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What do I do? 14 week old too big for Moses basket but cot too big for our room....

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Moulesfrites · 02/05/2011 07:55

I feel uneasy about putting him in his cot as it is against SIDS advice but his head is practically touching the top of the basket and don't think the mattress is supportive for him anymore as he is nearly 17lbs! What to do?

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LoveBeingAbleToNamechange · 02/05/2011 07:58

Have you thought about a crib?

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Moulesfrites · 02/05/2011 08:17

Yes but I don't know if it makes sense to spend any more money when he will be going into his cot in a couple of months anyway?

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ben5 · 02/05/2011 08:25

is there room in his room for a mattress on the floor. then you can sleep in with him?
ds1 spent max 2 nights in our room before we moved him out.
ds2 spent most of his first 6 mths in hospital( heart problems) and when he was at home he was in his own bedroom
I moved them into there own rooms as I needed sleep. they were both such noisey sleepers and i was unable to sleep

smoggii · 02/05/2011 09:22

Our baby was too big for her crib within a week or two of being too big for her moses basket so i wouldn't suggest spending more money on a crib. Her arms poked through the sides of the crib and she would bang them during the night when she shifted about.

We had to put the cot in our room from 13 weeks, it's a squeeze but the only way she could get a comfortable nights sleep and we could be happy. Can you get it in there at the bottom of your bed or up against the wall?

A temporary solution might be the pram? The Carrycot on our pram was longer than the moses basket so we took it off the base and put it in the living room to use for daytime naps once we got rid of the moses basket. Maybe you could use that to get you to six months?

beetlebat · 02/05/2011 09:22

My experience is that most people move them into their own room way before 6 mths despite SIDS advice due to reasons such as yours. We did it at 12 wks mainly because I was waking every time DD even slightly stirred. Once in her own room I got a much better night's sleep. You just have to weigh up the pros and cons and make your own decision.

onadietcokebreak · 02/05/2011 09:34

If you do go with carrycot solution make sure it's a ventilated mattress.

Can you rearrange/ remove furniture?

Seona1973 · 02/05/2011 12:16

could you try using a travel cot in your room?

thaigreencurry · 02/05/2011 12:19

I kept mine in their moses baskets until they were 9 months and 10 months. It was very sniug but they both really liked it that way.

Until we sort out a room for ds2 we have him in a travel cot. I was worried that it might not be comfortable enough for him but he sleeps really well so he obviously doesn't find it uncomfortable.

RitaMorgan · 02/05/2011 12:21

How about having the baby in bed with you? You can put a guard on the side so he can't fall out.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 02/05/2011 12:23

DD went into a travel cot with a proper mattress when she outgrew her moses basket.

Adair · 02/05/2011 12:29

We have a bedside crib cot £40 + mattress from Kiddicare by our bed (not that he has slept in it yet but that's another story...).

Becaroooo · 02/05/2011 12:30

ds2 (big baby) went into his cot - in our room - when he outgrew his moses basket at 8 weeks.

JarethTheGoblinKing · 02/05/2011 12:42

Grace travel cot with the large bassinet, plus an extra mattress. DS slept in his in our room til he was 7mo and we used it until he was 2.5 whenever we visited family or went away.

Astronaut79 · 02/05/2011 12:51

Just like Becaroo00, or DS had to go inot his own room at 8 weeks cos he kept crashing into the side of the moses basket and I was afriad he'd topple. Bit of a pain in the arse having to traipse next door to feed him 2/3 times a night, but we survived. If you don't live in a mansion, what's the problem? We kept both our doors open (and I had the monitor [cblush]). I was probably 4 steps away from him at most.

After a first night of crying (me!), we all slept much better.

Pussinflatboots · 02/05/2011 18:38

Does the cot fit into your room? That fits SIDS advice and gives baby room to move.

Woodlands · 02/05/2011 20:48

We have a small bedroom but we have a bedside cot in there. It is up against the wall on one side, then up against our double bed, then there's about 2 feet to the wall. Is that sort of thing really not possible for you?

I have to say I'm lazy so have enjoyed not having to get out of bed to feed DS. He is 9 months old now so am a bit desperate to get him out of our room... need to reorganise some furniture first!

Pfriend · 02/05/2011 20:51

I moved DS out into his cot in the room next door at 14 weeks for the same reason - too big for the Moses basket. He is fine.

Sirzy · 02/05/2011 20:53

DS refused to go into his moses basket at 11 weeks after spending 2 weeks with the space of a cot in the hospital! No chance a cot would have fitted into my room so he went straight into the cot in his room, I have an angelcare monitor which gave me piece of mind. Not ideal but the best solution available.

MayDayChild · 02/05/2011 21:06

Both of mine in their own room in big cot by 2 weeks and we actually have suffered cot death in our immediate family.
Other high risk if cot death is having them in your bed , smoking and drinking alcohol

Weigh up your personal risk options - what you feel us acceptable risk and go from there. Instead of buying a crib, what about an expensive monitor?
Mine were ten paces away through open bedroom doors.
I hear them and wake up long before they cried at night. Mothers instinct I suppose.

PossetFeatures · 02/05/2011 21:19

Watching this thread with interest- DS (12 weeks) is massive and rapidly outgrowing his moses basket, and not sure what to do next...

We literally don't have any room in our bedroom for his cot, even with rearranging furniture due to layout of room and access to walk in cupboard. We occassionally co-sleep, but not keen on a regular basis as although DS sleeps well, DP and I end up having a really crap night's sleep! DS bedroom is next door to ours though, and about 5 steps away (I can see his cot from my bed when both doors are open), so that will probably have to be the next move, although don't know if i'm ready for him to leave our room at night .

Having said that, he sleeps in his cot in his grobag between 7pm and 10.30pm in the evening (we wanted him to start getting used to it), with the door pretty much shut so we don't wake him up with noise, and he seems to be fine. Surely risk of SIDS would be the same in the evening or day as at night, so wouldn't make that much difference? I've always been confused about this, as I read a pretty heated thread a while ago where a poster got crucified for wanting to put her new baby in a different room at night, but I wondered what the people who criticised her did with their babies in the evening/when they slept during the day? Do they have them right next to them 24/7, or watch over them all the time? Is cot death more common at night or can it happen anytime? Genuinely confused about this and what to do for the best!

hazeyjane · 02/05/2011 21:19

You can buy a crib on ebay for about a tenner, our dds were in a crib for the first 6 months, next to the bed (we had a tiny room).

Maydaychild, I thought the SIDS advice about sleeping in room with them isn't about whether you can hear them, but about the fact that their breathing is regulated by our breathing.

hazeyjane · 02/05/2011 21:20

Cross posted with you Possettfeatures, I think the recommendation is for them to sleep in the same room as you for naps too.

welliesandpyjamas · 02/05/2011 21:27

Smaller cot from ebay or wherever to go in your room? Even right up to the side of your bed is fine.

welliesandpyjamas · 02/05/2011 21:28

(Then sell or keep for next baby once baby moves in to own room)

PossetFeatures · 02/05/2011 21:30

Oh yes, have heard about the breathing thing hazeyjane which makes sense.

I put DS down for naps in his basket in his room during the day (with door open, we live in a flat), as have tried putting basket say in kitchen whilst I crack on with chores there, but I often seemed to distract him by being there IYSWIM and he wouldn't sleep. I do use a sling for naps and when I need to get on with things which is good, but not always practical (bending over to empty dishwasher/washing machine not good for the old back!)- surely I shouldn't carry his basket around the flat with me from room to room? I think that would disturb him more? Not having a go, just really not sure what to do for the best, but that is practical too... maybe would be different if I lived in a big house? Having said that, he does often kip on the sofa next to me for lunchtime naps which we both enjoy!

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