as a generalisation are girls easier to bring up than boys?

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I would like parents and teachers views on this. Because I do some hobby writing; and am interested in parenting and education. Girls do appear to get into less trouble and school and in later life. In
England it tends to have class aspects. I suppose there is no definitve answer to the question I am raising; but we can have a discussion on it.....I am still a novice on
Mumsnet sites. Please dont keep me in for detention otr give me lines. I am a bitold for the naughty stool

I think I'm pretty lucky with both of mine, neither is a lot of trouble but ds is certainly easier than d. That said, we think ds has AS so it might be later in life he gets more tricky.

My 6yo boy is just as complicated to understand as your girl description, MommyBubbanHun.

No, I am kidding myself.

DS2 is far far worse than MBH's description.

Sorry to run against the tide, but my lifetime experience is that girls are generally a lot easier -- not just my own DC (1 DD + 3 boys), but in most the families I've ever known well.

Another reason (sorry about getting on my soapbox here) that girls tend to be much easier to parent (and teach, any study will back that up, too) is because female brains are better programmed biologically to be emotionally literate.

My lads get upset they can't articulate half of what happened or how they feel about it or how things escalated or even what they're feeling now. Most girls are much more emotionally literate than most boys (better emotional Quotient, if you will). They can identify their feelings, talk about them better, and also have better self-control on average when it comes to acting on their feelings.

You can find any number of neuroscience studies to back those points up.

It could be worth posting this in the education section. My memory is that (some) boys were much harder for the teacher to control than any of the girls. It would be interesting to see what teachers think.

bringing up covers an awfully long period of time.

I have both & IME, over that entire awfully long period, girls are generally a bit easier pre-puberty & boys are generally a bit easier post-puberty.

(but girls will usually talk about what's bothering them which can be a help when times are tough)

I have 3 girls and a boy. My son is by far the easiest (3rd born). I've no idea if their teachers would agree with me though!

I hesitated before replying to this because I think you already have the answer to your question. Like many here I have one of each and I know which one is easier, without a shadow of a doubt. And you will have already guessed that it's not my daughter. My parents in law only had two boys and they are regularly at a loss to know how to deal with dd. My son is like my husband and his brother - easy going, sweet natured and easily appeased when upset. My dd is highly strung, can be manipulative and gets upset about the strangest things. She's still lovely - just more complicated. Sometimes she is frighteningly mature at the tender age of six and already seems in a hurry to grow up. I suspect she will give me hell as a teenager because she has very definite views on what she will and wont do. I have to work hard at outsmarting her and ensuring that I don't let her ride roughshod all over me. My son is happy as long as he's fed and watered and getting him to follow my rules is childs play!

Thanks for all the responses, I did not mean to upset some of you. Bless