The name Ruben

[Chocolatkitcat]

Opinions on the name Ruben for a boy.
We also like Rowan and Harris

I like Reuben - I’d spell it this way as it’s the most commonly used spelling so reduces confusion.

Rowan and Harris are good names too.

You could but why would you spell it some unique way?
You could say that about any name yet people do sometimes use a unique spelling…. Doesn’t make it incorrect
Reuben or Ruben are the usual ones.
I know a Rouban, might not be ‘the usual ones’ but it’s still correct
Rubin is pronounced slightly differently
It’s not
Rubén and Rouban would be pronounced differently
Yes because people who use Rubén tend to be in a different location

No you couldn’t spell a table any way you like because it is an object, you identify the object by the name it’s given so in your example a table is a table. A name is a social identifier and personal to each person so they can spell it however they like

I haven’t said I like or dislike the spellings of any names 🤷‍♀️ I just gave an opinion the fact I don’t believe names can be spelt wrong so I’m not sure why you need to make a targeted comment like that. Like you said, what I thought was my opinion and you had yours yet you go act like that and try make fun of mine

I like them all pretty equally. None of them are personal favourites of mine, but I don't dislike any of them. At a push, I probably prefer Rowan.

Spelling Reuben this way will make life easier for him, unless you have a particular reason for choosing the Ruben spelling.

I prefer Harry to Harris, but much prefer Harris to Harrison.

@Coconutter24 , the ben and bin bits sound differently (unless you have something like a NZ accent).

Rubén has the stress on the last syllable, so the location is irrelevant.

You can spell a name however you like but people will form an opinion based on the spelling.

Reuben is as Jewish a forename as Cohen is a surname. Is this your heritage, @op? Would this matter to you?

They don’t sound any different the Ben and bin part when I’ve heard people pronounce them in real like, so I’ve just listened to the pronunciation online and they are the same.

‘You can spell a name however you like but people will form an opinion based on the spelling.’

Im sure I’ve said a name can be spelt however anyone wants it to meaning there’s no incorrect way which you’ve just confirmed! People forming an opinion on a name spelling doesn’t make it incorrect

I know of at least 3 Reubens none of whom have any Jewish heritage. One even an Evangelical Christian.I think your comment implies a negative about the name being in the Old Testament of the Bible. Your comment is distasteful at best and offensive at worst.

Please explain why you think my comment was ‘distasteful at best or offensive at worse’, as you did not give a reason for saying this.

I consider your comment to be antisemitic and I have reported it to the moderators for consideration.

Good for you. Perhaps while you are here, you could explain what’s ‘antisemitic’ about it, because you still haven’t explained and I would like to know.

Did you report the comment further upthread, which suggested Haris is a name from an Islamic tradition?

I like it but there are a lot of them, along with similar names like Roman and Rowan

If you do use I’d spell it Reuben or it will be endlessly misspelt which will be annoying for him

Another that associates it with sandwiches

It’s as Christian as it is Jewish (the Old Testament being part of the bible) and is currently incredibly popular with all sorts of people so it no longer has strong religious connotations, anymore than Jacob or Isaac do.

I love Reuben and Rowan

The only Reuben I know is a complete thug who goes hare coursing. 😡

Harris is my favourite, but I would saw Rowan is used more for a girl.

Although there’s different spelling, if you spell it Ruben, you’ll spend your life saying ‘’Reuben without the E at the beginning’ .

I like Reuben but not the other too.

Love Rueben, it was a nickname of one of mine who is Robert.

I've not seen it spelled "Ruben" but I do like the name "Reuben" - though it does make me think of Reuben and Seth Starkadder in Cold Comfort Farm.

Also like "Rufus" and "Isaac".

Yes, perhaps I’m showing my age here.

i was thinking of an estate agent I once worked with in North London whose name placed him in a Jewish tradition (initials ML but I won’t say the name incase I’m accused of antisemitism).

He was often greeted like a long-lost brother (by other men in his line of woek, which extended beyond EAgency) with friendly conversation about his place of worship and his choice of school for his kids.

It didn’t annoy him but he said it became slightly awkward having to explain so often that he wasn’t a member of that community.

I personally think that a choice of name can place a person within a community’s naming tradition, and that’s fine - but at least don’t be oblivious to it. The example I gave above was 27 years ago, though.

Reuben is one of the few names that I think is awful.