Girly Girls

[skinnycow]

Some of my friends have dds who are incredibly "girly" and "pink" and who behave like little divas already expecting their own way and generally all displaying the same sort of behaviour in stark contrast to other girls who arent "pink" and seem to be more independent and easy going. The overtly "princess" and "barbie" theme also seems to run through these lasses. Has anyone else noticed that "pink" girls are more pouty than their non pink counterparts?

My little one is very girly (and quite pouty too, I'm afraid - dh describes her as an Alpha Female). I don't know where it came from, I was a tomboy, and even dolls were banned from our house. dh has bought her loads of Barbies, although we don't have much Disney. But it seemed to be preprogrammed into her, it's not something we have promoted (just given into!). She loves pink (actually it does suit her too), dresses, dancing and ballet, is forever playing princess games, and every story ends with a marriage. However she's also feisty and confident, and maybe that's where this generation are going? Feminine and fierce with it? I'm not sure we will have anything in common soon (she's often asking why I don't wear make up for example). Still so long as she thinks she can achieve whatever she puts her mind to, I'm not that worried (although I hate hate hate that pink isle - always swore I would never ever go there!)

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it jsut happens cod

honest

yes luckily by 6 they are into lilac and ponies

dd2 likes to be a princess with her crown and fairy outfit but also to play trains etc

I've done NOTHING to encouragethe girly/ballerina/princess/handbag/doll thing.In fact quite the opposite. Her baby handmedowns were so neutral/blue that have saved oodles of cash as ds now wearing her old clothes.However dd (2.5) has become very girly (with a steely inner core), loves pink, princesses etc. Honestly don't know where it comes from. I would blame MIL but she only sees her once a week max. Did come back with a barbie balloon yesterday though. Yuk.

3.5yo DD is very pink and very girly. Disney princesses, dolls, dressing up, the works. She has always been girly - chooing dolls and traditionally girls toys from being very small, at home and nursery, where she has had access to all manner of toys and activities.

I am not particularly girly at all not sure where it has come from. But she very definitely is.

She is, however, also very independent for her age, again pretty easy going (for a 3yo) but not particuarly pouty. She is a bit bossy - but then so are all the little girls we come accross!

I don't mind. It is DD all over.

i'd say snap with hula my dd is very pink but not pouty at all. she can be bossy but then she can equally be shy.

My two girls are v girlie and pink, tho' the 18yo favours black with just a touch of pink, these days. Neither of them are pouty - dd1 is incapable of being in a bad mood for more than three seconds. It has to be said, my boys are a bit girlie as well - neither of them are particularly physical, macho or aggressive and ds1 always looks good in a nice pink shirt!!

I think all this ultra-girlie stuff is a relatively new thing which seems to have arisen in tandem with women making progress in a man's world. Maybe a way of stating that just because women are as capable as men, workwise, it doesn't mean they lose their femininity??

I blame:
insideous pink advertising Baby feckin Annabel, Chou Chou, Barbie etc ad nauseum
Pink aisles in every shop you enter - clothes, toys, even food.
Disney merchandising.

I love the 'pink' thing my girls are into. They have alwasy been dressed in pink and I fully intend to continue. HOWEVER they are not DIVA like (only sometimes)

I love the fact they loves clothes and insist on choosing their own clothes

I don't believe its anything we mothers do or don't do, it's just in them, or not, as the case may be.

My twin DDs (4.5) have, I hope, been treated exactly the same but one is the ultimate pink girly girly, spends hours looking in the mirror, checking her long hair, spends hours choosing the right clothes from her wardrobe, her pants HAVE to match her top (WTF!?) whereas the other one is all sticky up short hair, scabby knees, snotty nose, always in jeans and can't wait to join her school football team. Their differences fascinate me

We are taking dd2 to town at the weekend to spend her birthday money (she is 7). She is talking about buying some pink boots . I think that would be dd1's idea of hell

Well my princess is into Barbie and is surrounded by it, so what?, she is 3 FFS!!

Harrumph-a-mundo and parp-a-dillo.

What's wrong with them being girlie and wanting to dress up?

Nowt at all Oliveoil, just the assumption that diva -like poutiness comes as part of the package.

There is a lot of pink out there though n'est pas?

yes but girls have always like pink.

Just the general tone of this thread made me grrrrr, too much analysing going on.

Will calm down and have a biscuit.

x

My mother would have never never allowed me to wear pink! I must admit I always thought it was nurture that led to girliness/boyishness, and it has been strange to watch my children develop in such a stereotypical (if lovely) way. I guess having a boy and a girl just accentuates it, and I can't help but be fascinated.

OO its just something Ive noticed and wondered if anyone else had too?

You lot have got me seriously worried. My DD (23 mnths) loves pink (I hate it - but have to admit it suits her)..

However much of a tomboy I have been (am still am) she is definately going to be a girlie girl. And I have to say this - I actually quite like it... It was my worse nightmare that when I found out we would be having a girl that she would be all girlie ... but she is and I love it - although I am very worried about your message of being a princess... THAT IS NOT OK...

Shall go and burn all the pink clothes now - oh hell can't she will only be left with a couple of pairs of jeans and sweat shirts.

Actually Jessica loves both sets of clothes. I dress in in 'normal' (normal for me) clothes during the week, and girlie dresses to go to church etc in.

The funniest thing was once at toddler group I was playing football with her and she walked off to push the dolls pram around. Since then I have left her to her own devises and she loves both..

Basically whatever she wants to do I will support - just have to get my head around the fact that I might have to become a ballet mum (HELL)