Gutted local baby group owner and used my baby’s name

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I know this is irrational. I don’t own a name. Just seen a local baby group (which I took mine to) announced their new arrival and they have my baby’s name. A name I’ve not made up, spelt properly but never met one of and isn’t particularly popular and hasn’t ever been. I think maybe around top 250 and not higher. Midwives saying how nice and never had one before, and the women who registered the birth! I’m really gutted, can’t help but irrationally think if I’d not gone maybe their child would be called something different. Hope the child is at a different school as they’ll just be in the same school year. I hated that I was one of loads of “my name” at school.

tried to edit as obviously the title is illegible

also I guess I am worried with the popularity of the classes will there be a local spike in this names popularity

I gave my DC more uncommon names. I’d never met someone with DD1’s name before but had read it in books and knew it was a legitimate name. We gave her the slightly less common spelling. She went to preschool with another child with the same name, same spelling. There was a child the year above her at primary with the same name, same spelling. She’s going to Secondary in September and has a child in her tutor group with the same name, same spelling. All different children. 🤷‍♀️ I was hoping she’d never need to be known by “First Name + Initial” but here we are.

Just see it as a compliment that they also liked the name. Everyone knows you used it first and won’t think anything of it.

My name is very unusual. Not deliberately, but my folks had reasons, unrelated to how rare it was.

I hated being the only one at school etc My own DC (teens) have top 30ish names and really are not bothered about having another one in their form or football team etc.

It’s probably a name that is slowly bubbling up, rather than a name that was going to remain very rare. My mum found what she thought was a fairly unusual name for me, until she was sitting in the baby clinic and there were two other kids with the same name., it became very popular.

I feel like we have to guess the name now

Is it..

Giles.. and they call him Miles…

Fabian or Lucian.. they call him Sebastian

Josiah.. and they call him Joshua

I remember thinking my DD’s name was pretty uncommon. Then I began baby groups, nursery, school, etc, and realised that it wasn’t as unisual as I had thought.
I just hadn’t been in the company of young children and didn’t know what was “in”.

Chances are, you will come across this name,
too.

You need to get over yourself. You are bing ridiculous

When my DS was a newborn, I took him along to some classes my hv team were running. They were for first time expectant mothers who needed a little extra support for various reasons and DS was used as a guinea pig to show them how to bath, change, feed, wind etc. They also had the opportunity to ask me questions about birth at the local hospital and breastfeeding and so on. There were 7 pregnant women there. Two of them called their babies the same name as DS. Might be coincidence but DS is named after a Ninja Turtle/Artist/Angel and his name is not so common.

I found it interesting/mildly amusing.

Bobert but they call him Robert?

Agree and the OP must've heard the name she used from somewhere unless she made it up

Now I have honestly heard everything. OP you are being very unreasonable.

Bear, Wolf, Tiger and Ian is quite the sibling set.

I was one of 6/7 of the same name growing up so I choose a name that creeped to like 80ish but dropped out of the top 100 again. we live very rurally now so everything is very small, went to nursery of 12 there was another girl with the same name. I wasn’t bothered because I expect her to meet others with the same name, just hoped she will never be one of 6/7 in a class with the same name, like I suspect many Isabelle/isobel/belle/isabella/izzy’s will! 3 women in my old office within 6 months of each other and within the same department all called their kids Isabelle, Izibella and Isabella 🤦‍♀️

On the flip side we intentionally used more well known “classic” names and DC1 is the top 20 for the year and 1 of 3 in the class (although they use diminutives) and DC2 is about 175, bit gutted as it was a toss up between this and a top 20 name and didn’t think to check the list.

Not much you can do. Your baby has a name you love that's all that matters. They will probably never cross paths and you can tell your kid that their name was so cool other mothers couldn't help but be inspired. I do think this is probably a common thing. Hordes of pregnant women up and down the country searching for unique names, wanting one that feels special and different, eavesdropping, feeling one step ahead of other women, but because others are doing this independently, they end up choosing the same names. I remember when my pregnant friend had Frankie and Diana on her list, we looked through a bunch of baby name TikToks for inspo and within the first few vids of "unique girl name" Frankie and Diana popped up. My suggestion to friends is choose a name you like and will continue to like no matter how popular it gets.

Phoebe or Phoebo ?!