Should I mention my concern about this twin name pairing?

[Ellentelss]

Hey,

Looking for a little bit of advice, my DD is expecting twin girls, she has incidentally revealed their chosen names to me, and I’m a little worried that while individually the names are lovely, together they sound a bit “showgirl” or similar.
The names are Lola and Roxy. She lives in France but I can’t imagine the connotations are much better there. She didn’t tell me directly but she was on FaceTime showing me some things they’ve bought and there were a few personalised pieces with these names.

Should I mention it or just bite my tongue?

Lola and Roxy -I would assume they are either strippers or prostitutes.

I found this on the Internet:
The 25 Most Popular Stripper Stage Names in the Industry Today:
#1 Diamond Gemstone, Luxury, resilience, and brilliance. The ultimate classic.
#2 Lola Retro / Classic often associated with a vivacious, seductive character.

Both Roxy and Lola are on on a different website:
https://101kgb.iheart.com/content/females-girls-strippers-dancers-stage-names/

Heavens, I thought it was going to be Fred and Rose or something. Those names are fine and perfectly ordinary.

Are they having middle "sensible" names as well? So they have an option in later life? I do wish people would stop naming babies like pet puppies, they have to use these names all their life! But do tell her about Lolo meaning boobs.....🥺

I do agree that time is of the essence here. I already know that, if my DD and SiL have a daughter, she will be given an old family name. It's very pretty, and comes from the American side of the family, where there is no link to the elderly, northern, slightly grotesque female comedian that I remember from years gone by!

I shall say absolutely nothing 🤐

My 15 yo DS absolutely loves the Kinks and finds that song hilarious

I love both names, I definitely wouldn’t say anything.

It’s literally a letter difference, and not a million miles away at all.

I would hold my tongue and not say a word to your DD.

I read the names and honestly thought, they both sound like, strong female, non wallflower, very cool and sassy names. 💃

Maybe have a think of some nicknames? I personally like Lola Boo and Roxy Pops. ❤️

@Ellentelss

Those names would be fine in France.

You had your say when you named your own daughter. Allow her that right. She may be your child but her children aren't. She could call them Shakira Sunshine and Raindrop Moonbeam if she wishes to. It's nobody else's business, and certainly not yours.

They’re lovely names and this is none of your business.

I never spat my coffee out when I read Fred and Rose 😆 ☕️ 🤣

Or play that song “Lola she was a showgirl” all the time in her presence or sing it ….my parents did something similar with my eldests original choice of name had they been the opposite sex and it soon put me off 🤣

Don’t say this

I've never met a dog called Roxy but know more than one human one (grown-ups not kids).

I'd keep out. They're fine names.

Besides they'll end up being called Lolly and Rocks or something anyway.

From one grandmother to another…..

Think of this as a positive, you have time to get used to the idea of the names rather than walking in to meet them after they are born to be told their names and your facial expression is WTAF as mine was when my grandchild was born.

My grandchild is now 5, I love my grandchild to bits but if I’m honest still not a fan of the name.

No child is going to bully a child born in 2026 with the lyrics from a kinks song charting in 1970

There's nothing wrong with the names, they're just not to your personal taste. Which is why you shouldn't say anything.

They are the names a friend of mine named their fussy lapdogs exactly because they sound like a pair of showgirls.

I'd be more concerned that the names sound like a matched pair more than the names themselves. But what are you going to do? My MIL flipped when she heard one of her daughter's child's name. The name did not change. The insuing flight did not help the relationship. Roll your eyes in private and if you really can't stomach it once they are here come up with some great nicknames lol.

They're both awful on their own.

They are absolutely fine. Standard names and not “showgirl” at all. There’s two Lola’s and three Roxy’s in my son’s preschool. I know of a few others, too.

They might not be to your taste, but they’re perfectly fine names.

They’re gorgeous names. Not everyone wants to give their child a name like Persephone or Margot.
Lola is a really old name, originally short for Dolores. Very popular without being common.
Roxy is cool. Due a revival. It’s got the same vibe as edie, love it.

Names can’t please everyone and thats life, some names that are overwhelmingly popular I can’t imagine giving a child of my own because I don’t like the sound, my kids names have been mentioned on these threads before as chavvy. I’d personally rather my kids names be chavvy but names I adored as opposed to Catherine or Olivia just because they’re neutral enough for MN to not have an opinion.

Don’t ruin DD’s gorgeous name choices just because you’d rather they were named something different. My family and DH’s have always disliked our name choices. They named their kids the most boring crap names. Leave my chavvy names alone 😂