My Wife Is Set On This Baby Name

[Maffew]

Hi

I know this place is for ladies but don't shoot me down.

My wife and I are having our first child, a boy, in May and she is set on calling him Piers.

I have tried to suggest other names but she is having none of it!
I can't stand this name, in my mind I keep imagining Brighton Pier and then worse...Piers Morgan.

What can I do to persuade her on a different name? She just won't listen

My dh and I are expecting #2 in September. We just repeated the naming approach we took first time round. Each of us spent 2 weeks independently going through names picking our top boys and girls names and then presented them to each other on an evening out with no distractions. We had an open discussion on what we do and don't like. If either of us really disliked a name we'd talk through why and then rule it out and move on.

Dh had 40 names on his list and I had 11 some of which I was quite attached to, but if he didn't like it then we need to keep looking. We included names, meanings, origin, ranking and possible nicknames.

I would try and discuss with your wife that you both have to live with this name for the rest of all your lives so its important to agree

Maybe suggest setting aside some time for a similar naming chat. This way your wife will see that you are keen to be part of the process and you are bringing more than one alternative suggestion to the table.

Its not easy, we were lucky that we had similar versions of our first son's name high up on our lists, #2 is harder.

Same here - DH and I both had a veto on names we hated. Made a list of all possibles and took off anything we individually couldn't stand. Then we mused over time until DD's name quite surprisingly rose to the top.

You have to tell the world this child's name and if you hate it he will eventually cotton on that you are less than keen on it.

I lost some of my potential favourite names when DH vetoed them - but then I also avoided some names DH would have chosen that I hate or have bad associations for.

Piers I don't like at all - it has a certain pinstripe style that isn't me and makes me think of a real stereotyped city soul.

why does she get to choose thats not nice, y dont u pick a ramdom crap name and say right this is what i am calling him !!!i am sure she wouldnt let u, put ur foot down, its ur baby to!!

Can't get beyond Piers Morgan.......urrrggghhh! Put your foot down - it HAS to be a name you both agree on.

And I am very grateful that my dad put his foot down because my mum had some really hideous names lined up for me!

Names have to be a joint choive imo.

For ds I wanted Sebastian and dp wanted George. We both, for various personal associations, vetoed each others top choice but we both love his compromise name now.

Peers is another spelling option.

I know a grown-up Piers who hates his name.
If you have to name him that, at least go for the other spelling (Pierce).

Read the whole thread, people. Please.

y did u write that??

My grandparents had a standoff for a whole year over my dad's name after he was born -- GM liked his first name, Neil, and GF hated it, and called him by his second instead, Geoffrey. GF won, thank god (Neil. . . shudder).

Really NOT a good idea for one parent to refuse to compromise.

(Though mind you, my grandparents had the kind of relationship where he swore at her, she threw a ketchup bottle at him, he ducked and it splattered all the way down the wall, and it was still there 3 years later when they sold the house because both of them refused to clean it up. Weirdly, they stayed together all their lives.)