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Name regret

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BirdieLots · 07/10/2025 12:36

I am suffering from huge name regret. Baby is 6 weeks old.
I'm worried that if we change the name, we will be met with judgement from friends and family.
I really regret not using the name I always thought I would have, I feel like I made a silly decision in the midst of post partum hormones, and DH also vetoed the name this time around as felt it was getting too popular. At the time I agreed, but now baby is here I only feel baby is that name and not the one we used.

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rainingsnoring · 12/11/2025 20:43

I thought this was a new thread @BirdieLots. It's a shame he has blocked you for so many weeks. I hope he can see that he isn't being fair. Good luck.

BunnyRuddington · 13/11/2025 07:38

BirdieLots · 12/11/2025 20:24

Agreed, he has agreed that we can change it but very reluctantly and has made it v clear he doesn't really want to. Which puts me in a difficult position bc I feel like it will cause resentment down the line. He has since made it clear that he doesn't really want to from the initial discussion. Baby is close to 11 wks now so I guess time is getting on. I'd hoped I'd feel better about it but I just don't

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Has he said why he is reluctant? Is he worried about what people will say?

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BirdieLots · 13/11/2025 08:25

BunnyRuddington · 13/11/2025 07:38

Has he said why he is reluctant? Is he worried about what people will say?

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Yes, thinks it's weird as nobody does it. Also doesn't feel negatively towards the name like I do

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user1492757084 · 13/11/2025 09:56

The sooner it's changed, the better.
Could you add the first name in front of her other two current names?

No one will bat an eyelid and you will forget about the anguish of the change after some years.

Have her Christened and provide a photo with full name to all family and friends on the invitation.

BunnyRuddington · 13/11/2025 18:12

BirdieLots · 13/11/2025 08:25

Yes, thinks it's weird as nobody does it. Also doesn't feel negatively towards the name like I do

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Well you might get the odd comment if you do change the name but honestly, most people won’t bat an eyelid.

The comments toh might get aren’t worth bothering about, I mean, what kind of person would be mean to new parents about their choice of name for their LO. We, my “D”M but that’s a whole other thread…Grin

If your DH likes the current name, how does he feel about the new name?

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BirdieLots · 15/11/2025 21:24

BunnyRuddington · 13/11/2025 18:12

Well you might get the odd comment if you do change the name but honestly, most people won’t bat an eyelid.

The comments toh might get aren’t worth bothering about, I mean, what kind of person would be mean to new parents about their choice of name for their LO. We, my “D”M but that’s a whole other thread…Grin

If your DH likes the current name, how does he feel about the new name?

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Yeah I don't think people will bat an eyelid really. On my side, I have the support of everybody, family, friends. DH likes the new name, so its not one he really doesn't like.

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BirdieLots · 15/11/2025 21:27

user1492757084 · 13/11/2025 09:56

The sooner it's changed, the better.
Could you add the first name in front of her other two current names?

No one will bat an eyelid and you will forget about the anguish of the change after some years.

Have her Christened and provide a photo with full name to all family and friends on the invitation.

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Yea, would keep her current name and move it to middle if we did change it.

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