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Lady in the street thought my DD was a boy :-(

63 replies

SAHmummy · 21/01/2011 15:13

I was gutted! I felt like doing a Rachel from friends and taping a bow to her head!!!

she is only 5 months but I thought I dressed her pretty girlie.

stupid old lady!!!!!

(just thought I would rant) Angry

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JarethTheGoblinKing · 21/01/2011 15:15

Don't worry about it.. some random woman assumed my DS was a girl (he has curly blonde hair), despite the fact that he looks like a boy, and had very boyish clothes on.

Some people are just weird.

whomovedmychocolate · 21/01/2011 15:15

Relax - DD was dressed head to toe in pink IN A DRESS with a bow in her long long hair at 18 months and a woman asked what 'his' name was. They do that. Particularly old people. Perhaps she was partially sighted.

If it makes you feel any better my DS has also been mistaken for a girl, despite the fact he's a bruiser and looks very boyish.

HettyAmaretti · 21/01/2011 15:16

Oh, everyone always thought my DD was a boy, regardless of what she was wearing Hmm. No idea why she just looked like a baby to me!

Try not to let it get to you, I'm afraid it's likely to happen again.

berri · 21/01/2011 15:16

Don't worry - my DS gets confused for a girl all the time. His hair is quite long, but not girlie long! And he's always in dark-ish boy clothes (never dresses!) and brown boots, so I think people are just odd!!

tethersend · 21/01/2011 15:17

DD is 2 and is constantly mistaken for a boy. You get used to it Smile

Kayzr · 21/01/2011 15:17

My Ds's are always been mistaken for girls as they have curly hair. I just tell them they are boys.

Ignore it.

purplepidjin · 21/01/2011 15:23

DP and I went to Newquay for NYE once... HE kept getting mistaken for a girl...

(Admittedly, we had dressed him in a corset and a pink net tutu...)

SAHmummy · 21/01/2011 15:27

ah thanks guys. good to know it is not just mine. She doesn't have much hair so maybe that is why she looks boyish! she will definitely be wearing lots of pink from now on Smile

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CarrotsAreNotTheOnlyVegetables · 21/01/2011 15:47

Take no notice. Some people think any child not dressed head to foot in pink must be a boy.

I once had an old lady call me "sonny" when I was 13 - that was a bit of a shocker!

Davsmum · 21/01/2011 15:50

My DD had hardly any hair until she was 3 and I lost count of how many times people asked me how old my little boy was !!

I have to admit, unless babies are dressed in pink and pretty dresses or blue and boys clothes I find it difficult to tell what sex they are too.
Could be worse,.. my older sister, who has very short hair was called 'sir' in a restaurant a couple of years ago,.. that upset her !

seaweedhead · 21/01/2011 15:59

DS has been mistaken for a girl a few times. Apparently boys don't have long eyelashes Hmm

nickelbabysnatcher · 21/01/2011 16:01

I know i'll hate it if it happens to me, but don't start dressing her really girly to counteract it - it won't make a difference and it'll stifle her growth (ie she'll believe that all girls are girly/pink/sickening.

maybe she's soooo old she remembers when pink was for a boy?

izzybiz · 21/01/2011 16:04

My 2 year old Ds is mistaken for a girl all the time.
Fair enough he does have quite long hair (I love it) but he is always dressed in 'boyish' clothes.
It will always happen!

ThatsNotMyAlpaca · 21/01/2011 16:06

This happend to me all the time. DD is a very girly looking baby but does quite often dress in blue because they were the hand me owns we got Grin

TBh it never bothered me, it is just a random stranger so i don't normally bother corecting them.

breakneckLouboutins · 21/01/2011 16:06

Not the end of the world.

maxybrown · 21/01/2011 16:11

lol, DS aged 3.4 still gets reffered to as a little girl - he doe NOT have curly hair!! In fact just recently I keep being asked, is it a boy or a girl? IT? IT? lol Grin

libelulle · 21/01/2011 16:13

Usually i dont mind- dd has v little hair aged nearly 3 - but I once commented on what a pretty dress the woman in front of me in the queue was buying for her dd. She looked at my dd and said 'yes well not for you dear eh' I know she was assuming dd was a boy, but I did see red and snap 'why on earth not?'. IMO it's forgivable if the offender is an elderly lady, but a mother with a toddler ought to know better than to make assumptions like that.

MrsvWoolf · 21/01/2011 16:15

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traceybath · 21/01/2011 16:15

I really wouldn't worry.

DS1 was often mistaken for a girl.

DD whose 18 months often mistaken for a boy because I don't dress her in lots of pink - seems to be the case that navy blue coat = boy for some reason.

NorbertDentressangle · 21/01/2011 16:17

seaweedhead -my DS used to get mistaken for a girl all the time due to the most beautifully long, dark eyelashes.

In fact I'm sure DP said it happened recently when they were in the supermarket. DS is now 6 and, other than aforementioned eyelashes and slightly longer than average hair, is very boyish looking.

monkeyflippers · 21/01/2011 16:18

People ALWAYS do that!

4boyzmum · 21/01/2011 17:53

some people are blind...or stupid! my gorgeous ds is always being mistaken for a girl - 3 times once in one walk along the beach!! think its as his hair is blonde, curly and a little bit longer than normal 'boy length'. plus he has huge brown eyes with lashes to die for!! tho we dress him in very boyish clothes it seems people cant see past his hair! bothers dh more than me tho it is annoying cos hes OBVIOUSLY a boy!

Mumof4Monsters · 21/01/2011 17:56

My ASD Daughter got her own back by asking, at the top of her voice, if the person with long hair was a woman, it wasnt!!

undercovamutha · 21/01/2011 18:06

When I was younger (6 or 7 probably) I used to get mistaken for a boy (bad haircut by my mum - sigh!)and it did really upset me, so I was a bit paranoid of it happening to my DD (silly I know!). As a result she wore a LOT of pink as a baby/toddler. As a result she has a severe Disney princess obsession, so I wouldn't recommend it Grin!

FWIW DS (21m) often gets mistaken for a girl. I don't care a jot though - I know it is just because noone can believe how gorgeous he is Wink!

AlwaysbeOpralFruitstome · 21/01/2011 18:06

It's very normal for people to mistake the gender of under three's (and a little above sometimes) it's happened with all three of my boys. It's actually really hard to tell as, apart from genitals,there are no physical distinguishing markers between boy and girl babies. Obviously clothes give an indication but you need your observant eyes in! Shrug it off, it's not deliberate or malicious and will probably happen again so not worth getting in a flap about.

Any sensible person asks if they are a boy or girl before opening their mouth but the old gal should be forgiven for her gaffe.