wow... kids really are so different aren't they

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ds is 2 & 4mths. he doesn't really say any other words other than no, dada, mama. he babbles alot though and the HV doesn't seem to be concerned. apparently he says some words that we can't recognise.

anyway, that's a long battle and naws away at us like nothing else.

then yesterday he was playing at an outdoor play equipment sales place with another kid who was having full conversations with his mum, doing much more advanced stuff and he was the same age!! exactly the same age!

i know everyone says that kids develop differently and not to worry and he's ok and that he'll catch up but... bloody hell! this kid was so much further ahead.

and... he hardly eats, his sleeping is crap etc etc where other don't seem to have a problem. we're struggling and we are trying to convince ourselves that all kids are just different (as adults are) but hell, i'm just struggling with the whole thing.

I know. My friends 2 year old seems YEARS ahead of mine. It is quite upsetting sometimes.

By the way, at 2.4 my ds said very little. At 2.6 he uses short sentances. It really can be that fast.

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Within sibling groups there is a huge difference.

I have 5, ranging from 14 to 11 months. dd the eldest was fast at everything, talked early, read early. ds1 walked early, ds2 never spoke until he was 5 with the aid of speech therapy.

ds4 is almost walking on his own and ds3 is nearly 3 and still doesnt talk in clear sentences, nor is he bothered about still being in nappies. It's true to say that they do eventually catch up and they do things at their own pace. Let them, it's the parents that have the hang ups over their kids' development, some need to chill a bit. {smile]

thanks.

i shouldn't have started a thread so late in the aft when i knew i had to pop out and i've got to go but i'll re-visit this a little later.

nothing new here eh. i'm just struggling with with the whole thing. i was nasty to dw this morning and she's really hurt, i'm a bit of mess really. i'm trying to take the hard line with ds and she's not. i don't think either of us are completely right/wrong but the whole thing is very very frustrating.

If he's pointing and communicating non-verbally then you don't really have to worry about speech. It'll come. Assume you've had hearing checks etc?

not a hard line with the talking. a hard line with the sleeping and eating. this is weird. we thought i would be the laid back parent and she would be the strict one but it's completely opposite.

i think its that i spend alot of time on this site and searching on others for info where that isn't here style at all and she goes completely with her own gut feel and limited advice from her friends.

this is hard. so so hard. i never knew it would be this hard.

i nearly had a heart attack when i saw a thread a few months ago titled "raising kids - is it really so hard?" from enid or someone like that and i nearly blew a gasket. i didn't post on it as i thought i would no doubt lose it so i ignored it.

hearing? yes. all the necessary stuff. everyone says he's fine. i kind of know he is but i'm just amazed at the success others seem to have.

... and yes colditz. very upsetting but i do my damnest not to let it show in front of dw.

why does he ahrdly eat?

( re the talking ds2 never spoke as well as hid brother - always wondered i it was cos i bottled him adn breast fed ds1}

and ILl sort out his sleeping for you ( says codfresh from her sucess wiht krs son)

Well assuming he;s pointing and using non-verbal gestures like nodding and head shaking, waving bye bye etc then I would sit back and enjoy the peace and quiet tbh. Providing he's doing the above then speech will follow.

nah cod. My most exclusively breast fed ds1 (to 13 months) isn;t talking at 6. My mixed fed until over 2 (lots of breast after weaning) didn;t talk until well over 2, and by bottle fed nightmare of a ds3 is the earliest to do everything.

HM i dunno
id get it checked out incase he has glue ewar dn cant hear.

Even within one family children are different. My ds1 was really late in anything physical - walked at almost 16 months, never crawled, and continued to be behind other children on climbing until he was almost 4 years old. However, he was very very good at sitting and playing with anything that required fine motor skills.

Ds2 on the other hand walked at about 13 months old and is more like a 2 year old on anything physical. However, he is not keen on anything like shape sorting etc.

Their speech development is also very different.

the HV is coming back in a month's time to check him out and she'll refer him to a SALT if he's still not progressed much (same old story really)

he's just started not eating much. from what i can tell, it's just the same old 'my toddler won't eat' story but we find taking the food away from him without fuss and letting him go to bed without dinner really distressing and we end up giving him other snacky things (which i know, is complete and utter no no)

sleep. well i'm getting there. every time a have big success, he get's a cold or something and it seems to set him right back to the beginning. i can sort his sleep. i just need time and a bit of luck i reckon.

hmm lichk isnt any good with sleep imfe!!
re food
what DOES he like?
do oyu eat with him?
mine eat nore like that

or try reading him a story and stopping hen he doesnt eat

luck

sorry. this thread was really just for me to have a moan. i've taken loads of advice on board. it's just executing it, sticking with it and trying to stay sane while doing so is the bit we struggle with.

oh ok

youll have to have a nother to take your mind off it!

( onelast thing) does he have a lot of milk?)

luck - as in him not getting a cold or something as soon as i start executing a technique to get him through the night. i swear he does it on purpose!

food - he likes yoghurt, toast, some fruit and strawberries. chicken nuggets (which i avoid like the plague) and fish fingers (which are surpisingly ok on a nutrition scale but again, i always have that processed food alarm going off in my head).

we have started to eat with him. it's the new technique and sometimes works with varying results. last night was a disaster. the night before wasn't so bad but he didn't eat any veggies at all.

yes. he does have milk and yes, that could be a problem with filling up etc couldn't it? saying that, in the last few days he's gone off his milk as well. he's just not interested in food and drink. he hasn't been drinking alot of juice/water either.

ok he has from now one Two cups of milk a day

anyway. i've got to go and buy a new microwave. i busted the old one this morning and it just ain't worth fixing as it's 15 years old...

ok.