Dummies - Cheeky friend!!!!!

[Toothache]

I was out for lunch with an old work colleague the other day with my dd(1), ds(40 and her ds (2). She's always been a bit of a "know-it-all", especially when she was pregnant!!!!!!! but this really made me grit my teeth...

She offered to give me a lift home, so I said that would be great! She offered to hold dd while I folded the buggy, when I lifted dd out of the buggy she was sitting on a dummy. I picked the dummy up and handed it to dd as opposed to sticking it in my pocket to gather fluff. Dd put it in her mouth.

My friend them looked at me in horror and said "WHAT did you do THAT for??" "She didn't need the dummy!!!" She then took it out of dd's mouth saying "THats dirty and horrible and you shouldn't have that!!!"

WTF? I just said "I only gave her it to hold whilst I got the buggy folded. And besides just coz your ds doesn't like a dummy doesn't make them dirty and horrible!!"

She said to me "Well you won't be saying that in a years time when you can't get it off her?"

I said.... ahem I do have a 4 year old.... I have been through all that.

The subject was then dropped with her sitting with a smug grin on her face at the fact that she did her good deed for the day by removing dd's "evil" dummy.

I'm fuming! Wouldn't you be???????

SOupy - For my own amusement! The same reason why I take photos of them with their hair spiked in the bath, the same reason why I gave dd a sour strawberry and caught the facial expression on my camera phone..... to use against them in years to come.

I used to live next door to a woman who took dummies off the children on the other side of me (terrace housing IYSWIM) saying that they were dirty and bad for them. Maybe it wouldn't have been quite so bad if she didn't have a fag in her hand at the time.

One of the great things about holidaying in France this year was not getting evil looks from people cause DD3 (18mth) had her dummy!

Used to see one of DD1's friends grannies (also a retired HV) at ballet with the friends 20mth little sis. She always commented along the lines of "look, so and so (the little sis) thinks she's (DD3) a baby cause she's got a dummy! Only babies have dummies! This used to drive me mad, course she's a baby, she's not 2 yet! Then she'd go on about how advanced her little un is. Arghhhh

Sorry bit of a rant.

God, I hate the comedy teeth ones. But then I'm a total snob about jokes on kids stuff.

Yes Toothache, I would be utterly fuming. I don't think I'd bother with her again TBH. I don't understand how people think its acceptable to be so judgemental. I find it most odd really. I've got a cousin who was lecturing me only last week about ds2's christening. As if it had anything to do with her and as if I didn't already have ds1 who I've already done it all with before. Honestly, you just have to go to a place in your head where you can tune them out!

I'm sucking my thumb right now...

lol weesaidie!!!
I've got a dummy in at work...... very handy for spitting out at meetings!

BK - Its actually not the first time she's done this. When ds was about 2 I told her all about my PND (she didn't know me much before then). She had just found out she was pregnant with her 1st and I said it made me really broody. She said "For goodness sake ***, you couldn't cope with your first, how the hell will you manage with another one!!?"

I didn't have much contact with her for a few months after that. Its not isolated to me..... she's like this with everyone... bit of an ongoing joke actually.

She's also told me off for giving ds baked beans on toast when he was 2. She gasped at me and said "You can't feed him that!! It's full of sugar and salt! MY baby will never have baked beans!" (again when she was pg with her first)

I remember starting a whole thread about her back then. It was verrrrrrry busy!

she sounds like me when I was when pg - my baby was not going to have salt, sugar, non organic, no snacks, sleep trained a la Gina Ford.
Well it all went t**ts up didn't it - soon as he was born - it all went out the window!