All the names I like don't go with my stupid partner's surname!!!!

[louisejohnson87]

I have always hated my partner's surname! And I dread the day we get married and I take on his name.

The real problem is that all the names that I love just sound silly when put with his surname.

Has anyone else had this problem? What should I do, I am kind of set on the names that I love.

stick with your own surname?

I hear you - I did take my husband's surname, but there are names that are definitely OUT because of it. Just the way it goes I'm afraid

Double barrell yours and his?

My friend's dp's surname is Pett she uses her own name for her dc!

He would be SOOOOO upset if I didn't take his name, and to be fair I don't really want my name anymore!!!

But I LOVE the names I had picked out!!!

Are you pregnant? If so, you need to have the name thing sorted out PDQ.

If it's not that urgent, I'd ask him if he was bullied at school and does he want to inflict that on his kids...

Double barrel is a practical solution IF your names go together. Then at least any children have the option of not using Daddy's name when they grow up.

The thing is my partner loves his name, he doesn't see it as a prolem, it's just me who thinks it's bad.

No our surnames wont go together. I think I'm just going to have to learn to live with it.

oh go on. tell us. just put in a few symbols where the vowels are incase he googles himself.

I got married 11 years ago and took my dh's name, and I regret it! Put them together from the beginning is my advice. I bet they go better than you think they will

I think it's absolutely the way to go. Why should women be the ones to lose their names! When you create a marriage it seems like a nice thing to create a new name together as well

are you prepared to give the names, so we can say what we think - as margot says put some stars in or something so it won't show up as a name?

My DH's surname isn't bad but it has ruled out a number of name choices... including my favourite. Our surname is (almost) Cornwell (changed it slightly). This is the worst combination I came up with):

Carmel Cornwell!!!

My fave girls name is Isabelle - sounds dreadful, as do Adele, Stella, Elle, Ella, Annabel, etc...

Also although my name starts with a hard C, I wouldn't name a child with the same: I dont' think Cerys, Courtney, Kelly, Kerry etc sound good with it either!

Having said that, there are plenty of names that go just fine.

Ah yes have been there. DH and I have an odd surname, we now regret not double barelling it with mine (would have worked well) but toolate now (really it is, ds1 has my maiden name as middle name)

Certainly many names were ruled out for reasons of gross cruelty.

His anme BTW (as widely known here anyway) is Peach. The names Iliked were Patrick,James, Amber, Summer, Scarlett (always the one I had planned,Scarlett).

I did find names I liked (helped by only having boys TBH) but it was a bit of a shame also.

He won't care if I slag off his name!!

It's Mann.

I just hate the idea of being Mrs Mann! and Johnson-Mann or Mann-Johnson just don't go at all!

My top boy's name are:

Harper
Lane
Luca

I just think they sound stupid with Mann as a surname, although we both really like all three of them.

hmm, I think Mann is crying out to be one half of a double barrelled sur name tbh. It's a bit, what? too blah and short.

There are worse sur names though!

Johnson Mann or Mann Johnson though?

IMO, you need a LONG name with a sur name like Mann. Preferably no Ns or Ms

Dominic Mann
Barnaby Mann
Gregory Mann
Zachary Mann
Frederick Mann
Isabel Mann
Juliet Mann
Beatrice Mann
Elizabeth Mann

blimey, girl, you got no problems compared to me!

and IMHO, Luca Johnson-Mann sounds VERY nice, quite posh, no problem at all - go for it!

Lane and Harper I'm afraid I can't allow

I like Luca and as a Harper Lee fan I like Harper, but not Lane

Mann-Johnson is fine BTW

Johnson Mann sounds better

I think both double barrelling sounds bad, don't think my partner would be up for it anyway!

Combine the two - Manson? (Or is that too Marilyn/Charles?)

Yeah not liking that one too much!!!!

I really do not get this. You don't like his name. You've got a perfectly good name of your own. Why in hell's name are you considering a re-brand????

I can never understand why otherwise completely sane women do this, usually claiming that they 'want the whole family to have the same name' or something equally weird.

I suppose I am a traditionalist at heart when it comes to marriage. It's what you should do!!!

Also I don't really have anything to do with my Dad's family (parents got divorced when I was 5) so don't know the point in holding onto a useless family connection.

It's just that the longer we are together (6 years so far) and the more we talk about marriage and babies the more I don't think his surname is right!

Mrs Mann just sounds weird to me!

I think you have backed yourself into a corner. If you really do think that this is 'what you should do' - although plenty of us don't, even those of us who have got married - then you've got to, don't you, as your Wifely Duty.

You do, however, have some perfectly good options.

Pick a new surname between you then. What about either of your mother's names? Agree, it's mad to change your name to name you don't like

I don't see a problem with Mann. Perfectly good surnmae. Goes with most names.