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Arghhhh can't pick a name and feel incredibly guilty!

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lola0109 · 29/12/2009 13:01

Hia, DD2 due in March, a while away, I know. But DP and I can't agree on a name, in fact we can't even agree on maybes!

I'm probably just over emotional but its making me feel really guilty as we picked a name for DD1 that we both loved and now feel as if DD2 is getting the short straw!

Anyway, how long did it take some people to decide on babes names, even after they arrived and did people just settle on a name and regret it or did they grow to love it!

Did anyone have any unique methods of picking names (we've tried the eddie stobbard method, no luck )

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rubyslippedonastraymincepie · 29/12/2009 13:07

eddie stobart?

dd was named 6 days after she was born

ninedragons · 29/12/2009 13:09

Just make a list of all the maybes and see what suits her when she's born.

It took us nearly a week to name DD. No-one is going to report you to Social Services if you don't have a name chosen by 16 weeks' gestation.

thesecondcoming · 29/12/2009 13:10

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ninedragons · 29/12/2009 13:10

By maybes, I mean write down all the names that either of you likes. At least it will get you past the roadblock. I know a few people who called their DC something that hadn't even been discussed during pregnancy.

mrsvwoolf · 29/12/2009 13:17

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jellybeans · 29/12/2009 13:20

Look through names stats, come up with lists and whittle down to few you both like a lot.
We were stuck between 2 names for DS but chose the right one in the end, albeit a few hours after he was born.

littledawleybaubles · 29/12/2009 13:22

DS's name was the only boy name that I ever loved so on two subsequent pregnancies I felt exactly the same as you. With my 2 DDs, the first was the one that I loved the second was a compromise which I wasn't sure would fit. Now I prefer DD2's name as it's much less common.

Just go through a book and write down all of the names you like. Get your DH to go through it crossing them out. When you have a shortlist, write them down (How they looked written was v.important to me!!) and put the list up somewhere that you see every day - something will come to you.

I have no idea how we came about DD2's name, it certainly wasn't discussed with the other two.

MrsSawdust · 29/12/2009 13:25

I bought a baby names dictionary and went through it methodically, making a list of all the names I really liked (about 20 in total) then I showed my list to DH who struck off all but 4 names. In the last month of pg we whittled that down to 2. One of which he favoured and the other one I favoured. (We had already picked 2 middle names after family members so couldn't have both names)

So, after all this careful preparation and deliberation, dd was born and neither name seemed to fit. She remained nameless for 24 hours until DH said a name that just popped into his head, that we hadn't even considered before. It just worked. We both cried!

Good luck

PoinsettiaBouquets · 29/12/2009 14:59

For DS2 We only had one boy's name that we agreed on, there simply wasn't anything else that one of us didn't hate.

I would produce 2 or 3 each day that I had been thinking about. His task was to pick his least hated one each time and I would stick it on what became his shortlist. If that got too long I would whittle it down again having changed my mind about half of the names anyway LOL.

Girls' names were simply not a problem, we had 3 or 4 possibles for DS2 but he had a winkle in the end.

mathanxiety · 29/12/2009 16:12

We came up with a name for DC4, from our shortlist, plus a middle name also from the shortlist, on the way to the hospital, and then I changed my mind about the middle name right after she was born. The half hour after a baby is born is your window of opportunity to have baby given your choice of name, ladies

We had arrived at the shortlist by agreeing on the idea that we would use family names or Irish saint names. ExH was adamant about not liking a few girls' names I really loved, and I was prepared to club him to death if DC4 had been a boy and he had insisted on the ridiculous boy's name he really wanted. Lucky for him it didn't come to that.

VoilaAnotherGimlet · 30/12/2009 14:24

what's the Eddie Stobart method?

SplitPea · 30/12/2009 15:19

Yes, I want to know too!

katnkittens · 30/12/2009 15:23

I'm guessing it's something to do with the fact that all ES lorries have a different girls name printed on the front.

Maybe randomly standing on bridges until an ES lorry goes past and using whatever name is on it?

SplitPea · 30/12/2009 15:26

Ahhhh.....think you could be right

Clary · 30/12/2009 15:30

secondcoming we used to do that TV credits thing too.

Still find myself doing it now and then DS2 is 6 oh dear!

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MrsSawdust · 30/12/2009 16:02

Thesecondcoming - Yes of course you can use William too! They could get shortened differently anyway - Bill is very cool I think, or Billy, Will, Wills etc. It wouldn't stop me using a name I really liked. Run it past your friend and see what she thinks.

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lowrib · 30/12/2009 16:22

I went through about 8 baby names books, and really couldn't decide. DP had lots of names he liked, I couldn't seem to find one.

The day after he was born, we chose one from my DPs list which I liked best. I love the name now.

My tip would be to really spend time saying names out loud, and trying to be positive about them and seeing if you like them after a while. I found it really easy to dismiss names when I first heard them (8 books worth, read cover to cover!)

But once I took more time to consider names, I came to like some of them.

I lurk on the baby names threads now! No 2nd DC planned (yet anyway) but I find I still like thinking about names. If I start thinking about them now, if we ever do have a 2nd I think a few years is about what I need to come up with a proper list of my own! (I have one or two in mind already )

Heated · 30/12/2009 16:29

Lola, what about telling us DD1's first name and then getting us to suggest both boys and girls names that we think are of a similar ilk? Maybe one will leap out at you or you'll be able come up with a likely short-list.

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lola0109 · 31/12/2009 21:15

That is indeed the Eddie Stobart method. You are supposed to just go with the name of the first truck you see but the ones we've seen would be bordering on child cruelty!

I've taken to reading absolutely everything with names, credits on tv, magazines etc. My bookshelf, cd's anything at all!

We've done the write 10 names each but nothing!

DD1 is Ainslie Frances. I would like the middle name Ellen for DD2 but its not essential as I should really concentrate on getting a first name!

We have an unfortunate surname, a body part. We have considered just using Ellen/Ellie but with our surname it sounds like Elephant and the girls in my family tend not to be dainty!

DP liked Carys and it had started to grow on me so I tried to get DD1 to say it one night and DP just said, i don't like it anymore, it's too harsh!

Any ideas on names or interesting naming methods would be appreciated!

thesecondcoming I love Irvine!! Please choose that!

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Heated · 31/12/2009 21:33

Are you having another girl?

Catriona
Lorna
Lowri
Merryn
Meredith
Eirlys
Seren

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lola0109 · 31/12/2009 21:37

Yup according to my 20 week scan, which I am pleased about but have a funny feeling it's a boy! Tempted to get a private scan just to make sure.

How do you pronounce Eirlys?

I like Seren but have a niece Erin, too close?

If it makes a difference we live just outside Glasgow so name will be said in a glaswegian accent!

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MrsWillis · 31/12/2009 22:10

We couldn't decide on DD's name for ages. I had DS's name picked out since I was about 14 but we just couldn't think of one we both liked for DD.
In the end I was in a cafe and saw a letter on a wall that a mum had sent to the staff to thank them for something and she had signed it from her and her daughter. I told DH the daughter's name and that was it, we had picked. So names can just come to you all of a sudden!

Her name is Lola btw

ElvisScavo · 31/12/2009 22:16

The Eddie Stobart method wont work unless you want something like Lesley Jane or Jade Lorraine.

There is loads of time to decide. Is DD1 Lola?

We need to know, what her name is so we can tell you the perfect name.

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