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Jaydon/Haydon/Cayden

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candyflossbaby · 05/06/2010 20:39

I neither dislike/like these names but a friend of mine is considering all of these for her son due next month. Why do so many people hate these names, she asked my opinion but I said I wasn't sure, but had got the impression from mumsnet in the past that these names should be avoided??

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tootootired · 07/06/2010 22:30

this article is interesting

I think the spelling variations don't help

But I am all for people making a name their own.

TotallyWipedout · 07/06/2010 22:30

I am very sorry to hear it.

LadyPeterWimsey · 07/06/2010 22:30

Hope you don't mind me linking, Psammead, but I thought this was brilliant.

TotallyWipedout · 07/06/2010 22:30

(That was aimed at Kizzi!)

rachxx · 07/06/2010 22:31

Lol totallywipedout, I think you just missed the point.

kizzibear · 07/06/2010 22:33

That poem was good! It made me laugh!

TotallyWipedout · 07/06/2010 22:34

Very likely, rachxx. DCs went back to school today for four weeks, and then they break up for summer. It is entirely possible that I am processing nothing at all sensible in the light of this prospect.

bigstripeytiger · 07/06/2010 22:38

I know a Caiden, who is lovely and very middle class. I think that Haydon is fine too. I dont live in an area where these names are common though.

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candyflossbaby · 07/06/2010 22:38

I think totallywipedout made an unfortunate comment regarding voting labour which under any other situation would have been taken as a joke. Kizzi and totallywipedout were just having fun with each other, and I don't think either of them were taking it seriously, or actually offended one another (I hope not) I didnt realise my thread would start so much debate, lol.

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SE13Mummy · 07/06/2010 22:40

I'm not keen on that particular collection of names because of the people I've encountered with those names... I'm also not keen on the names Molly, Megan, Joe, Tanya or Joshua because of the people I associate them with.

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candyflossbaby · 07/06/2010 22:43

tootootired there are loads of variations!! Thnaks for posting

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stressheaderic · 07/06/2010 22:49

I quickly learnt that Mumsnet is not an even cross section of society. It is one of the more literate parenting websites (is it OK to say that?!) and attracts possibly a more educated (and by that I don't mean 'has a degree', I just mean a bit more with it, and witty) type of person, or certainly one who can hold their own intelligently in a debate. That's what I love about it.

I digress slightly but the point I'm trying to make is that people here tend to generally like more traditional names, or unusual but upper-class names.

So don't read too much into it - there's a huge swath of the population who are Jayden/Cayden/Hayden fans, but they don't really reside her, so don't be downhearted if the majority of folk don't really like those names, and if your friend likes them, she should go for them. They are very very popular at the moment.

Fwiw, Hayden - I think you'd get away with. The other two would date very quickly, you'd have to bear that in mind.

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candyflossbaby · 07/06/2010 23:03

That is one of the reasons I like mumsnet stressheaderic people all have their own opinions and don't 'go with the flow' or with whats currently trendy, but stick to their long standing beliefs.

The main thing I hate is stereotyping a name, it just comes across as slightly snobby.

Alot of traditional names are still chosen by the 'council/chav/un-educated mums' (no offence intended)so it kind of works both ways.

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TotallyWipedout · 08/06/2010 08:57

Candyfloss, thank you. Your interpretation is spot on.

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candyflossbaby · 08/06/2010 10:08

Which comment Totallywipedout?

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imahappycamper · 08/06/2010 11:48

Isn't Hayden a perfectly acceptable Welsh name. I know an adult one who is fine.

TotallyWipedout · 08/06/2010 15:08

This one, Candy: "think totallywipedout made an unfortunate comment regarding voting labour which under any other situation would have been taken as a joke. Kizzi and totallywipedout were just having fun with each other, and I don't think either of them were taking it seriously, or actually offended one another (I hope not) I didnt realise my thread would start so much debate, lol."

BTW, I encountered a toddler Jaydon/Jayden/Jaden today (I know it was his name, as his mother kept shouting it). He was alternately screaming, sucking a dummy and eating Haribo.

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candyflossbaby · 08/06/2010 19:44

Oh right, straight after I posted, I realised!!

Typical you saw one today, must have made you smile!!

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TotallyWipedout · 08/06/2010 20:24

It did indeed!

alyshay · 16/09/2010 05:14

my sons name is SHAYDEN TAI as i simply loved the name SHAY but felt it was to short for my liking-Everyone has their own opinion though-but in NZ it is not a very popular name as of yet so i like having a name that is unique(for this moment in time in my town)bahahaha

Flighttattendant · 16/09/2010 07:18

They just sound made up in a really uninspired way. Like someone just took a sound rather than a name and thought Oh that's a bit different.

let's stick a 'den' on the end of it and it's a name!

Haydn has been around for ages and is from the surname I think. But nobody's surname is Jaydon.

It's 'Jay' with 'don' on the end. Maybe to make it more masculine? It has no meaning at all either. I like a name with a meaning.

Also there seems to be a cultural thing about all these names, as many names also have a cultural element ie you are unlikely to find certain names among certain cultures, and more likely to find others.

It's hard to explain exactly why but the children I have known with these names almost always have had mothers I don't get on with or have much in common with, at least on the surface. So I don't want to choose the name for my child because it would affiliate me with them, and I don't feel that would make sense. It seems to have a resonance or an appeal I just don't get.

I would feel I was intruding.

usualsuspect · 16/09/2010 07:32

Because you might catch chav Wink

Flighttattendant · 16/09/2010 07:37

No, not really, it's more that they are really ugly names imo. And the people who use them seem to like them...which sets us apart. I doubt I would be friends with someone who was willing to name their baby Keith, either.

Just hideous names.

Maybe that's how it works. If you disagree on names and the beauty or otherwise thereof, maybe you carve out your own niche where others around you have the same tastes.

Flighttattendant · 16/09/2010 07:40

After all, when someone says 'Oh here is my new baby and I have called him Barry' you want to be able to smile and say 'Oh that's gorgeous!' and if you are doing your fake smile and thinking 'that is grotesque' you are not going to be friends for long. Unless you have a long history.

So you gravitate towards other mums of Michaels and Arthurs and Lucys etc.

and all the mums of Jaydons and Caydens and Lee-jameses can big up each other's name choices.

usualsuspect · 16/09/2010 07:48

I make friends with all sorts of people...I couldn't care less what they call their kids ...Why would you make friends with someone based on their choice of names? seems wrong to me

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