ever since forever, dh and i wanted to name a dd M. But when I was 37 weeks and we were looking for boy names I found the name A for a girl, and thought, that's it. dh liked the name but tbh we were so wound up about boys' names we didn't really have a proper convo about it.
When they asked us in hospital, dh said, you tell them, and I said A, so A she has been fpr 5 weeks now.
But from 1 week on I have intermittently thought she should've been M, mostly when i am stupidly tired (as now!). Partly I don't like that A seems to be more common than i thought. Partly it suddenly seems to me that A's are blonde, which dd never will be, amd M's are dark. Partly i feel i cheated dh out of using his fave name at last.
soon as i began worrying I talked to him about it and he said we could tack M on as a second middle name, so then we could use it if we wanted. but I don't see that we would. If she was going to be called M which is no shorter and sounds similar to A, rhen why nit just name her M?
dh thought after 1 week it;d be too weird to say we'd changed our minds and part of me agrees. but part of me has a weird superstitious conviction that Names Matter and it's important to get it right. how do i do that when my brain is fried? wwyd?