Caused family upset by boys name choice - Help pls!!

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After much consideration we had decided on Jesse as the name if baby is a boy. I had suggested lots to DH & Jesse is the only one he really likes apart from Zac, which sounds like a sneeze when said with our surname Asher.

Asher is a old Hebrew name, one of the tribes of Israel and means to be happy / blessed. Isaac means to laugh which would give the name a lovely meaning but doesn't flow well - Isaac Asher / Zach Asher. (Also it is quite popular in our area)

Jesse is fab, old biblical name, cool snowboarder / surfer type guys spring to mind, and I also associate it with a kind wise old man character. It is a 'proper' name but uncommonly used, however we are in the North and it does have the slightly negative connotation of someone being a 'mummy's boy', which DH thinks is irrelevant & he said he would be happy if Jesse was his name.

The problem lies with my parents - my father is 70, & my mum has told my sister that he keeps having some sort of terrible funny turn / peculiar episode whenever he thinks of it, (he's recovering from a major op. too so feeling guilty of causing him distress) They both dislike it(understatement), & my mum keeps referring to a mummys boy character called Jesse in a soap she watches?? The rest of the family diapprove too but less bothered about them TBH (not keen on the names they picked for their LO's)

So my question is:
1)do we stick with it & everyone will get used to it? (& deal with the guilt if he's picked on later?)

2)Try & think of an alternative (any ideas??)

3. Bury head in sand & hope the bump is pink so we don't have the problem

(sorry missed the fact the post was old) so did you name him Jesse in the end?

My Mum cried when I told her our son's name and was awful about it saying everyone in my extended family was taking the piss out of us for. NOT what I needed after a terrible birth. Anyway - most people love it and we love it and it suits him and she adores him and his name no longer matters as much in that way (non traditional name in traditional family) - go with your gut instinct. Once the baby is born, it becomes the name and everyone will love it. Good luck.

Jesse is a wonderful name! I also think of Jesse Jackson and Jesse Owens which portray strong masculine imagery to me. Also, there seems to be a resurgence in this name in the States, so it isn't that uncommon anymore.

go for it and stuff your parents - they are of a different generation!

Please come back and tell us how it worked out!!

Would love to know how this turned out!

My ds is named Aidan. Dh's family are Northern Ireland protestants. It was fine with his mum, dad, brother etc but it took his 85 year old Grandma a week to say it out loud as she thought it was a "Catholic" name and that was a bit much for her (she couldn't even pronounce the word "catholic", she mouthed it silently or said "taig" - she was an old bigot but we all let it pass as she was old!)

We're in Scotland. My dd2 has Jessie as her middle name (my Gran's name). I don't know any boys up here called Jesse, its just asking for trouble, but these days I think it is a uniquely Scottish thing.

I had the same with our son Gabriel, (Gay boy!, blahdy blahdy blah!)

HOWEVER everyone now loves his name and think it's rather cool.

I've never known a Gabriel, nor have any of my family so i can see why - it's 'unusual' (yay and uncommon around here)

Funnily enough it was dp's first choice and his second ?

Jesse

Stick to your guns....I have been through this with my 3rd child, MIL was hideous bitch all through the last 2 weeks of my pregnancy about our name choice.

We modified it a bit because of her and she still didn't like it. You can't please people so don't even bother trying

I know this is an old thread but....absolutely go with your choice. As someone else has said, your parents have made their decision about baby names and now it is your turn.

When pregnant with DS, we stupidly told our family what our thoughts were. My mum told us the local butcher when she was a child was called Archie and killed himself (!) and when we mentioned Milo as another possibility, my BIL said it sounded like a milky drink! MIL disliked a third choice and declared she would not call the baby what we decided. Honestly, both sides of the family (esp DH's, surprise surprise!) were quite mean about our choices. If there is another time, we will be following some friends of ours and not telling a soul until baby here and we make a final decision!

when I announced our sons name my mums said ' that will take a bit of getting used to' she is usually very supportive about everything but now my son is himself it suits him and shes fine!
we delinerately did not share either of our childrens names before they were here so they could not be frowned upon and will be doing the same thing this time round becasue we have rather unususal taste in names!

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