Should I call my daughter Aoibhín in England?

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Will my daughter hate me for calling her a name no one can pronounce?

I love it 😻

I've just read "should i call my daughter GHWQJKBCD".

Rude!!

Obnoxious! But of course it's against Irish so it doesn't matter 🤬

No. It’s not about what you like or want. It’s about you child and their entire life! The fact you’re asking answers you own question.
It’s not that you’re wrong. It’s just not right

What about Clodagh or Laoise?

Forget to say they have the a sound at the end of the name!

This was my first guess A-hoy- bin and kids can be really cruel when it comes to names.

@gavisconismyfriend Welsh has sounds that don't occur in English, many of the names aren't a case of correcting someone once. Some of the fairly straightforward ones get mis-stressed. I'm not sure if the Irish sounds all have English equivalents. Saoirse might get said as Sersha or See-uh-sha.

Why would you choose to burden your child with this? The number of times she’ll have to spell it, correct people’s pronunciation, have to listen to people misread it, have it written down incorrectly and generally just have to explain details about her name will be draining in no time and will continue throughout her whole life in the UK.

Be kind to her and find something people can at least recognise.

Beautiful bame abd go for it if you love it.

People can learn how to say unfamiliar names.

Why are people being so rude and horrible? I see Persephone being suggested as a lovely name for a baby on here all the time yet I had to look up the spelling of it and have no idea how to pronounce it and think it looks horrible too! And it’s not even an English name it’s Greek!

It’s a bit weird that people are insisting that where your parents were born is more important than where you were born as for as deciding your “home nation”.

What happens if your parents are born in different home countries? Are you stateless??!?!

There is no consistent test for each “home nationess”. You would be eligible to represent either England (your country of birth) or Scotland (parent’s country of birth) at the Commonwealth games if you wished (and could get selected). If you had a grandad born in Wales then you might be eligible to represent Wales as well depending on the sport.😂

This is something that we are quite interested in as a family as Dh and I have (complicated) links to several of the home nations and have a child who competes at top level of sport. Dh and I met competing at top level of a different sport. Dd’s eligibility to represent the various home nations is different (less!) with the sport she competes at with than if we had pushed her into the sport we met doing. (What I am saying is that a (eg) Scottish grandad means that she is eligible to represent Scotland at (eg) hockey but not (eg) netball! As each sport can define its own eligibility and netball is more pure about Scottishness than hockey,)

She will constantly have to correct people and spell it if she lives outside of Ireland. That is what you are choosing for her.

Absolutely not. I have sent my whole life having to explain how to pronounce my name and people still don't always remember. Its even more annoying explaining it to people you will never meet sgain. It just makes things very awkward and annoying for all involved

Go for Sadhbh

Not a good idea

Spelling it Aiveen is a good idea. It's an easy name to pronounce, but not an easy name to translate from a language that uses the alphabet differently, unless you're familiar with that language.

Awful idea. Like doing Emma and Emily, Louise and Louisa, Kara and Karen....

It’s a lovely name but I suspect your DD and you will spend your lives correcting people on how to pronounce it and how to spell it if you stay in London / England. It also sounds quite similar to your existing DD name and could lead to confusion. Perhaps use it as a middle name and then when your DD is older she can choose if she wants to use it.

There will be stupid people everywhere. It's not the duty of parents to try to accommodate them.

And even if they try, there's no guarantee that the very stupid won't get a name like Jane, Ann, Elizabeth, Mary, etc wrong.

Please do not do the spelling Aiveen.

I would've considered London fairly multicultiral so I find it hard to stomach some of the rude comments here about not using it because people can't pronounce it. They will learn.

I do think as others have said its a little too similar sounding to Aoife.

Hilarious...

Why not listen to the people here whose parents burdened them with names that are seldom pronounced correctly by English speakers?

It's not fun going through life having to constantly correct people. In fact many such thoughtlessly named children change their names when they reach adulthood.

English speakers unable to speak Gaelic are in the majority and no, they're not "stupid".

It is the duty of parents to accommodate their kids by giving them names that can be easily pronounced phonetically in English, if they're living in an English-speaking country.

The names themselves don't have to be "English", they just have to be spelt as they would be pronounced in English. If they're not, and they're not widely known names, the child will face a lifetime of having to correct people - for which they can only blame their own stupid parents.