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so dd has just turned 9, has had tender nipples for about a yr, and altho I am reading it's all normal i feel surprised, becuase she now has smelly pits and...

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piratecat · 09/05/2011 16:23

today in the shower I/we found some pubic hair starting when showering her down.

Its toooooo soooooon, she is slight, only 4 stone 10. I am alarmed at the swift nature mother nature is taking.

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QuincyMincemeatbunnyslayer · 09/05/2011 16:27

Same with my dd. I was so surprised and a bit but she's really taken it in her stride.

Her periods started a few months ago (she's 10, 11 in June). She is struggling with them as they are heavy, and she can't go swimming, which she is most miffed about.

Is she using deodrant? DD used a pit rock thing for a while which was ok.

Aimsmum · 09/05/2011 16:29

I first noticed pubic hair, just after my DD's 9th birthday, but she is now 10.7 and it has not actually changed from the teeny tiny bit that she had over a year and a half ago, so you might find that nothing else happens for a while.

crazynanna · 09/05/2011 16:35

Same for my girl as Aimsmum. She got a few pubes about aged 10. Now,nearly 13,nothing else (except the motor mouth). She has bee stings for boobs,and her figure still resembles a square box with arms and legs!

Sometimes,it can take a wee while.

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piratecat · 09/05/2011 16:36

ooh, hi, i have bought her some deodorant today, mild one not an antiperspirant. She thinks the smelly armpits thing is hilarious thank goodness.

Of course i have been googling like mad, and somewhere i read that periods won't start until girls are about 7 stone, based on ability to carry a pregnancy? Are your girls that sort of weight?

I feel sad really becuase it's happened so soon. She takes most things in her stride, but i am worried she'll not manage periods if they come. Maybe nothing like that will happen for ages.

I was 11 1/2 when i got my first period, and my boobs started hurting when i was ten, so when hers did at 8 it was a great surprise.

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Aimsmum · 09/05/2011 18:21

I have just got DD to weigh herself, she is 6 stone exactly and is quite tall for her ages, so has a slim build, but apart from about 3 pubes and tiny bee sting boobs, she has nothing else. A lot of her friends are far more developed.

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piratecat · 09/05/2011 19:13

oh aimsmum! bless her, sounds as tho my dd has started her development the same time.

did your dd complain of her beestings hurting. mine has had alot of pain for such a long time now.

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MumgisKhan · 09/05/2011 20:51

My daughter's breasts started developing at just 8. She is now 91/2 and they have grown so there is breast tissue underneath and she calls them hills.There is nothing else yet. She is small for age on the 30th percentile and very petite. There is nothing to her. None of her friends are in the same position and it is obvious at gym swimming, ballet and other mums and girls comment. She is becoming very self conscious. It is just really odd. I was a normal developer about 12 and my husbands sisters really late at 15/16. What is going on? I took her to the doctors who said it was completely normal. I know it is normal but it doesn't feel normal. My main worry is she is already petite, if she goes through puberty early she will reach her adult height early at maybe 11. She'll be tiny! I feel i should be doing something but what can you do? It's normal?

SkipToTheEnd · 09/05/2011 21:04

We are in the same boat. DD is 10 and for the last 3 months has complained of bladder' pain. The thing is it's been a day or 2 before my own period started so I'm thinking of that thing where women living together have their periods at similar times.

She's really starting to get boobs too and I have noticed she's getting more shape to her hips. I'm still trying to deny it though - she's my baby!

Hulababy · 09/05/2011 21:08

My DD has just turned 9y and already has small breasts developing. They hurt her at times, well ache I think. The hairs on her legs have darkened. We have noticed that her figure has chnged a lot of the last few months - her waist is more defined, she has hips and thighs, she has toned muscles. So far I haven't noticed any additional hair growth. She already gets random aches and pains in her tummy every so often, and growing pains in her legs and breasts. Although she isn't particulalry grumpy/moody we have noticed she is more hormonal at tmes, tears, etc for no reason. I think it is becoming quite cyclical too.

ChrissyHynde · 09/05/2011 21:17

My DD is 12 and she developed a little body hair and boobs were sore about 18 months ago but nothing much has happened since except very recently her nipples have started to bud.

Primero · 09/05/2011 21:28

Hulababy, your baby is growing up! I hope this doesn't sound stalkerish, but I have followed your dd's development since 2006 (judging by the pictures on your profile) and still remember your little girl as she was on her first day of school. Then I checked your profile just now and saw a young lady! How amazing to see her so much more grown up.

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piratecat · 09/05/2011 21:42

hi, it is normal as you say, but not normal iyswim when they seem so little and slight!!

dd has little hills too. the pubes today were a bit of a shocker for me lol.

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Hulababy · 09/05/2011 21:46

Primero - scary isn't it?! She is now up to my shoulders and wears the smae shoe size as me too. But she's still my baby!

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piratecat · 09/05/2011 21:50

Hula, my dd is up to my chin too. five mins ago she was 5 yrs old i swear!! iam only 5ft 3. i believe dd will be taller than me as her dad is tall at 6ft 1

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henwoman · 09/05/2011 22:09

piratecat - IMBWB I understood that the weight thing 6.5 / 7 stones is more about the fat laid down, 'puppy fat'(?). The hormones in the fat stimulate/control when ovulation occurs. Hence, in anorexics they stop having periods when their weight drops to a certain level.

my dd is 10 and half, size 7 shoes, 1.55m and has had bee sting boobs for about a year. She's the tallest and most developed in her class and I got her crop top for PE as the other girls were pointing at her. Definitely moody/grumpy and I'm starting to monitor how often and whether we co-incide! She also gets greasy hair, but hasn't started smelling and not got pubes yet. I'm trying to be supportive as, as an older mother (45), we're both changing at the same time.... LOL

kreecherlivesupstairs · 10/05/2011 08:18

My DD is ten on Thursday. Currently she is hairless and boobless. She is desperate to start her periods for some reason.
She is only around 23 kg and 138cm tall (sorry, I don't know what that is in imperial measurements) so hopefully it will be a long way off.
I normally get the job of pube spotter, when she gets out of the shower she sits in the legs akimbo position and tells me to look. DH is often invited, but declines.
She is also moody and if she doesn't wash her hair every other day it looks greasy and stringy.

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piratecat · 10/05/2011 08:34

kreecher, your dd is funny!!

they are all so different in their development. Which is all fine, there just doesn't seem to be much info on the net or on here really. We have so much info about their early years, this pre puberty stage, or hormonal changes needs a section of it's own methinks.

Just becuase we as women have been thru it doesn't make any difference when it comes to this new experience with our kids.

might see if hq would consider a topic for just puberty and hormonal change.

wdyt?

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TrillianAstra · 10/05/2011 09:04

Not sure why I clicked on this, but if your DD really has "smelly pits" then antiperspirant is the way to go, not just a body spray to cover it up.

I always tell mothers of teen boys that one of the best lessons they can teach is the difference between antiperspirant (stops you sweating and getting smelly in the first place) and body spray (just mixes the smells, doesn't really cover it up). Oh, and that spraying is not a substitute for showering, but it doesn't sound like your DD has that problem :)

RobynLou · 10/05/2011 09:15

antiperspirant is nasty stuff though, no need for that for a young girl.

TrillianAstra · 10/05/2011 09:19

If you believe that antiperspirant is "nasty stuff" then age doesn't come into it.

Personally I don't believe that it is nasty, and I do believe that stopping smells is different to covering them up.

The OP's DD probably doesn't smell anyway really, it's just a shock when the natural scent starts to change from that of a child to that of an adult. :)

MollysChamber · 10/05/2011 09:26

I think a topic covering issues related to puberty would be very helpful.

I have an eight year old who would pass for a 10 year old. I suspect it won't be long until I have to deal with all this.

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piratecat · 10/05/2011 09:33

have got her a deoderant and it doesn't stop sweating or perspiring, it just smells nice. it's the bionsen one.

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henwoman · 10/05/2011 21:58

I agree with piratecat - how do we ask for a pre-/puberty section??? There's a gaping hole from age 5 to teens...

I also agree that anti-perspirant not a good idea. My dh showers daily and uses nothing always has done (as long as I've known him, coming up 19 yrs). He smells fine and no complaints at workplace. I just started to use the pit-rok crystal which I'm happy with. We're not noticing dd smells, but will have a chat with dd when we do and act accordingly hopefully. :) ah me, the joy of it all...

TrillianAstra · 10/05/2011 22:22

Just report your post and MNHQ will see what you have written. It's not just for bad posts but for any kind of 'hey look at his' attention-getting.

TapselteerieO · 10/05/2011 22:38

Marking my place, dd will be 10 in a few months, she has got rounder, put on a bit of weight, not noticed any breast development yet, but I started wearing a bra and got periods whilst I was still at primary school, I was totally unprepared. My dd is short, I am only 5 ft, really hope she gets a bit taller before puberty hits!

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