as a generalisation are girls easier to bring up than boys?

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I would like parents and teachers views on this. Because I do some hobby writing; and am interested in parenting and education. Girls do appear to get into less trouble and school and in later life. In
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No

no

no just different

no they are most definitely not.

anyone who says they are is deluded.

No not in my experience. My DS is much easier than either of my DDs. However one of DDSs was much easier than the other. Personality and situations are far more relevant than gender IMO.

As i sit here listening to 3dds constant fighting (physical fighting from morning to night), and their drifting from toy to toy (for all of 2 mins at each thing), I would say definately no.

It is down the the individual child as to how easy they are, and how they interact with siblings (or how they enjoy being an only child). Many factors contribute imo.

no

No.

My mother had 3 girls and one boy. My brother was the easiest.

No.

Imagine two grumpy, whiny children. A boy and a girl.

The boy may be hungry, thirsty, tired or bored.

The girl may also be hungry, thirsty, tired or bored. Or her knickers are the wrong colour. Or her cuddly toys are not properly aligned. Or her friend at school may have said something that make the girl think they might not be best friends tomorrow. Or she doesn't know which pair of shoes to wear at the school disco next month.

Which do you think is easier to deal with?

Does anyone really think girls are easier than boys?

Mommy2BubbanHun has hit the nail on the head.

Got to change that name.

don't agree with that at all - ds has been the easiest of my 3 - physical without doubt, but seriously loads less emotional stuff going on than dds 1 and 2. and that's even given that he's 13 and in the stroppy teenage phase. the dds are 10 and 4 and give me soooo much more grief - really not looking forward to them being teenagers.

I have one of each and my daughter prods my psyche with a sharp stick on a regular basis. My son wags his tail and smiles when he's happy and well-fed.

Obviously it could all be different in 20 years. My son will be too laidback to pick up the phone and ring his mum.

Bit of a ridiculous idea if you ask me. In my experience boys are louder, but girls are more whiney and have friendship problems that are dragged out (sometimes for years). Boys may well be more likely to get into more trouble at school, but at least they can't come home pregnant at 14yrs old. Oh, and the student that was this week permanently excluded from dd1's school for being a violent danger to other pupils was a girl.

i am finding that dd is more mentally draining and ds is more physically draining, i dont think either of them is easier or harder to parent just very different!

I have one girl and two boys.

When dd is out of the house and we just have the boys here it's peaceful and calm, meals are more relaxed, nobody is shouting or crying and we all plod along easily.

When dd is here it's akin to living in a warzone... people are screaming and crying, often in pain, the boys are randomly assaulted and or screamed at, there is never a seconds quiet as she has to be shouting and making noise constantly, we're surrounded by thuds and crashes as she's like a bull in a chinashop. And she cries, loudly and hysterically, over the most ridiculous things. Her friendships are oddly intense, meaning when they go wrong things get nasty.

And she's only 5

I have actually heard people say the opposite. I think boys can be more straight forward once they are a bit older, jeans and a top and they are generally happy. Girls, well, look at all the clothes, accessories etc marketed at girls. Then there are the 'role models' that girls tend to look up to. Too skinny celebs etc that they want to be like. Boys don't tend to be that fussed by things like that.

I know some people say that boys are more boisterous, rough and tumble etc but I think some of that is down to how you expect them to be and what you say. At our toddler group a few weeks ago, 2 boys were running around, rolling on the ground with each other etc whilst a girl was sat quietly on her mums lap. The mums of the boys commented on how unruly their boys were and that the girl ws so good sat there nicely. It was quite obvious that she actually didn't fell well so it was hardly a fair comparision.

It all depends on individual children obviously but I know of quite a few people who say that boys are easier than girls.

Well I think it depends on the stage they are at. I have found my DS to be a harder toddler to deal with but he was an easier baby. By the sound of it boys are easier than girls as teenagers so it is swings and roundabouts really.

No IME it's been the other way round.

I snorted out loud when i read this thread title - heartily agree with the many posters on here about the reverse being the case - mommy2 hit the nail on the head for me too!! i have two kids, one a feisty, bright, witty, moody, dominating girl who has caused me more angst and heartache and made me question my sanity, not to mention my parenting, on more occasions than i care to remember! her pre-school years were the most testing of my entire life to date. my son is a walk in the park in comparison!!! at the moment DD is 9, and pretty much the most relaxed she has ever been (which is still not very) - i am enjoying her very much while still feeling exhausted by the end of the day. but MAN do i dread those teenage years

Nope, I know nightmare boy and nightmare girls. They all go through horrid phases, just at different times. I only have a ds so far and I have to say he was a terrible baby but never been hard work since he could talk well at about 18 months. Some of my friends with dream baby girls are having a terrible time now. It's swings and roundabouts and all dependant on the personality imo.

agree with tulips'post
thank god it's not just me!