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My Wife Is Set On This Baby Name

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Maffew · 27/03/2010 21:40

Hi

I know this place is for ladies but don't shoot me down.

My wife and I are having our first child, a boy, in May and she is set on calling him Piers.

I have tried to suggest other names but she is having none of it!
I can't stand this name, in my mind I keep imagining Brighton Pier and then worse...Piers Morgan.

What can I do to persuade her on a different name? She just won't listen

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LeSingeEstDansLarbre · 27/03/2010 21:41

it's not great, is it? oh well, she's the one going through labour, i'm sure you'll get to like it in the end.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 27/03/2010 21:43

maffew you are just gonna have to suck it up

Pierce is an alternative spelling

(LeSinge are you who I think you are??)

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Maffew · 27/03/2010 21:44

Then I'll think of James Bond. Okay it's not as bad but argh!

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hellymelly · 27/03/2010 21:45

Piers.hmm.not a great choice I have to say,makes me think of rather weedy and prim little boy whose mummy never lets him get muddy,either that or a fat boorish drunken sloane in a wine bar.How about Nicholas instead?

jkklpu · 27/03/2010 21:45

or Pearse if you have any Irish blood
One of my best friends is called this but I've always been rather about it. There are much better associations than Morgan, however, eg Piers Plowman. Could you negotiate it to a midle name

cazzybabs · 27/03/2010 21:46

you could be slightly evil and say as soon as he is born you know he juts doesn't look like a piers...he looks like (insert prefered name) and then say never mind just when it had started to grow on me...maybe it will suit the next one...

[disclamer I will not be sued for if this results in divorce]

LeSingeEstDansLarbre · 27/03/2010 21:47

what kind of a question is that, baldy?

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Maffew · 27/03/2010 21:48

no Irish blood.

I have funnily enough suggested Nick in the past but she didn't like that.

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thedollshouse · 27/03/2010 21:51

Piers was high on our list too but the Piers Morgan connection meant that we couldn't use it.

nooka · 27/03/2010 21:53

If you really don't like it then you should just say so, and then the two of you should choose another name. Both parents need to like the names of their children, neither gets the casting vote IMO.

JustMyTwoPenceWorth · 27/03/2010 21:53

Can you agree that you choose the middle name, then you can pick something you think better and at least your child will have a choice to use his middle name when if he grows up to hate piers.

I know I always joke on threads like this that you get to name anyone you push out of your body but in all seriousness, I think it is not fair for one parent to unilaterally decide on something so important as the name. Jokes aside, it is selfish and saying that you don't matter. But you do. It's your child too.

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Maffew · 27/03/2010 21:53

what did you go with in the end?

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hellymelly · 27/03/2010 21:54

does she have a crush on Piers Brosnan? Also I have to say that it is usual for both parents to have to agree on a name (hence my dd getting to six weeks and still being "baba")

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Maffew · 27/03/2010 21:56

hellymelly - no she just says she loves the name

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thedollshouse · 27/03/2010 21:58

We are going for Rory, Tobias was also high on our list.

Skegness · 27/03/2010 21:59

Disagree with the "she labours therefore she gets carte blanche on choice of names" view. While I would fully support the labouring woman getting the final say in the event of a mild disagreement on names that both partners like, names that one partner actively hates should not be used, in my view. Further, I agree with you that Piers is a truly dreadful name. Does she really understand that you HATE it? Have you had a serious conversation about it? (My partner was so jokey about names that I sometimes found it hard to work out what he really thought!)

rabbit54 · 27/03/2010 21:59

Maffew you cant call your child a name you dont like. You have to find one you agree on. Both father and mother have equal right if you are going to bring up child together. Unless there is some other deal going whereby "she" does all the laundry, cleaning, child care and most cooking and shopping and goes to work in which case she can call the child any name she likes?

Missus84 · 27/03/2010 22:01

Pierce is a better compromise on Piers.

Tyson86 · 27/03/2010 22:02

Why has she had the casting vote, did you have the choice if it was a girl?
You have to both like the name, if you dislike it this much then it is very unfair for her to use it.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 27/03/2010 22:03

(sorry LeSinge was overcome by nosiness)

Undercovamutha · 27/03/2010 22:04

If you HATE the name, you must insist on a rethink. We had a shortlist of about 3 or 4 names for both of our DCs. We both agreed with DD, but not with DS. I got the deciding vote (as I had just given birth!) but it was a name that was on our shortlist - just not DH's absolute favourite.

I could never go for a name that I knew DH couldn't stand. And as for Piers......

BrahmsThirdRacket · 27/03/2010 22:08

Piers is a shit name, and both parents must at least not hate their kid's name.

piscesmoon · 27/03/2010 22:09

Insist she changes-you both have to like it and she has to compromise. I didn't have any of my favourites-we had to work hard to find something in common. (tell her that if she doesn't compromise ,it will be your turn next time).

Slambang · 27/03/2010 22:11

Hi Maff - Talk to her calmly. Tell her straight. She is not going to pop or swoon just because she is pg. She can take it!

BTW = please don't call us ladies. Women, mums, parents anything but laydees

LeSingeEstDansLarbre · 27/03/2010 22:17

no it's fine, i just don't know who you htink i am.

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