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2yo DD keeps saying 'fuck'...

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:06

Was going to namechange but decided against it, though I am really Blush about it

Around Christmas time, either me or DP (can't remember which) said 'fuck' by accident (probably because we dropped something). DD repeated it, which was a wake up call, as although we obviously try not to swear in front of her, I think we were doing it without even realising. I don't think that was the only time it had slipped out, but was the first time DD had repeated it.

We have been really good at not saying it since then (unless DP says it when I'm not around, though I doubt it).

DD is still saying it though! And she says it in context, e.g. she drops something, or something gets stuck. It's really clear, and HUGELY embarrassing. Our CM brought it up, so she is also doing it when we are not there.

I've been dealing with it by not reacting at all, on then saying 'oh dear' or 'whoopsie' when something happens, but it's not working, she is still saying it! Happened today at playgroup when her paintbrush got stuck in the pot, and the look another mum gave me :( I just brazened it out and said 'stuck, oh dear lets get it out' but it was so clearly the f word...

Will she stop saying it eventually if we keep on ignoring? Or do you think she is still hearing it somewhere?

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onimolap · 20/01/2011 20:28

Mardybra - I think you're "duck" is better: more ubiquitous.

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:30

I love the idea of road rage in the nursery playground...

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jooseyfruit · 20/01/2011 20:31

Grin erm ...... no, that's a bit of an ask. I'll have to carry on stifling my giggles ignoring.

annapolly · 20/01/2011 20:32

My DGD did this and got a reaction, she thought it was fun and would laugh.

We started saying fiddle sticks every time we dropped something, and then when she said it we would laugh.

It only took a couple of days and she stopped embarrassing us.

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:33

That's a good idea anna - I've been trying to do that with 'oh dear' but I think introducing a new word may work better.

Fiddlesticks is a good one, I shall try it tomorrow...

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MummyElk · 20/01/2011 20:43

er.... ok. Blush my dd1 (nearly 3yo) has said... in the last three months:
"fucking hell, Mummy, we're lost"
"oh fucking bugger" (a combination i've never used Hmm)
"shit"
"for fucks sake" (sometimes comes out as for Fussy's sake)
"bollocks" (as in - Daddy, that man is about to say Oh Bollocks) (that one is Pierce Brosnan's fault - in Mamma Mia)
"fucking crap"
and any combination of the above.

We tried ignoring it. she said it louder...Blush
We have now had a proper talk about it and she understands that it is not acceptable to swear and that we Do Not Swear. It doesn't mean she doesn't occasionally do it but it's getting fewer and further between. She's also found words that she prefers to use when something happens - oddly - BUCKLES seems to be her current fave Hmm. (try it - it does work?! I quite often say OH BUCKLES now..?!)
I have to say that we don't actually swear very much at all - so it was a surprise when she started using those words and particularly in context. I put it down to her being a genius.....Grin (Hmm)

Anyway - you clearly aren't alone and it's not the end of the world. and it will end. (the swearing. not the world. i hope)

shinydiscoball · 20/01/2011 20:46

this thread has made me giggle so much, hope you're feeling a little less embarrassed LittlePickleHead, you're clearly not alone in this.

Note to self, must work on using non-sweary words before our LO comes along otherwise he/she will be swearing like a sailor by the time they can speak :o

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:49

That's reassuring MummyElk - DD is literally just 2, so a bit young to reason with or explain why not to use words.

The reassuring bit is that a child from a non-sweary family can be so sweary Grin

I do worry that bystanders think we are a complete reprobate family, it's not true, honest guv!

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Sarahlou8 · 20/01/2011 20:50

It's a terrible thing to admit, I know, (please bear in mind my DD is 12 now)

When she was about 2 I had a particularly bad shopping experience and as I strapped in a screaming, wriggling child I said 'I am pissed off with you"

A couple of weeks later, she was happily jumping up and down on our bed saying I - am - pissed - off - with - you (in time to the jumps) in front of my church going, very serious Mother in law!

Never ever swore in front of her again!!

OnEdge · 20/01/2011 20:54

We were having a nice family morning shopping in town. DD 3 wanted to get her ballet shoes, but 1st we wanted to go in another shop. She lost her temper and shouted at DH "You BASTARD !!!" It was awful because DH hates swearing. I will never forget the look he flashed me Blush

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LittlePickleHead · 20/01/2011 20:57

I do feel better! It seems that a sweary child can happen to anyone.

I'd just feel a teeny bit better if one of my friend's toddlers would come out with something

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jooseyfruit · 20/01/2011 21:12
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ByTheSea · 20/01/2011 21:17

My DD2 did this when she was about 2 (learned it from her older brother). We ignored it and she eventually stopped and now we just laugh about the phase.

tallulah · 20/01/2011 21:23

My 3 yo's speech isn't very clear, so that people asking her name don't understand what she says, and she mispronounces a lot of words (says Bone for Bow, Cave for cage, that sort of thing).

The 3 words that are clear as a bell are penis, knobhead and a*hole Blush thanks to 21 yo DS2.

It's hard not to laugh when we're in the car and she says "is it a knobhead in front mummy?"

Elsa123 · 20/01/2011 22:06

Grin and LOL at 'get out of the fucking way'. Hilarious. DD is 14 weeks...we have all this to come!

AngeChica · 21/01/2011 09:09

I was just about to post a thread about this! An older boy at the childminders has taught DS (who is 3 this week) to say Fuck. He's just been running around saying "Fuck mummy, Fuck, mummy!". CM has carpeted the boy concerned and had words with his mum. I know this kind of thing is inevitable but am not quite sure if best to just ignore it or pull him up on it?

huffythethreadslayer · 21/01/2011 09:18

My dd used to say Oh My God when she was little. I know it's not swearing, but we have some religious friends who looked at us askance when we went round. We changed it to Oh My Gosh and repeated it and repeated it til she started saying Oh My Gosh too. Now she still says that in preference to OMG (when we're around) and she's 10. I did explain to her, when she was about 6, that Oh My God isn't swearing, but it can upset people and she seemed to accept that.

I now swear in front of her more than I used to, mostly bloody, bugger, crap, etc... and she tells me off!

The problem is, they pick up on things so quickly when they're little and our first instinct is to smile or laugh and that just makes them go for it all the more.

Good luck carrying your trucks, ducks, and cheesy rice around :)

Pinkjenny · 21/01/2011 09:22

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

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CheshireCat · 21/01/2011 09:29

Oh English is a great language.. better than Bollocks I suppose. Wink

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LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 21/01/2011 09:30

A friend and her 2.5 dd were round in the summer so we were going to play in the garden. I got the bubble machine out and it won't work, so said oh no it's broken and friends dd replied it's fucking broken! Shocked me but ignored it. Turns out it was from her dad at the weekend. Haven't heard it since, hmm might mention something being broken next time they visit Grin

McHobbes · 21/01/2011 09:32

Ha haaa! That's hilarious!

If that were me at playgroup, and I overheard a tiny using 'fuck' in context, I would have laughed my head off! Sorry, but I think the mother who gave you a look, needs to lighten up BIG style!

Don't worry about it. Ignore it and it will go away. All kids get stuck on certain words for a while. They soon move on.

tomhardyismydh · 21/01/2011 09:32

I never ignore my dd swearing I do diciplin her quite harshly for "potty mouth" if swearing and very much discourage "toilet talk" for anytrhing surrounding poo poo wees winky etc. I think giving this behaviour a label to your child and letting them know how unacceptable it is helps them realise that.

I would use an other word to repeat when she swears, at her age its a difficult one to punish etc as she is so young, but I would reinforce, we dont like that word etc, I think they need to be told it is wrong.

My dd at nursery one day was jumping up and down saying fuck fuck fuck over and over again, they did have to ignore her at the time and just let her stop, It was close to pick up time and came just as this was over, she did have to sit on the step when we got home. I think if it was totaly ignored she would see that she could just get away with it.

at 2 my dd would luckily just say sake, so that was much easier to ignore.