anyone known by their middle name?

[dizzydixies]

does it annoy you?

I only ask as we are considering giving dc3 the same as our two dds which is proper first name and two middle names BUT the name we would want to call her by (if a girl not an issue for a boy) would be her middle name

for example

Suzannah Ray Beatrice Surname (all made up names not what we're considering)

and using Ray for everyday use?

reason behind it is that the middle name, which we both love, is considered more of a boys name and we don't want her to have to explain herself on forms etc and the first two have very girly names so this would give her an option of changing to that if she hated it

does it make sense or am I over thinking it all?!?!?

my mum has a 'family' first name [all the females got it, poor things] and all are known by their second name. IYSWIM

Mum mum is and always has been. Its never been a problem. On bank accounts an things it says B Bob Bobette as opposed tot he normal Bob B Bobette.

I am. It's a bit of a pain in the arse, tbh - feel like I should use my "proper" name for forms, etc, but then don't necessarily answer to my name properly, and if asked, starting say "Habbi.. " and then remember that it's Neutromium Habbibu or somesuch, and so I look like I'm not sure of my own name. Have cheerfully berated my parents for many many years.

because am a chicken jules - plain and simple

sil goes by her middle name, refuses to even acknowledge it isn't her proper name and dh only answers to his first name at home with his parents and to everyone else he is known by the name he was given by the uni rugby team - luckily its not dickhead or anything like that

I go by a diminutive of my middle name through choice. I just decided I preferred it when I was about 13.
What is the name you want to use? If you want to call your daughter that, then that makes more sense. Using a middle name will just give her a different set of explanations to give for forms and the suchlike.

DH is known by his middle name, so is his dad and was his grandad. Traditionally first born boys were called John X so they were all known as X (different names). TBH it's a pain in the arse and, had dd been a ds the tradition would have ended, trust me! Luckily I have so far been spared fighting that battle 'cos I'm not having it

My dh, dad and brother are all known by their middle names (dh - by 2nd half of ridiculous continental double-barrelled first name inssited on by his father).

Never caused any of them any probs.

Personally I don't know dizzy tough one but at the end of the day it's waht works for you

I know a friend gave her DD a unisex name for eg Charli but it was not Charlotte shortened it was Charli and she gets fed up saying "she's a girl"

good point kitty maybe I should be asking who's dd has got a name more traditionally associated with a boy and is that a PITA

i am known by middle name and it is pain when anything official is concerned. you get called by 1st name and it takes a min to realise it is you they are calling. my own mother once said on the phone that someone had got a wrong no when they asked for me by 1st name!!

My husband and his brother are both known by their middle names. He agrees with all the problems MummyAnnabella described, and neither us or dh's brother have done this to our dcs!

It's quite common in our family, my cousin, Aunt and Uncle are all known by their middle names. Not caused any problems as far as I know.

My Dad has always been known by his middle name. Don't know why. Might be because his first name was the masculine version of his mum's name so it might cause confusion. Also had a friend at school who did the same.

I was known by my middle name when I was a kid.

Hated it.

When I started school, my parents neglected to mention that I was known by my middle name, so they thought I was deaf or ignorant because I kept ignoring them. I just didn't realise they were talking to me!

When I was 13 I decided to be known by my first name. My family still call me by my middle name though, which gets confusing and a bit daft when I introduce new friends to them.

Of course, if they hadn't have made up the middle name and given me a name that others had actually heard of, I may not have had quite so many problems

Aunt known by her middle name because she has always hated her first name.

Nephew known by his middle name which was always intended to be his 'known' name, but his parents decided the 2 names flowed together better in reverse order IYSWIM.

Why don't you call her Rachel and shorten it to "Ray" as a nickname?

I'm known by my middle name and it was deliberate. the run of my names sounded better with my first name in the middle iykwim
It's never caused any problems but interestingly due to some sort of error I got 2 pps numbers. one with my first name and one with my middle. So if I was a dishonest sort I could claim benefit off one and work with the other.
When we had the divorce referendum (Ireland) I got 2 votes

My dad is known by his middle name. And was since the day he was born (which has always made me wonder why his mom never just named him his middle name ).

My niece is known by her middle name - my brother (her dad) wasn't even sure how to spell her first name when applying for a passport as they never use it!

They just explained to the school that she is known by her middle name and as far as I know have had no problems.

My DS is known by his middle name since the day we named him. DP wouldn't have them the other way round as it reminded him of some "smelly bloke from school" the only time its really annoying is when he goes for his hospital appointments, we've explained many a time that he's known by his middle name but I think they choose to ignore us as his known / middle name is welsh, his 1st name is too but easier to pronounce and the hopspital is England ... its quite common for a lot of people here to be known by their middle names though.

IMHO - Don't do it!

I'm called by my middle name, as are 3 of my 4 siblings and we've all hated it. Annything official and it has to record your first name, go to hospital, they call you by someone else's name.
I'd love to get rid of it!!

Not me, but know others who are.

My uncle and nana both are. And so is a good friend of mine. Always seems really weird when she has to use her real first name, and when I had to book a holiday in her real name.