dd1!

EverythingsNotRosie · 10/07/2011 07:08

5 weeks- the day after Boxing Day as she ruined both Christmas evenings by screaming. The next night bedtime routine at 7 and into her own room and she has slept pretty well ever since!

ellie02 · 10/07/2011 07:23

From the first night about 7 (lots of trips upstairs for the first few nights) but I was never long behind them, my dd's have both been very good sleepers and have been content in their own bed.

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TheMadonnaWithTheBigBoobies · 10/07/2011 08:05

Oooh thanks everyone. WE go away in a couple of weeks, and I think I'm going to give it a whirl on our return. And heck, if it doesn't work for us, well we can just put it off for another week and try again. I'm all for the bath, boob and bed routine and I guess there's no harm in at least having a whirl with it. Could just do with these evening to be getting a wee bit darker (and as a summer-loving-sun-worshipper that's quite the revelation)

Now which monitor ...

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RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 10/07/2011 08:08

All of them from the day they came home.

Ragwort · 10/07/2011 08:14

Straight away - got back from hospital after 6 days - DS went straight to bed 'upstairs' from the first night; and went to sleep on his own . Really don't understand why parents keep their baby downstairs - and then complain the baby won't go to sleep - surely there is far too much noise/activity etc around?

I know I wouldn't want to sleep downstairs in a noisy household.

Ragwort · 10/07/2011 08:15

Never bothered with a monitor either. Unless you live in a mansion I don't understand why you can't hear your baby.

RockStockAndTwoOpenBottles · 10/07/2011 08:18

yy Ragwort I didn't bother with monitors either.

Lady1nTheRadiator · 10/07/2011 08:20

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DuelingFanjo · 10/07/2011 08:38

I thought letting a baby sleep in a busy environment was supposed to be good, something to do with it getting them used to the fact that they can sleep somewhere other than a dark silent room?

Loving the way this thread has developed.

In one corner we have the 'I put them to sleep in their own darkened room in a separate wing of the house with the servants as soon as I got home from hospital' extreme and the other the 'I carried mine in a papoose made from feathers and leaves until they were 13' extreme. I bet we're all silently judging eachother as either lentil-weaving liberal loonies or heartless Draconian witches

pushmepullyou · 10/07/2011 08:50

TV, music, older DC, the sound of human voices.

Both mine had had enough of being downstairs by 8 weeks and were visibly relieved to go upstairs

Caz10 · 10/07/2011 08:50

Glad someone said it DF

Dd is still cluster feeding as I said, so don't really like being stuck upstairs for all that time, I can't be the only one surely?!

Spagbolagain · 10/07/2011 08:59

Once he had stopped cluster feeding a lot, which I think was about 8 weeks. He was still in our room, put him up there in his crib. I think it made us feel like we were getting an hour or 2 back as adult time, which was nice. Sounds daft, cos before he would only be asleep in the corner or in the hall, but it was more of a mental shift for us, and definitely helped with establishing a bedtime routine.

Tried to go to 6 months in with us but only lasted till 5. Like someone else said, we were all waking each other up. he was in room right next door after that though, fairly small house, so his cot was still only about 10 feet away from our bed, could hear him breathing!

I preferred to use a monitor. Of course you can hear if a baby wakes and cries. But a monitor also means you can hear if they are coughing or wheezing, which if yours has ever had pneumonia or a nasty chest infection is important. And also if you are bf on demand, it can really help if you catch them before they get to full-blown crying, as they are easier to feed that way. That was my experience anyway. But overall I would say, whatever feels most comfortable for you! :)

Spagbolagain · 10/07/2011 09:03

Yes Caz, when cluster-feeding, downstairs with Telly is the ONLY way. I got through a lot of films I had been meaning to watch for years, and since I was feeding my decision RULED :o

DuelingFanjo · 10/07/2011 09:09

would now be the time to mention that I live in a 2 up 2 down and I have a posh video monitor ? to be fair it was dh who bought it and I was quite dismissive but it's brilliant because if DS wakes I can watch him for a while to see if he's just going to go back to sleep.

Spagbolagain · 10/07/2011 09:35

Ha, I think I might have one if released on my own to buy baby goods. Instead we have a monitor from Costco, DH is a little more tight sensible thrifty than I :o

Meglet · 10/07/2011 09:44

Straight away. Although they were in the bedroom with us until 8 weeks.

Clueless79 · 10/07/2011 20:07

I guess it's whatever you feel ok with - advice is all sleep including daytime naps to be taken in the same room as far as possible until 6 months. I guess there must be good reason for this so am trying to follow this as far as possible with ds (10 wks) in a travel cot in dining area for naps and early evenings.

Adair · 10/07/2011 20:14

lentil-weaving loon here

Dc3 is 5ths and still sleeps on me, so er... downstairs in the evening. Dc2 went to our bed quite easily at 6mths and hoping dc3 will follow when I can be arsed with the whole going up and down stairs thing. Good point is I get to sit down and cuddle the cute baby while dh brings me tea and dinner and chocolate. Win.

RobynLou · 10/07/2011 20:15

DD1 3m-ish, but we lived in a small 1 bed flat then so she only really went next door!

DD2 is 5m and still downstairs with us, then up into bed with us when we go, she sleeps v well, but feeds a lot in the evening.

Momo36 · 10/07/2011 20:31

At about 2 weeks but DD was in our bedroom till 5 months.

Rubyabcd · 10/07/2011 20:34

Few weeks..........

FessaEst · 10/07/2011 20:41

Caz I had the exact same thing. DD fed almost constantly in the evenings, and I found being upsatirs, on my own in a darkened room, unable to even out her down to go for a wee pretty damaging to my mental health. As soon as I had twigged that I could have the whole sofa, control of the remote, a laptop on the coffee table, and all food/drink brought to me, I embraced it!

At about 11 weeks, she suddenly decided she didn't want to feed any more and wanted to go to sleep instead. I think we started off putting her in her pram in the kitchen as I couldn't believe the cluster feeding was over, but pretty quickly moved bedtime upsatirs, so about 12 weeks I'd say.

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