shouting at your children!

[auntymandy]

We all know its wrong and should never be done, but hey we are human.
Tell me you NEVER yell!

never yell, i hollor

I prefer to screech. Yelling is for wimps.

I know i say awful things too. Mine are teenagers so they often give as good as they get!!When I hear them shout at each other i do wonder if its my fault!!

I don't usually shout at dd, but I did on Friday night. I was shocked at myself, and half expected dd to be so startled that she might burst into tears. She barely blinked.....

'ITS NOT FAIR' [shrug] what can u say to a 5yr old who says that? (i dont yell at her then ,but she is 5, its gonna get worse isnt it?)

much much worse!

wait till they are bigger than you.
'go to your room'
'no'
'ok then'

will 3 teenage girls be worse than say 3 teenage boys?

oh yes! Stroppy..you willbe known for being tight for years to come!

On the subject of shouting: When dd shouts at me, and stamps her foot, I sometimes have an almost uncontrollable desire to burst out laughing. Of course, I don't hide it very well and it makes dd even angrier! Anyone else have that impulse?

well i've got 8years to prepare then.

how many times do you yell 'dont shout' mixed messages or what?!!

earlybird, all the time then i get 'dont laugh at me!!'

Boy do I shout.

Have to say it's ineffective though - when I'm being rational and I address them in a calm but firm voice that is not raised, it actually works better.

Sometimes, you just lose it though and all you can do is shout! Perfectly normal!

Yes explaining in a calm way has more affect or ignoring them, but yes we shout!

misdee - my 2 dd's get at each other now - and they are only 3 and 11 months - can't wait till they are stroppy teenage girls arguing over clothes, CD's makeup, boys, the phone etc!!!!

Oh and yes I do shout.. I sometimes mimic dd1 when she is going off and it makes her laugh which can defuse the situation.

When I'm tired I mutate into the screaming harridan from hell.

I have just yelled 'STOP SHOUTING', up the stairs to mine

I do that all the time nutcackle!

I have however developed this maniacal smile where I swallow all the screaming. I have pointed out to dd1 that when she sees this she is to treat me like an unexploded bomb. Armed and dangerous. And she needs to tread very carefully. Its a while since the bomb went off but dd2 seems to be working on it.

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