Feeding to sleep - how can something so lovely be wrong?!

[heliotrope]

Have a 6 week old DS, I know it is early for routines but have been reading baby whisperer advice on not feeding to sleep, teaching baby to settle in their cot etc. I think she talks a lot of sense.

But, reading her makes me start thinking that I'm doing something 'wrong' when I let him cuddle and feed until really relaxed and falls asleep and then pop him in the cot (or just leave him in my bed as I might also be asleep by then! This is so nice for everyone involved - how can it be wrong? Do I really need to start stressing about this?!

I do put him down in cot sometimes as I don't want to put him on the boob with the sole purpose of making him sleep, and it is fine although we always have some cross crying before he finally settles.

Would love to hear experiences of anyone who has not stressed about all the routine stuff and just made the most of the lovely feeding times - is there an age that it is better not to do this - any problems stored up for later (as Baby whisperer would have it!).

Thanks

I followed the BW book to start with as well. I think because feeding to sleep and other non-BW techniques are referred to as 'accidental parenting' in the books makes you think they are in some way intrinsically bad, but they don't have to be at all - neither do they have to be accidental, you could just choose to help your baby go to sleep this way. Anyway I spent several months doing shush pat and it kind of worked OK, but as soon as we started weaning, I ended up feeding to sleep as it was the only way to fit in all her milk feeds and her solid food. I've now ended up feeding her to sleep every night, but tbh it just works for us.

Don't stress about it; you may also find yourself doing things differently in a few months time

btw my dd is now 8 months old