Xavier is 5wks but I cringe when asked his name! Help!

[auntymel]

I like Xavier as a name but when anybody asks his name nobody can repeat it back and nobody says that's nice! I'm now at the stage of avoiding striking up conversation or lying and saying his name is John to strangers! Have I made a mistake is it horrible and too pretentious and will Xavier have a horrible time his whole life? My other DS is Sebastian and I always get compliments.

Personally I think it's a lovely name

If you like the name Xavier and it suits him, then there isn't a problem.

If you have changed your mind over the name, then it can be changed. but is it more that you're worried about what people think than what you think?

FWIW, I think Xavier's a very handsome name.

I really like it, it goes really well with Sebastian which I also love.

I can't believe you don't get complimented on your choice!

If it doesn't feel right to you now or for the baby, change it.

I like both names, but I like Xavier better.

I LOVE dd1's name. But people seem to have very mixed reactions to it. I either get "what a lovely name" or "Sorry, what did you say she was called/Thats, erm, unusual isn't it?" accompanied with a face.

She is five now, and loves her name. Although not long ago, she wanted to change it to Cherry Apple Rose Blossom. I told her I would consider it if she wanted to named that @ age 13

I don't regret giving her her name though.

It doesn't sound pretentious to me. It sounds like the sort of name that he will grow into, iyswim. It's a very 'grown up', special sort of name. Lovely, too

If you really aren't happy with it, though, change it! He is only 5 weeks old. Better now than later on, I say.

Agree - if you feel like this -change it.

I think its lovely, really unusual and not at all pretentious.

Give him a more 'conventional' middle name, so he can swap them around, or you can, if you feel you have made a mistake. I think it's a beautiful name FWIW, though I'm not sure how to pronounce it...
Is it 'havier' (I had a french friend pronounce it that) or 'Zavier?'

its a fab name

am pg with baby #3 and my friend was telling me I must use it as its her favourite ever
i don't think it's pretentious, and even if it is, pretentious names are de rigeur at the moment.

if it's not working out for you in real life use though, you can always change it - what else would you pick though? has he a middle name you could use instead?

and lol at "john" I used to just get so sic of having the same conversations with strangers I would make stuff up anyway

i knew a xavier at school, it was fine. He was called xav though!

I felt a bit like this with DS who is called Xander (Xavier was our other option!)I loved it before he was born and love it now but it did take me a while to get used to it as it's not a "baby name" iyswim. I too avoided questions and people would often mishear and say "Oh Alexander, how lovely and traditional!" and I didn't correct them but now I say it and spell it out if they don't get it. Who cares what others think but if you genuinely have gone off it or feel really uncomfortable then change it.
We gave Xander, Oliver as his middle name just incase he hates it!

There is a teenage boy on Home and Away called Xavier (Zay-vier) or Zayv for short so I'm sure it will be popular pretty soon

I love Xavier and I think it goes really well with Sebastian too.

If you don't like it then names can be changed easily.

It's a lovely name, don't change it! If it makes you feel any better my DS has a perfectly usual name and all we ever get is 'oh, that's very religious isn't it?' Xavier isn't a name that one often comes across and people feel threatened by the unfamiliar so they probably don't know what to say. Have confidence in your choice, it's a good one.

Xavier is totally fab and cool. Don't worry. Don't change it! There are very few names which are as good.

No I do still like it and pronounce it the French way as my father is French. It just when people ask they just looked puzzled and say nothing. Then they ask what DS's name is and say oh that's lovely. Not sure I've even heard some of our family repeat it!
But all comments have made me feel better thanks.

Maybe you just need to get used to it. I found it quite awkward, telling people what the names of my children were, like I was shouting to the world "this is me!!!! This is what I like, and my taste is slightly off-centre!!!!" Which is really silly, but all part of the pressure of choosing a name for another human being, I think.

Give it a little while. It is a lovely name, unusual without being strange, and easy to spell if you have half a brain.

dont change it
my ds is 15 months and i still wince when i tell strangers but i have winced with many of my boys and it does end!!

i LOVE my boys names but being different means i know people wont respond as they do with Thomas etc

the upside is a minority of people will gush!

I think Xavier is a gorgeous name... if you are French. I know several Xaviers or François-Xaviers and it's fine and quite normal (though quite Catholic-posh) here in France.

However, if you are an English family living in England, I fear that I think it is a bit OTT/poncy and hence not cool at all. If I were you I would change it before it's too late.

A chum of mine has a little boy with this name and it usually gets shortened to Zavvy, which suits him just fine, and doesn't seem pretentious or odd at all.

it is NOT ott!

I live in Yorkshire and know 3!

although not 'Zavs' - 'Havs'