Baby boy name dilemma

[Babyboynames]

I’m expecting a baby boy in a couple of weeks. My husband and I cannot agree on a name!

I prefer Lucas and my husband prefers Finlay. What do you think about either name? And if you’ve been in a similar position what have you done to make a decision?

I really like both names. How do they flow with your surname and do the initials spell anything odd? FUC for example.

I can't think of anything negative. I guess that Finlay 'might' be spelt incorrectly more often than Lucas such as Finley/Finnly but that is all that comes to mind. Congrats.

I prefer Finley as I have one .

i decided against the Finlay spelling as people prounounce it wrong and empathise the Lay when the pronunciation is still Ley

as my son has got older gets called Finn a lot which I love

I like both
Your surname might be the decider for me eg

Lucas Lawson - NO

Lucas Andrew's - Fine

Finley Foster - No

Finley Jones - Fine

There are a few Finlay/Finleys per room in my child’s nursery right now, in case that matters to you.

I much prefer Finn. Lucas can give Luke or Luca, both of which are nice names too.

Both are good names. I personally prefer Finley as I love Finn for short. Luca / Lucas is very popular round here.

Could you compromise by whoever doesn’t their choice of first name chooses the middle name? Or is there another name you can find that you both like equally?

Thank you for the comments everyone!

to answer a few questions:

baby’s surname will start with a G, middle name will be Theodore. Both names work well with either name. Initials would be either FTG or LTG, neither comes up as having a strange meaning.

I think I also prefer Finley to Finlay, but my husband is adamant it has to be an a.

Your update changed everything (for me). - absolutely love Theodore

H'll end up being Fin(n) or Luke. Finn and Luke are both fine, but would need to go with the surname. Both are far nicer than Finlay and Lucas etc.

Finley is by far the more common spelling, so Finlay will spend a lot of time getting his name misspelt.
Luca and Lucas will get mixed up and both are popular.

I don't like Theodore at all.

Babies with names beginning Finl in England & Wales since 1996
Babies called Luca in England & Wales since 1996

I much prefer Lucas. There's something about Finley I just don't like, think it's the ley bit, it just sounds juvenile. I like Finn though and Fintan and Finnian.

I like them both, Finn was runner up on my boys list.

My friends boys are finley (Finn/Finny) oldest and lucas! Flipped a coin lol but had fingers crossed 2nd child would beca boy as couldnt decide but it depended on middle names at the time what fitted best

I like both. I prefer Lucas as a stand alone name, but love Fin(n) as a short form of Finlay.

I prefer the Finlay spelling. It's a shame Finley has now overtaken it as the 'usual' spelling as this never use to be the case.

Can you both live with each other's choice? You just say you both 'prefer' your choice, so I assume that means you also quite like the other one's favourite to be considering them both? If either of you really wasn't keen on one, that would make the other name the obvious choice. If you do genuinely like them both but just slightly prefer a different one to each other, I'd wait until he's born and see which one feels more right for him.

My own personal preference is for Lucas as it feels a bit more classic - Finley/Finlay is part of the Surname trend as well as having spelling issues.

BUT I think if neither of you can agree then it might be back to the drawing board to find a name you both like (even if it’s neither of your favourites).

Both perfectly good names. Can you wait until baby is born to see what suits him?

I know you didn’t ask for suggestions, but similar names include:
Callum
Lewis
Daniel
Caleb
Ellis
Elliott
Liam
Reuben
Ryan

Both are nice names.
Finlay Theodore G sounds better to me.

Do you like Flynn Theodore G?

A lot of people pronounce "th" as "f" these days i.e. Finn is how they say "thin". So I wouldn't pair it with a surname that's a noun - say Finn Gardener or Finn Graves.

Finley Feodore
Fin Guy
Fin Gates
Fin George

Lucas - Look as. e,g, Look as Gordon passes the ball

Agree with your DH on the spelling, can't stand the name Lucas so my vote goes for Finlay.

This is exactly why my husband prefers Finlay! And we would most likely be using Finn on a day to day basis.

We both like both names, so it is just a preference and at the moment we are planning to just wait and see what suits baby. I’m just worried we would still stick with our own favourite haha but no harm done as I think they both are lovely names!

Many names in this list that are on our big shortlist! You’ve caught onto something! :-)

That’s amazing! They must be along similar lines! I also really like both names, so we might end up flipping a coin as well!

Is Finn not an option? It's perfectly acceptable as a name in it's own right. I actually prefer it to Finlay. Finlay is lovely on a little bit but Finn suits all ages.

We had a similar dilemma with our son - 2 names we both liked and struggled to decide. When he was born he just suited one of the names - I would wait until you meet him and decide
Good luck!

Both parents happy lol

Not keen on either as not my taste but both ok but think Lucas gets my vote