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Midwife says baby NOT allowed out for 10 days

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theITgirl · 22/09/2010 10:43

Posting on behalf of a friend who is due at end-Oct

This is what the midwife has said to her, and she asked me about last night. BTW this is when she gets home from hospital.

I said I was going out before 10 days with both of mine (both C-Sections) and I thought this was nonsense. Nobody is planning on climbing Mt Everest just a gentle potter to the corner shop to buy a paper.

But my babies were born in April & May so it was a bit warmer. We agreed that friend might not want to go out, I had just not heard of it not being allowed.

I wanted to double-check on here that I was not giving stupid advice.

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Plumm · 22/09/2010 10:45

How are they going to police that then? Put tags on the legs of all newborns to make sure t hey don't leave the house?

What a load of rubbish.

DameGladys · 22/09/2010 10:45

Never heard of such a thing!

Unless she or the baby have some special issues which she hasn't mentioned, it sounds barking to me.

Although, saying that, I loved the excuse to stay in pyjamas for a long time.

AllNightMilkBar · 22/09/2010 10:46

How's she planning to get the baby home then if she's not allowed out?

Claptrap and nonsense.

DastardlyandSmugly · 22/09/2010 10:46

I don't think they like you going out but they surely can't stop you.

When I had my two I was out with both the day after coming home from hospital and every day from then on. The midwife was always peturbed that I made her give me a time when she was coming around as she just expected me to be in.

SirBoobAlot · 22/09/2010 10:46

DS is a November baby and we took him into town for the first time when he was a week old.

She's talking rubbish.

lal123 · 22/09/2010 10:46

Your friend's MW is mad.

defyingravity · 22/09/2010 10:48

My m/w just warned me to be careful when I told her I had been shopping. I didn't have a car then and couldn;t fit the pram on the bus so she knew I was walking to town. She just warned me not to overdo it, I may get up there and not be able to walk all the way home again.

For my benefit not dd's!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 22/09/2010 10:49

DD was born 5 days before Christmas last year. I wouldnt of had a very good christmas if I wasnt allowed out for 10 days!

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theITgirl · 22/09/2010 10:50

Glad to see everyone agrees with me.
No special issues that I am aware of, she is going to a midwife led unit so pretty sure that there are none AND she would probably have told me if there were.

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RaisedFromPerdition · 22/09/2010 10:50

Well I had an em cs and was discharged 12hrs later. I had to go out to get home. Was I supposed to live in the hospital canteen?

And what would they have done to stop me going out? Put me on a lead and tie me to the washing line?

What tosh.

StewieGriffinsMom · 22/09/2010 10:50

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cory · 22/09/2010 10:50

Nonsense.

Again · 22/09/2010 10:50

It's just the start of the interference! As far as I'm concerned as long as there isn't a medical emergency the should mind their own business.

thedollshouse · 22/09/2010 10:51

It seems to change all the time.

When I had ds1 by elcs (6 years ago) the midwife told me to go out straight away. We were told at antenatal class that our lives should carry on exactly as before but with baby in tow. I felt this was bad advice as I don't think it helped with establshing bfing.

When I had ds2 by emcs earlier this year the midwife was surprised that I wanted to go out after 5 days and said that it would be better for both of us if we took it easy and stayed in for the first couple of weeks.

I think somewhere inbetween is preferable.

swallowedAfly · 22/09/2010 10:52

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Poshpaws · 22/09/2010 10:53

With DS1 (now 9) I was not told this. However, wehn I took him out for the first time at 4 day sold, a number of older women told me he was too young to be out. Maybe she thinks it's a good excuse to rest up. Can't say I blame her for suggesting it .

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HeftyNorks · 22/09/2010 10:54

I would check that the midwife hasn't just said they advise staying in for the first 10 days. It's standard advice to advise new mothers not to overdo it but saying "you are not allowed out" is over the top.

gorionine · 22/09/2010 10:54

Is it the MW way of telling your friend that for the first 10 days, when the midwifes come for home visits they would like your friend to be in? Nonsense otherwise!

DD1(May)was out after 5 days (I just could not stay IN the house for 1 more second!) and people kept telling me I was irresponsable she was in a moses basket with adequate clothing/covering.

Ds2(March) was born during a schol holiday so we probabably did not do much for quite a few days.

Ds3(May) was out of hospital after just a few hours and we went straight to "staples" to buy office furniture!

DD4(november) was also out of hospital after just a few hours and after a good night sleep we went to toddler group with her siblings as I did not want to change all their routine.

I will add that they all survived

FranSanDisco · 22/09/2010 10:54

Took mine to a Harvester when she was 2 days old. She is very cheeky now at 9 yo so I wonder if that was to blame? Maybe I should have picked a Nando's?

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 22/09/2010 10:55

DS1 was 12 hours old when we first went for a walk in the village.

DS2 was about 24 hours old. we would have gone to sainsburys a couple of hours after DS2 was born, but didn't because we were worried people would give us a hard time being out with such a tiny baby.

PaulineCampbellJones · 22/09/2010 10:56

I have never ever heard of this
DD was out at 4 days old in December. Not even the most competitive, do everything right mams I know said anything!

nickelbabe · 22/09/2010 10:57

i'd be inclined to think it was because your friend appeared not to want to rest after the baby is born.

Maybe the midwife thinks she's weak?

swallowedAfly · 22/09/2010 10:58

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abr1de · 22/09/2010 11:00

I took my January baby out within days. He had jaundice and needed sunlight. I desperately needed some fresh air and gentle exercise: it's what I'm used to.

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