Is it normal for a child to talk about oral sex?

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Just asking, because I informed the mum about it and she has gone mental against... me.

I know she leaves her child, frequently overnight, under the care of single men. So I thought it was a good idea to let her know about what her child mentioned to mine, just in case something was going on.

She has gone ballistic, accused me of trying to ruin her happiness with lies. Family thinks this kind of talk is normal between children but is it? Do 8 year olds talk about oral sex?

I think I did the right thing by telling her, but did I?

They shouldn't even know it exists, let alone be talking about it...

In what context are they talking about it? If it simply what they may have overheard, and not really understanding they possibly it's just one of those things. But if showing some level of understanding and detail in correct context then I am . My DC's (6 and 5) are SOOOOOOOO innocent. I know that won't last forever, of course, but that is really appalling.

no I don't hink it is at all normal for an 8 year old to know about oral sex ( in the sense of common knowledge).

if you are in the throes of getting divorced and the mother of this dc is your ex's new partner, it is difficult I can see that. I still think you did the right thing in telling the mother, what else could you have done.

Their reaction seems inappropriate to me but it sounds like they think you are just being vindictive (divorce) or have some other aim. It sounds like they don't believe or want to believe it. I would have thought a mother would have wanted to investigate but apparently she does not want to know

If you know infomation about a child which maybe at risk then u are responsible for reporting what you know, if this child has been abused and SS discover this then surely the mother of the child will in the end be thanking you for protecting her child from more harm, my dcs always giggle about bums and willys etc but this is natural they do NOT know about oral sex even my 11yr ds does not know what it is let alone want to play the game.........IT IS YOUR RESPONSIBILTY TO SAFEGUARD THIS CHILD. Please please report it, think about all the adults which turn a blind eye to possible child abuse, these children need our help and this little innocent boy needs your help.
I'm sorry that you feel scared and i understand you need to put your child first, but your son has you to protect him..this child has no one.
I really do hope you make the right decision x

That's the thing ZZZ, thye have accused me of being vindictive but to be honest, our relationship was well dead before the split, I do not want him back, neither does he want me back. We ended in good terms, we have had other relationships after the split and we all were in very friendly terms. But since he started with partner number 2, he seems pretty convinced I want him back, even when he has seen me falling in love like an idiot... for another man.

You must report it.
When ds was in year 1, he went to tea with a boy in his class.
On coming home, he said he didn't want to go there again as the boy had wanted him to put his willy in his mouth because it felt good
I didn't know the mother well- and I actually told the headteacher. Soon after that thew family moved......

and obviously, I have just outed myself... sigh*

Just report your last two posts and ask for them to be deleted. short memories on MN I think generally.