oh, crap. think we've guven dd the wrong name. or poss just sleep-deprived fretting....

[phdlife]

ever since forever, dh and i wanted to name a dd M. But when I was 37 weeks and we were looking for boy names I found the name A for a girl, and thought, that's it. dh liked the name but tbh we were so wound up about boys' names we didn't really have a proper convo about it.

When they asked us in hospital, dh said, you tell them, and I said A, so A she has been fpr 5 weeks now.

But from 1 week on I have intermittently thought she should've been M, mostly when i am stupidly tired (as now!). Partly I don't like that A seems to be more common than i thought. Partly it suddenly seems to me that A's are blonde, which dd never will be, amd M's are dark. Partly i feel i cheated dh out of using his fave name at last.

soon as i began worrying I talked to him about it and he said we could tack M on as a second middle name, so then we could use it if we wanted. but I don't see that we would. If she was going to be called M which is no shorter and sounds similar to A, rhen why nit just name her M?

dh thought after 1 week it;d be too weird to say we'd changed our minds and part of me agrees. but part of me has a weird superstitious conviction that Names Matter and it's important to get it right. how do i do that when my brain is fried? wwyd?

I went through the same sort of thing, Except DH didn't want to change his name. At all.

I wanted him to be his middle name but DH didn't like it as a first name and I was so panicked about having given him the "wrong" name and him having to go through life with the "wrong" name just because of me.

In the end we compromised and changed his middle name to one that DH would have been completely happy with him calling himself if he ever did realise his crazy assed Mother had given him the "wrong" name. it meant i had to give up the name i loved as a middle name but in a way i think that was good. Am going to get a goldfish and name it that.

Phew.

I know its slightly different to your situation but I had to add it! If i were you and you both love the other name then don't worry about anyone else - its stil such early days that I really don't think it matters. Just do what you and your DH think is best for you....

Good luck

well, in the end we changed to the name we/ I always wanted for our DD, and I dont' regret it. We kept the original name as an extra middle name and although it starts with a different initial it has very similar letters so her full name is now a bit of a jumble and not what i would originally have planned. But DH was not keen to change so that was the compromise. DS is still so confused he mainly calls her 'scrappy' (not either name BTW) but DH has adapted and I am really pleased that i called her the name i always wanted as i'll probably never have another daughter and it is just too good a name for a goldfish (she never looked like teh name i always wanted but somehow i don't think this actually mattered in the end).
Try not to stress too much (I lost hours of sleep over it!)

dd took a long time to settle into her name. I think mainly because we had been so sure we would have another boy that we had spent the last few months thinking abut boys names (we couldn't find another one we really liked) and really hadn't considered girls at all. So she was a real surprise, and having had a fairly unpleasant birth experience and not being very in tune didn't help. dd has the girls name we picked when I was pregnant with ds, so when asked the name was all ready to go. We played with other names for a while and none of them seemed right either. After a while it just settled, and now she is eight I can't imagine her being called anything else.

Oh and dd had a shock of black hair and really dark eyes as a baby, before going blonde and blue eyed as a toddler and now she is honey blonde/brown and green eyed. They don't necessarily stay the same!