Girly Girls

[skinnycow]

Some of my friends have dds who are incredibly "girly" and "pink" and who behave like little divas already expecting their own way and generally all displaying the same sort of behaviour in stark contrast to other girls who arent "pink" and seem to be more independent and easy going. The overtly "princess" and "barbie" theme also seems to run through these lasses. Has anyone else noticed that "pink" girls are more pouty than their non pink counterparts?

[jamese]

You lot have got me seriously worried. My DD (23 mnths) loves pink (I hate it - but have to admit it suits her)..

However much of a tomboy I have been (am still am) she is definately going to be a girlie girl. And I have to say this - I actually quite like it... It was my worse nightmare that when I found out we would be having a girl that she would be all girlie ... but she is and I love it - although I am very worried about your message of being a princess... THAT IS NOT OK...

Shall go and burn all the pink clothes now - oh hell can't she will only be left with a couple of pairs of jeans and sweat shirts.

Actually Jessica loves both sets of clothes. I dress in in 'normal' (normal for me) clothes during the week, and girlie dresses to go to church etc in.

The funniest thing was once at toddler group I was playing football with her and she walked off to push the dolls pram around. Since then I have left her to her own devises and she loves both..

Basically whatever she wants to do I will support - just have to get my head around the fact that I might have to become a ballet mum (HELL)

[skinnycow]

OO its just something Ive noticed and wondered if anyone else had too?

[nooka]

My mother would have never never allowed me to wear pink! I must admit I always thought it was nurture that led to girliness/boyishness, and it has been strange to watch my children develop in such a stereotypical (if lovely) way. I guess having a boy and a girl just accentuates it, and I can't help but be fascinated.

[oliveoil]

yes but girls have always like pink.

Just the general tone of this thread made me grrrrr, too much analysing going on.

Will calm down and have a biscuit.

x

[gingerbear]

Nowt at all Oliveoil, just the assumption that diva -like poutiness comes as part of the package.

There is a lot of pink out there though n'est pas?

[oliveoil]

Well my princess is into Barbie and is surrounded by it, so what?, she is 3 FFS!!

Harrumph-a-mundo and parp-a-dillo.

What's wrong with them being girlie and wanting to dress up?

[Miaou]

We are taking dd2 to town at the weekend to spend her birthday money (she is 7). She is talking about buying some pink boots . I think that would be dd1's idea of hell

[sandyballs]

I don't believe its anything we mothers do or don't do, it's just in them, or not, as the case may be.

My twin DDs (4.5) have, I hope, been treated exactly the same but one is the ultimate pink girly girly, spends hours looking in the mirror, checking her long hair, spends hours choosing the right clothes from her wardrobe, her pants HAVE to match her top (WTF!?) whereas the other one is all sticky up short hair, scabby knees, snotty nose, always in jeans and can't wait to join her school football team. Their differences fascinate me

[crunchie]

I love the 'pink' thing my girls are into. They have alwasy been dressed in pink and I fully intend to continue. HOWEVER they are not DIVA like (only sometimes)

I love the fact they loves clothes and insist on choosing their own clothes

[gingerbear]

I blame:
insideous pink advertising Baby feckin Annabel, Chou Chou, Barbie etc ad nauseum
Pink aisles in every shop you enter - clothes, toys, even food.
Disney merchandising.

[suedonim]

My two girls are v girlie and pink, tho' the 18yo favours black with just a touch of pink, these days. Neither of them are pouty - dd1 is incapable of being in a bad mood for more than three seconds. It has to be said, my boys are a bit girlie as well - neither of them are particularly physical, macho or aggressive and ds1 always looks good in a nice pink shirt!!

I think all this ultra-girlie stuff is a relatively new thing which seems to have arisen in tandem with women making progress in a man's world. Maybe a way of stating that just because women are as capable as men, workwise, it doesn't mean they lose their femininity??

[katzguk]

i'd say snap with hula my dd is very pink but not pouty at all. she can be bossy but then she can equally be shy.

[Hulababy]

3.5yo DD is very pink and very girly. Disney princesses, dolls, dressing up, the works. She has always been girly - chooing dolls and traditionally girls toys from being very small, at home and nursery, where she has had access to all manner of toys and activities.

I am not particularly girly at all not sure where it has come from. But she very definitely is.

She is, however, also very independent for her age, again pretty easy going (for a 3yo) but not particuarly pouty. She is a bit bossy - but then so are all the little girls we come accross!

I don't mind. It is DD all over.

[pooka]

I've done NOTHING to encouragethe girly/ballerina/princess/handbag/doll thing.In fact quite the opposite. Her baby handmedowns were so neutral/blue that have saved oodles of cash as ds now wearing her old clothes.However dd (2.5) has become very girly (with a steely inner core), loves pink, princesses etc. Honestly don't know where it comes from. I would blame MIL but she only sees her once a week max. Did come back with a barbie balloon yesterday though. Yuk.

[Enid]

it jsut happens cod

honest

yes luckily by 6 they are into lilac and ponies

dd2 likes to be a princess with her crown and fairy outfit but also to play trains etc

[cod]

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[nooka]

My little one is very girly (and quite pouty too, I'm afraid - dh describes her as an Alpha Female). I don't know where it came from, I was a tomboy, and even dolls were banned from our house. dh has bought her loads of Barbies, although we don't have much Disney. But it seemed to be preprogrammed into her, it's not something we have promoted (just given into!). She loves pink (actually it does suit her too), dresses, dancing and ballet, is forever playing princess games, and every story ends with a marriage. However she's also feisty and confident, and maybe that's where this generation are going? Feminine and fierce with it? I'm not sure we will have anything in common soon (she's often asking why I don't wear make up for example). Still so long as she thinks she can achieve whatever she puts her mind to, I'm not that worried (although I hate hate hate that pink isle - always swore I would never ever go there!)

[Medea]

Dd woke up screaming last night. I thought she was ill or in pain. But no. . ..she'd misplaced her silver handbag!!!!

Everything is princess this and princess that (she's 3) and who's gong to be her prince etc. And I can't remember the last time she wore trousers: she won't stop crying if I even come near her with a pair of trousers. And oh god, the pink!

I could not be more ill-equipped to deal with a daughter like this. And, yeah, skinnycow, she's a diva & a pouter & incredibly emotional. I can't think how I created such a girly creature. Girls weren't like this in the 70's in America, or, if they were, they incredibly uncool. . .maybe it was the effects of feminism. Now the pendulum has swung in the opposite direction, and girly girls are taking over.

[Miaou]

would love to hmc but ds is teething and yelling his head off

I also have a camouflage-loving, pink hating dd who wants to bea farmer or in the army - nice balance

[sparklymieow]

I think dd2 will be like me, she hates dresses (well she has one that she will wear) and loves jeans and t-shirt and loves punk/rock music.

[sparklymieow]

My dd1 is a girly girl, loves pink, being a princess but she can fight like a boy, acts like a boy and is not pouty.

[handlemecarefully]

Perhaps it is sleep deprivation - go to bed! (that's where I'm off)

We don't have much disney paraphernalia actually, just a few dvds (which I quite like too )

[Tortington]

does anyone have a defo non pink girl and wished they were a tinsy wincy bit pink?

i do. there has always been a distinct lack of dolls in this house, and prams, and pink girl things. the prams always got used as racing cars or folded down to be go karts.

i have never plaited her hair. she never had enough to plait.

i did it myself not doing girly clothes becuase i didn't want to iron frills, jeans were always much easier.

now avril lavigne is her hero. shes a self termed rock chick - so am quite proud. but a little pink would have been ok!

[Miaou]

No disney princess crap in my house. Sorry hope that's not too offensive. Am in a foul mood atm