anyone known by their middle name?

[dizzydixies]

does it annoy you?

I only ask as we are considering giving dc3 the same as our two dds which is proper first name and two middle names BUT the name we would want to call her by (if a girl not an issue for a boy) would be her middle name

for example

Suzannah Ray Beatrice Surname (all made up names not what we're considering)

and using Ray for everyday use?

reason behind it is that the middle name, which we both love, is considered more of a boys name and we don't want her to have to explain herself on forms etc and the first two have very girly names so this would give her an option of changing to that if she hated it

does it make sense or am I over thinking it all?!?!?

I am and I hate it. It took us 2 years to find a bank account that would accept cheques made out to my 'known' name and surname, which is most of them, as I get a lot of cheques from music.

Every time I go to the doctor, the dentist, anywhere with any official records I am called by my given first name.

Any interview begins with 'Now, XYZ' - erm, actually, I'm called ABC - which always gets things off to a bad start.

Don't do it!!!

Should point out, the banks spent a good year telling us the only solution was to change my name by deed poll.

My father has always been known by his middle name because his parents were concerned that the name they gave him was a bit unusual so they added a more normal name. He doesn't appear to find it a problem, but he is of a generation that expects to be known as "Mr..." My mother did complain that she found it annoying when picking up his prescriptions etc, but I'm not quite sure why. All his official stuff uses both names, and he signs with both initials.

My mam and her mam are known by her middle name, but her dad was known by the name of Bob, but none of his offical names are Bob.

To answer to OP, yes, and yes.

My first name is the same as my mothers. It took my family a couple of weeks to realise it was really confusing to have 2 people with the same name in one family , by which timemy name had already been registered.

I hate giving my official name when I go to the doctors or dentists, and the midwife called me by my mothers name all through my labour with DS2, which was frankly just weird.

He bothers still call her by her middle name, but nobody else does.

My cousin Dave, because his first name is Dorian

My brother is.
His name is the same as my Dad's.
Robert Scott, but we call my brother Scott.

FIL is known by his middle name. I think it might be because he shares the same first name as his dad.

My mum is known by her middle name. My gran did it because she liked the middle name better but it started with the first initial of my aunt's name and she didn't want the post confused later on . However, my mum uses her first name for anything official but her middle name for friends, family, work etc.

It's do-able but confusing!

My new SIL is. I think she finds it a bit of a pain TBH. Is useful for weeding out cold callers and the like, but for example, at her wedding, the registrar said Anna Jane XXXX. When actually she is Jane XXX with Anna as the middle name (assumed names there). Just felt kind of weird.

My new SIL is. I think she finds it a bit of a pain TBH. Is useful for weeding out cold callers and the like, but for example, at her wedding, the registrar said Anna Jane XXXX. When actually she is Jane XXX with Anna as the middle name (assumed names there). Just felt kind of weird.

Gets a bit confusing when they strat school - my friends loittle boy was distraught when he had no peg of course he did only with his first name not his known name!!!!

Just a bit of a palava really - boys names for girls great just go for it!

My nans first name was Catherine but she didnt like it so was called after her second name which was Rose.

Call her the name you like as a first name.

I'm known by my middle name and it's a PITA really. There's still a lot of explaining to do on forms! More than if I had a boyish name TBH. I have to remember to remind people that, if they're booking plane tickets they have to book them in my first name for example and every single year at school I had to explain to every single new teacher I was known by my middle name.

Oh yes, as someone else said, cheques are a nightmare.

Both my IL's are known by their middle names

FIL because there were a few boys in his class at school with the same name so some got called by their middle name and in his case it stuck. He is now widely known by the diminutive of his middle name.

MIL because she hates her first name

I have to say I have no idea if either of them have any problems because of it, I think they just take it in their stride if they are addressed by their first names.

Nothing wrong with Catherine, it's a good solid name

Ds is known by his middle name - he has the same daft first name as his dad, grandad, and 7 other first son on a first son.... No problems except when he went on a school trip abroad, his mates found out his first name and have been hilariously using it since.... DD1 spent last year insisting her PE teacher called her by her full set of names, just to be annoying.

I would assume that if you use your middle name it is because you hate the first name that your parents chose for you

The name I am called is a nickname for my middle name. It is a bit of a pain over here in the UK (I am American). But, I did it to myself so can't complain. My first name is a common girl's name and got tired of always having the same name as three other people in the room. I still use my first name for things like doctors appointments and bank accounts, etc. So I have to remember which one to give. The other day I was on the phone making an appointment and she asked my name, and I said "Sue I mean Jane". I'm sure she thought I was smoking something.

My Mum is known by her middle name. Has been ever since she was a kid because she hated her first name.

All of her banking, official post etc is all addressed to her using Ms Middle Surname.

Although weirdly, I think her passport and driving licence have her full birth name.

My FIL. His dad insisted on him being given the family name, but his mum picked his middle name and called him by that. It stuck.

Haven't read the whole thread, but I'm known by my middle name, always have been, and it's fine as long as you don't mind answering to your first name when bank/passport office/council calls you up.

In fact it's quite useful like that. Also I have to remember whether I'm registered with the doctor by my first or second name because I forget ...

And you always have to remember to book flights in your first name so that it matches your passport.

Otherwise it's easy

Oh yes, it is useful to weed out pesky sales callers. If they ask for "my first name" I know to say, "She's not here"

DH and DS are both known by their middle names and have never been called by their first names.

For both they were always intended to be known by their middle names-for DH all his family have a Catholic (English) name as their official first name but then an African name which they are known by. For DS it is because his name is a short version of another name (dd named him and we didn't like the long version) and he has a 'proper' name as his official first name to give him the choice and so people take him seriously (my mums words)later on in life.

It isn't annoying but I do find I have to think twice when filling in forms or listen carefully at the doctors (esp as they can't pronounce our surname either).