What do you do if you can’t find a name?

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I've spent a lot of time on baby name websites, talking to DH and thinking about names but I CANNOT find one single bloody name that I’d like to call my DD (due in a few weeks). I have one DD and knew what name I wanted straight away (not a childhood dream name, it just came to me as soon as I found out I was pregnant) but I haven’t seen one name I would want to call this DD. I don’t know if it’s because it’ll be my last dc for sure or DH’s lack of suggestion (although we have different ideas of what is a ‘nice’ name!) but I seriously can’t see anything I like. What do I do? I have seen a few names that are nice enough, they’re okay but I wish I could find a name that I love as much as I loved DD 1’s name, I feel bad that hers just came to me and I loved it so much but I can’t find anything I like for this DD I’ve scrolled every ‘Top 1000 girl names’ but I still can’t find anything I don’t have anything sentimental that I feel the need to call her (neither does DH).

I love floral names (DH doesn’t but DD1 is a flower name), it needs to have an I in the name. Willow and Emily are examples of names I like but not enough to make me think that it’s the one. The only name I really liked is Rosie but DH doesn’t like it.

Oh and I like the name Ophelia but DH vetoed that too.

Why does it need an 'i'?
How about Rosina?

@S0j0urn4rI just find names with I in them very pleasant 😅

There’s an app called Kinder that is basically Tinder for baby names. You both download it and swipe yes or no on the names and then you get a list of any you’ve both said yes to. Just try and be open minded! Whatever you end up choosing, you will love once she is here because it will be hers. You don’t need to make a decision until she’s here anyway, just try and have a shortlist.

Think of your favourite people. Do you like their names?
Do you like the names of any rivers?

Thinking cap on ..

Floella
Lilac
Alizee
Ellen
Mary-Ellen
Rosalind
Camilla
Lilou
Clotilde
Chloe
Dahlia
Adele
Kathleen
Alice - some Liliums, Rhododendrons and Roses with Alice in their name
Alanna
Giselle
Isobel

Hope you find what you are looking for.

Lily, Holly, Violet?

What about Rosalie... Similar to Rosie and has a 'l'.

I really feel for you naming a baby can be surprisingly emotional, especially when you had such a clear, confident choice the first time. It makes total sense that you'd want to love this name just as much, especially with it being your last. And when your partner isn’t vibing with your style, that just adds more pressure.

Since you like floral names and names with an “I” in them.
• Iris
• Violet
• Liliana
• Marigold
• Elodie
• Briony
• Sylvie
• Mirabel

Some of those might feel like a middle ground between you and your DH’s styles too.
Also, Rosie is such a sweet, warm name maybe he'd consider it as a nickname for Rose, Rosalie, or Primrose?
Wishing you all the best and congratulations.

Out of interest, do you have an L in your name? I’ve noticed people like names that sound like theirs, like y or ie or an s or l sound.

my suggestion is Flora or Alora

We had exactly the same issue. DC2 name we knew immediately but DC1 wasn't named until 4 weeks old. My nephew had his name changed at 6 months as 'it didn't feel right'.

For DS1 both DH and I went through a name book. All the ones that weren't a 'no' from either of us went on a long list. We did this through the whole pregnancy.

Occasionally a name would come to us out of the blue and would get added to the list. We had about 30-40 names by 7 months.

About once a week we would go over the list and have a cull in a 'this one or this one' way. By the time DC was born we had a short list of 5. None seems right for him so tried calling him each of them and quickly decided yes/no based on that.

You’re really overthinking it. You don’t have to love your child’s name. We compromised on both of our children’s names, and both names totally suit our children.

I know people who have changed the baby’s name within the 1st 6 weeks as the 1st choice wasn’t right after all.

Call her Junior until she's old enough to choose her own name.

Or wait until she's born and maybe the name will just click when you see her.

Or go for a triple barrelled name like Milly-Molly-Mandy to give yourself options.

We had a name all through pregnancy but still considered alternatives - we both done a shortlist and then whittled out the ones we really didn't like from each others but we HAD to leave some in. In the end when she was born we didn't think the name we had chosen or those from the shortlist suited her so she wasn't named until she was 3 days old about an hour before I left hospital - we just picked a name that had vaguely been mentioned in passing. It's a nice name that she loves herself which is good (I've never liked my own name).

If he won't make any suggestions himself then he shouldn't get a veto either!

If you are unsure, stick to traditional.

Go through a list of Jane Austen characters. There will be at least one you both like.

You will love her name because it’s hers once she’s here. I had a similar thing with my two daughters - DD1 had my all time favourite name, but I could only think of two or three names that we both vaguely liked for dd2. In the end we had those three names as options when she was born and named her when we met her. One of the midwives asked if we had a name for her and one of the names just popped into my head without much thought and that was it! I can’t imagine her as anything else now and love her name as much as her sisters because it’s hers 😊

Is it an "i" or "L" that the name must have?

Maybe Rosalind or Rosaline (Rosie for short)?

The best thing is probably if you have a shortlist of 3-4 names and decide when she’s here what suits her best

Sorry that I wasn’t clear, it’s the letter i I mean!

Thank you for your the suggestions, I really appreciate it ☺️

Cordelia
Rosa

Valentine
Valentina
Violette

Thalia
Saffron

Sienna
Juliet
Emilia
Willow

Sunny / sunnie
Meadow

Any that your husband liked OP ?

Elizabeth, with the plant Busy Lizzie as her nickname.
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