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2yo DD keeps saying 'fuck'...

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:06

Was going to namechange but decided against it, though I am really Blush about it

Around Christmas time, either me or DP (can't remember which) said 'fuck' by accident (probably because we dropped something). DD repeated it, which was a wake up call, as although we obviously try not to swear in front of her, I think we were doing it without even realising. I don't think that was the only time it had slipped out, but was the first time DD had repeated it.

We have been really good at not saying it since then (unless DP says it when I'm not around, though I doubt it).

DD is still saying it though! And she says it in context, e.g. she drops something, or something gets stuck. It's really clear, and HUGELY embarrassing. Our CM brought it up, so she is also doing it when we are not there.

I've been dealing with it by not reacting at all, on then saying 'oh dear' or 'whoopsie' when something happens, but it's not working, she is still saying it! Happened today at playgroup when her paintbrush got stuck in the pot, and the look another mum gave me :( I just brazened it out and said 'stuck, oh dear lets get it out' but it was so clearly the f word...

Will she stop saying it eventually if we keep on ignoring? Or do you think she is still hearing it somewhere?

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MardyBra · 20/01/2011 20:07

I'd keep ignoring and not make a fuss about it and hopefully she'll forget it eventually. That's what happened with our dd when dh was swearing at other road users.

MardyBra · 20/01/2011 20:08

Oh, and clean up your language (apart from when posting on MN) Grin

MyrrhyBS · 20/01/2011 20:11

DD did something similar when she heard the word "Shit" just the once. Ignoring seemed the best policy. She stopped in the end!

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:13

Glad it's not just me! I have worked so hard at cleaning up my potty mouth though, promise. So hard with the environment I work in, totally become desensitised to it...

Will ignore ignore ignore, and try not to blush when she says it in front of anyone.
staying with me (v conservative) father next week. EEK!

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misdee · 20/01/2011 20:15

dd4 says cunt. well actually she says 'cant' but in her own toddler way it sounds like cunt Blush

jooseyfruit · 20/01/2011 20:16

my nearly 3 yr old says 'fucky sake cheesus christ'

I'm not proud, and I often have to turn away so he doesn't see me laughing, but I do (try to) ignore it.

he is saying it less now.
I do quite like a sweary toddler though. Grin

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:19

jooseyfruit I have to admit that did actually make me lol... Grin

It's actually quite cute, in a completely inappropriate way!

Not surprised you find it hard not to laugh...

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onimolap · 20/01/2011 20:19

Try diversion! Carry a toy lorry with you at all times. When she says it, give her the lorry and say "No, darling, 'truck'".

Probably won't make much difference, but does help in front of the vicar

PieMinister · 20/01/2011 20:19

Marks place. Ignoring not working

sethstarkaddersmackerel · 20/01/2011 20:19

there's a wonderful book called 'How babies learn' and it mentions that babies' first worst are often words of success and failure - eg 'There!' and 'Oops!' - 'uh-oh' in America. They mention one baby in North Oxford whose failure word was 'Bugger!'

sethstarkaddersmackerel · 20/01/2011 20:20

first words not worst

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:21

Grin great idea oni ! Even if they don't fall for it, gives everyone a polite get out (for all those times I have tea with the vicar..)

This thread is cheering me up no end!

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shinydiscoball · 20/01/2011 20:21

haha this made me laugh - a friend's SIL didn't realise how much she swore when driving until her DS started having angry road rage "get out of the fucking way" arguments while playing with his Fisher Price garage :o They all ignored it and it eventually stopped

MardyBra · 20/01/2011 20:23

You could always get a toy duck, carry it round with you, and if someone challenges you could say, "no, she's saying DUCK. Look! - Quack Quack"

jooseyfruit · 20/01/2011 20:23

that's interesting Seth, son2 also says bugger as a failure word. sigh

expectingno2 · 20/01/2011 20:24

Sorry I shouldn't laugh but I am.

Unfortunately for me my son sometimes says a truly awful word (not deliberatly he is just not clear in his speech) that thankfully he hasn't uttered out of the house yet.

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:24

Ha shiny thank god DD isn't forming sentances yet!

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MardyBra · 20/01/2011 20:24

Oh just seen onimo's posting. (Must read threads better before posting)

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 20/01/2011 20:25

this remonds me of when my mum told me off for swearing at her house the ;ast time we visited, you know just reminded me about my language and I said, hmm, like you dont swear and laughed

she was posistive she never swears except she always says bugger, shit and bollocks

anyway she did not believe me at all till the next day we are all in the garden and she drops something and goes 'oh... and dd1 pipes (3 at the time) with ...bugger?

BertieBotts · 20/01/2011 20:26

DS says "Dod's sake!" Blush

He did say "oh fuck" a few times and I chose not to ignore, but corrected him in a really matter of fact way "You mean oh dear" and usually he'd say "Oh dear" happily and carry on with what he was doing.

The worst one was the other day my boyfriend was here and DS started saying "Sex,

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:26

Ooh what is it expecting - cunt has already been mentioned, cunt can't be worse than that surely?

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jooseyfruit · 20/01/2011 20:26

how do I cover up 'fucky sake cheesus christ'

I'm thinking 'ducky rake cheesy rice'.

TrinityMotherOfRhinos · 20/01/2011 20:27

ducky take my cheesy rice?

you need a soft duck to carry with you

TotorosOcarina · 20/01/2011 20:27

My DD is 2 and does the same,

she also says 'piss' when the puppy wees on his matt.

oh and she says shit Blush

we just ignore it and she'll stop!!
we hope!!

MardyBra · 20/01/2011 20:28

joosey - are you prepared to carry round a duck, rake and some cheesy rice with you? And have an explanation why?