I need some help with a very unruly six year old. I was a regular on here a few years ago and I remember how helpful everyone is. I really need some advise.
I've cut out E numbers and he takes Omega Three. He has a phycologist who never sees him just me and occasionally his dad. We've tried alternate therapy which cost the earth. He was having cranial massarge twice a week and a child councellor coming in to talk to him. But with no change after two months, we couldn't justify the hundred pound a week it was costing.
So yesterday he had been in trouble at school from the very start of the day. School are really good with him and put up with a lot. There's no diagnosis and no statement, so no funding.
He'd been disrupting his class all day and done no work at all. So at the end of the day when I went to collect him one of the teachers said that he was just finishing his work and to go and have a sit down. It took him another half hour but I didn't mind wating. I want them to be more assertive with him. He does his sats this year. Eventually he'd finished his work and he was in a fowl mood because he'd been kept behind. The teacher explained to me about a few of the problems there had been that day. Then as we were getting ready to leave he shouted, "Oy Miss, wait there a minute." Then he ran up to her and punched her. The head master was just down the corridor talking with another teacher and he saw this. I was absolutley mortified. The head master read him the riot act and told me that he had no choice but to exclude him again and that his behaviour couldn't continue. So while I'm having a pow wow with all the teachers and the head master my little cherub is running between classrooms and knocking on the glass to get the head masters attention. Then he's waving at him and pulling faces. There is no a dam thing I can do. I can't smack him because that would infringe on his human rights. It's all wrong. What's he doing to my humam rights putting me through this torment?
My husbands away in another country for a week and I had no one to go to so I went to my mum. I made him sit on the stairs and not move for half an hour and then he had his tea, then went back to the stairs. But inbetween times I was trying to get hold of his dad and his phycologist. The phycologist is off sick and the consultant said that he still stands by his original diagnosis, NOTHING WRONG.
The last time he was excluded he kicked another child in the head and smashed his head against the wall giving him a concusion. Yesterday at school he hit another child over the head with a chair. Would you want a child like that in a class with your kids? I feel terrible because it's my child that's disrupting the lessons for everyone. I can't bare to take him out and put him in a special school, but I don't know what the alternative is. No one wants to help me and I've done plenty of jumping up and down and standing firm. But it get's me knowhere. Social services just gave me money to put him a kids club during the holidays, but no support.
He threatens to kill himself, wishes that I was dead or his dad. He tries to run infront of cars and says exactlty how he wants to kill himself. I'm totally lost and I'm not sure how much longer I can cope with him if at all. I've got a temp teacher for the next couple of days and it's costing £150 for eight hours schooling. But he'll get nothing out of it because he just won't listen. All I can do is send the message that, yeah you're out of school but you're not getting away with doing nothing.
I need some help and well if you've read this far you've done well. I wanted to quit a while back!